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I have been with a man for 6years, never lived together but saw each other everyday. Suddenly there is no work in NJ so he goes back to his home town, Long Island. I have not seen him since Aug 07.
He calls noe and then to say Hi . No valentine card no I love you though he said when we were together. any advice, be honest!

Well all I can say is he seems to only want to be friends from this standpoint. I would leave it as is and move on. He obviously is not making any plans for the future with you in the romantic sense. Maybe I have the wrong impression of the situation, but I don't believe so.

He hasn't made the effort to come and see you and calls once in awhile...Sounds to me like he has either just plain lost interest or he has met someone else to take up his time...Life's too short...obviously you deserve better from someone you have had a 6 year relationship with...I would say end it and find someone who loves you as much as you deserve to be loved!!!!!!!!!

Ask him


Not seen since August is a bit of a long time, any effort to get together?

I think i would move on, we only get one chance at life and happiness, don't waste it .

Okay, i know these lovely ladies are telling you to move on...but until you do..and i am not saying these ladies are wrong..i love them to death..but give him a chance to explain..ask him flat out if anything has change in him about you...if he cannot give you an answer that will ease you..and you think he is holding back something its up to you to move on...but i would find out first b4 shutting the door on you both completely...6 years is a very long time to be together and if you still have feelings for this Man..then you owe urself to really find everything out b4 walking out and closing the door on this relationship...All the best in ur decision and hope that it works out the way you want it to....

I agree with that...It's always nice to have answers....if he's willing to be honest that is and not string her along!!!!!!!!!!


Happy Mother's day doll!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I agree that you need to talk it all out, openly and frankly. If he doesn't want to do that or doesn't give answers that make you feel comfortable and satisfied, I'd say move on too. It really does look like things have changed for him--someone who loves you would make much over effort than you are describing--August! That's almost a year. Why are you being so patient?

HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY TO YOU..I LOVE YOU

yes i agree but she needs to ask him instead of waiting...If she is Worried then she needs to get his full attention and talk it out...If he is not willing then i think she knows what the next step she must take...I wish her all the best..It will be a hard road to take again

I Love you too doll....Have a great day!!!!!!!!!!!!

the biggest communication stumbling block in a relationship seems to be talking. Be up front and ask. wish you the best. From a former N.J. resident!!

something isnt right where you live and where he does doesnt seem that far from each other..why havent you or him make the jump to see each other..am only thinking 3 or so hours away and havent seen each other since 07?????

What kind of relationship did you have for 6 years of seeing each other every day?

How come it went no further, usually people make commitments etc after a certain period of time.

6 years is a long time to just be seeing each other.

I don't get it, it's a puzzle

Actions do speak louder than words, even talking to him wouldn't do much good without actions backing it. Judging from what you've said of his actions, it looks like he's moved on. You could talk to him about it, and maybe try to understand, but it's pretty clear.


jmo

I didn't like N.J and I'm happier at home...

It's really not me folk's,just me being myself,, But bridger I hope it work's out the best it can for you...

Forget him. It's the old "maybe if I move and don't see her she'll take the hint" ploy. A man's lips cannot form the words "I'm not interested."

p.s. sounds like the guy I knew in NJ LOL

You haven't seen him since august??
How far a part are you??

new jersey--long island, a few hours drive, depends on where in NJ