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I can promise you that Dr. Phil doesn't fit into that category.

Well if he got cheese were She said, how would you know??? good to meet ya....and to think about it , head cheese should be taken off the market or a name change or something....

also try and get rid of the mickey mouse ears

Yes, Mickey Mouse Ears, or the blonde wig I donned at a party after having too many drinks and proceeded to do Karaoki with the rest of the drunks. Not an attractive thing to do, believe me.

Goodnight everyone. Thanks for your advice and your help. You've all been great.

Also try local search, goodnight.

Agreed.. sounds like a complete creep!!!... makes me sick to think how many people he may have slept with as well..

I don't know if you seen the show but this guy says that he goes into a bar and trys to get as many numbers as he can, to save time if he thinks he wont get the number he will walk away while the girl is talking to him and go on to his next victim...and lots of girls fall for this

Hey Gem, if you really want some advice, I'll tell ya a couple things...

As far as your profile goes, you should get a few more pics up, no girl just wants to see one pic of someone and nothing else about them... remember a pic's worth a thousand words.

Another thing is when you start talking to them, girls can smell desperate a million miles away, and nothing turns them off more than that.... be yourself but also leave a little mystery to who you are, girls love that, but not creepy, they hate that and it'll send em running.

Third, remember girls are kinda fickle in their tastes, they say one thing and want another, and even then most of the time they don't know what they want, or if they even wanted it in the first place.


And finally you seem like an generally nice guy, yeah there's the problem, "nice guys finish last" as the saying goes, they want to have the fun guy and finally after they burn all their bridges they go after the nice guy to settle down with, but even then it get dull for them, you see women are a complicated creature, they not only have a time and place for everything, they must time it all perfectly or something's wrong...

It's really hard for any of us to really get across to them that our cheesyness is who we usually are, and I'm not saying that there are a lot, and I mean a lot, of lame guys out there ruining it for us with them before we even meet them, making them more on guard and on edge when they do come in contact with a normal, a typical guy that they are looking for. You have to be able to connect with them without dropping too many lines at first, and one thing for sure you can't let them walk all over you, they hate, and I mean hate a doormat guy, nothing turns them off more than a milksop, and a broke joke, these things will leave ya dateless everytime.

If you take a girl out, regardless if you're going to see her again or not, treat the date like you've been going out with her forever, and that no matter what the two of you will be together forever, it will allow you to ease up and not be so nervous. Another thing when you go out on a date don't be a wallflower, just sitting there and letting them do all the interaction, they will feel like they are dragging it out of ya, but don't just talk about yourself either, do a 50/50 thing, give them some time and then you tell something about yourself. Also tell them about things you wouldn't normally tell them about yourself, it will make you seem a bit wild and edgy without going overboard of course, if you do too much they'll just think you're weird, but even then some girls like that, so you gotta feel her out and get a notion of her personality. Finally try to find someone that is close to your personality and what you value, if you're going for the "good girl" high morals and values, you should be the same way, not just an act to get to first, second or third base with her, cause if you do that you're doomed to fail or end up very unhappy. Also try to find someone around your same pay range and same education, just a tip to help with the comfort level you'll be facing.

On an final note, I'll just say something about age, I know may people say it ain't nothing but a number, but trust me, if you go for too young or too old it will mess ya up, trust me on this been on both ends of that spectrum and it sucks! Here's a good rule of thumb, you take a span of 10 years, five years older or five years younger is about right, and things should be pretty even keel. Well hope that helps some thats about all I feel like saying right now, if you want more I'll start charging, lol. Take care and good luck and hunting.

Don't hold back...say how you really feel!!

pshhhhhh.........i haven't had a date in over a year. perhaps you should give ME some advice seeing as how it's only 3 months for you

This sound stupid but consider it. Buy a book or two on selling products as a door to door or floor sales person. Brian Tracy, Zig Ziglar....etc. Then sell your product.....which is you.

There are many books on flirting, body language and dating.

Sounds dumb but learn some real good Magic tricks.....cards work good. You shot cards from one hand to the other and do soe fancy cuts. You will have friends real quick. learn a trick or two as mental tricks to get phone numbers. After the trick is done ask if you can keep the number and call......works!

Don't be shy and don't let it bother you if you get rejected a lot. There is an old story.:

A man asked each woman on the bus for sex. The man next to him said "Don't you get slapped a lot." He replied"Yes I do, But I get a lot of sex too."

"Date who you will....choose careful who you marry!"

try becoming more interactive in your daily life with the people around you .... find things, hobbies and things you really enjoy doing. and do them.
You would be surprised what can develop with others when you meet someone who enjoys the same things.

being needy rarely works in the long run.

As someone else mentioned don't always go for the home run.sometimes sharing pleasant conversation for ten or fifteen minutes can open doors later down the road.

Sounds like you try to hard and don't relax enough, be your self, honest and a gentleman....this helps, don't come across as if you are desperate or boring coz that will make any woman run......
All the best....

I disagree with this. It's a little hard to handle from someone you barely know. A woman doesn't want someone simply assuming that you have a future together. Thats a bit creepy.


My advise would be to use your wit. I love a funny and witty man!

I disagree with this. It's a little hard to handle from someone you barely know. A woman doesn't want someone simply assuming that you have a future together. Thats a bit creepy.


My advise would be to use your wit. I love a funny and witty man!

Sorry for the double post.

Do not, I repeat, do not take advice from anyone on a dating site (especially one with the name magikballs!), remember they're here for the same reason you are.

Some of what this guy says make a little sense, like staying close to someone in your age and comfort range, but most of it is pure bs. Don't put on an act, be yourself, and you will find the one that's right for you. When you talk to someone, lose the expectations, you'll be a lot more comfortable, and she'll be more comfortable with you. I know it's cliche, but when you stop looking for love, it will find you.

Oh and btw, if you shouldn't take advice from people on date sites I guess that includes her as well, lol. But really, I forgot that girls are not going to like everything I say, cause they don't want it to be so formulated, girls like to be swept off their feet, I don't know if this is true but it could be, I heard once, If you want to get an older gal in bed, make her laugh, if you want to get a young girl in bed, make her blush. Well I stand by my advice, not everyone's going to like it and that's on them, you wanted people's advice and trust me it works for me and I'm not on her for dating, I haven't dated one person off this site, and I'm never short of date choices, trust me, this method works, just be yourself and relax, a lot of the advice I gave I have gotten from women over the years, not just young, both young and old and girls have no problem speaking their minds I've noticed...