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Asian: Woman with much love in heart for husband. Kind, family most important, work hard and have gentle heart. want only be happy with happy husband in much loving arms and build good home and life.

American: I want a man who knows how to treat a woman. No dead beats.I like four wheeling and things like skateboarding,surfing, and shopping. I am a woman who won't take games. If you are into games. Go screw yourself.

Asian American: If you would stop calling us girls you might stand a better chance of attracting one.....etc.....



Sounds like it is easy to be swayed one direction as the other. Might be something to learn here for both sexes.

Well I like asian women for their soft hearts and strength through adversity...
I also like american women for the same reasons...
But then I do not segregate and all women have various strengths and weakness's..just like men..

We are all not enemies..just fellow victims in a difficult mixed up world.

Men and women should learn from this......other people don't want to be bond to harsh people.

You don't make friends by calling them jackasses and low lifes. Or getting one then picking them to pieces.

I get amaze at how many couples bitch at each other in public and alone.

I know a man who is a damn good fellow in all respects, his wife is a hellion, he is putting up with a lot to try to be a father to his children. But he skakes from nerves and looks over his shoulder all the time. If it was not for the children, he would put that bitch in her place.

There are many women that are in the same situation.

So why do men get attracked to other women from some other countries and from outside the marriage. DUH!

I knew an Asian Girl once......



























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So.... you're asking if men prefer submissive/subservient women??

Of course they do!!! Where have you been, Len??!

Some do! But I am not talking about submissive or subservient. Why do women jump from one extreme to the other. There is a whole lot of middle ground. The part I am talking about is a common respect and natural affection of the other person. I do not wish to tell how much my wife or girl friend leaves clothes on the floor. That would make her look bad in the eyes of others. I would not talk about her vagina being bigger than I like. PEOPLE DO THESE THINGS! THEY HAVE NO RESPECT OR LOVE FOR THEIR SPOUSE. Women tear their men down in front of others and men do the same. Each loving themselves more than the one they say they love. What happened to the old thing of a woman accidently pooting and a man taking the blame to help her keep her respect in the eyes of others out of love. I think their is no love except the love of self left these days on the large part. There are a few who know the difference here.

I lived with a Asian woman once she was from Singapore........and she was Chinese.....they are rasied from birth to respect men and how they should be treated............or at least this one she told me. Unfortunatly tho we was only together for 3 mnths her visa ran out and she had to go back home. Very beautiful woman and a heart made of gold.

I agree, about respect and love!! And any problems should be discussed privately, not put out there to hurt your partner. Luckily my ex's and I both respected each other enough to not treat each other that way. Even my verbally abusive husband didn't do it in public , but then maybe that was to make hisself look good to everyone else.
Good thread!!

May I submit a request for an Asian guy?

No family, just want a man all to myself. He must have outside attractions, my apartment is small. I like time to myself. I cook, but kitchen is small. If you can teach me Asian cooking and supply a wok, I'll chop.

Much love to above, right after they kiss my ass!

I think Western men are interested in 'Asian' women because they believe they will be more passive and cooperative...easier to get along with, not so individualistic, etc. That these women have more of a group or family approach to life than Western women. So it is easier...less controversy, easier for the man to have his own way, etc. If this is the type of mate you want, fine.... I would not be interested in a man who thought in a traditionally non-modern day Western way because I am not a traditionalist....which means women being essentially second class....I am only interested in a man who sees me and wants me as a complete equal....it can be more difficult, but the rewards can be much deeper and richer.....

Some men, maybe. I really DISLIKE subservient women! In the kitchen, bedroom, or in public! I like a woman who stands her ground, but is not afraid to say when she is wrong, but won't back down just to make things right!


Luv ya Rose!!

too funny.

you crack me up.

Many men may be looking for a weak wife. I want a woman to be equal. But I don't need a boss and she does not either. The problem is that two are working as two seperate. The two should be working together to make their lives better and the childrens life better. Too many men want woman to serve them and the women want the men to serve them. I amit there are many men that need someone to guide them like children and the same is so for some women. I don't want a weak woman, I do want a strong woman, but not one who thinks she should rule. I want a wife that is equal and we together use sound logic to create a better life. Niether shaming the other in public or private. I don't think I will ever find a woman that won't bitch and try to control alone. I will not have that! I will not try to rule alone, I am a giving person....but I will not let her take....I can't give if another takes. Many women are full of self centered activities....and only have use for the man's service or money. Many Asian women from poor areas desire a better life, but also want to have a family, to love and be loved working side by side even in the fields with her husband for the family. They have in them a natural affection and love for a spouse who will treat them equal with love and respect.

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Is damned good man! (And smarter than he usually likes to admit!)

'Morning Len!

I continue to stand in awe of you!


...Don...

Not trying to argue, but debate.....

Have you been to Asia? Have you known intimately Asian people, Asian women? Much of what you say here is stereotyping. May I describe my experience of Asia and Asian women?

I made a friend of an Asian woman when I was at university. We went to China together to visit her family. She and her husband were studying in the States. He stayed behind. I knew both of them in the States and was able to observe their relationship. I also knew her intimately and observed her as an individual, as well as meeting and spending time, in China, with her mother, mother in law, sister inlaw, etc. and talking to her extensively about her culture and her position as a woman in her culture. What I learned is that Asian women are not unassertive; in fact, they are the rulers of the household, they have just learned how to do it in a backhanded way. They adhere to the outward mores of their culture in that they appear to be subservient to the man and the man has the last say. However, this is seldom true because they have learned to be master manipulators---in a good way--I'm not saying this is bad, but that they have learned to manage things in the family as well as Western women. The difference is that they have to do it through the back door rather than openly. It is actually rather sad, and they appear to be rather harsh because of it...manipulation is not as nice as straighforwardness. I should also say she is not the only Asian woman I have been very close to; my best friend in the States is a Japanese American and my best friend in Germany is a Vietnamese French woman married to a German. I tend to get along with Asian women very well--which would be ironic because I myself am so independent and assertive, if they were not so. But they are, just not openly.

The poor women of Asia who look for husbands in the West are willing to be subservient in order to have a better life economically...and they hope to have a bit more freedom and possibly be treated better because of the culture....however, they do not come to this situation as equals....I have no respect for men who search in Asia for a wife...I believe they are looking for someone who will 'give no trouble.'

To assume that all Western women are harpies because they are strong and independent is incorrect thinking, I believe. In the end, people are individuals, some are aggressive and harsh, some are not...

There is to much of generalization eitherways.

ermm if i may say .. Asian women includes not just Oriental but Indian , Bangladeshi , Pakistani , China .. a whole lot of countries and to say they are not assertive or assertive in a backhanded manner.. i dont think thats right.

Theres a huge cultural difference as well as wrt religion .. so if its inbuilt in your society or system to be respectful of the man .. that doesnt amount to being submissive or less assertive. But then again , things are changing rapidly and its not the same everywhere anymore.

I woul rather agree to one thing that women from Asia .. yes are more cooperative in certain aspects due to the cultural influence while western lands have entered the " developed " stage and have crossed the stage of liberalisation for women and hence equality.

Somehow either ways the comparison or generalisation makes me uneasy. End of the day , its very individualistic.

Certainly Chinese women are their own women, their own culture...but my exerience was w/o exception them telling me they managed things w/o upsetting their husbands and without offending any of the cultural mores, but that they did have their way of managing things. Chinese women I met were working class or middle class, not the very poor. These women had no desire whatsoever to give up their culture to marry a Westerner....In America and other Western cultures, looking for an Asian wife is a big business...The women are usually poor and looking for more economic security...the Western men are looking for women who are easier to handle....I've seen it over and over again...as far as I know, it is not applicable to India or Pakistan, has to do primarily with women from the Philopines...but Western men seem to think in stereotypical terms about all Asian women...and I believe they think incorrectly...I have also seen where they bring Asian women to the West, marry them, and when the women adpat to more Western behavior, there is violence and in some cases worse....

GOOD GRIEF !!

I hope its really not true. But why ??