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Ladies and gents...how would you help someone like me, who is tired of short flings and cannot break free of wanting the "perfect match" for themselves???
*this is probably gonna be my last post for awhile(the search begins), so gimme some tips plz!!

Stop wanting for the perfect match....Expectations of perfectionism usually dooms a lot of potential relationships...

Are you perfect Lucky? If not, what makes you think the "perfect"woman would want you?

yeah tell me about it...im doomed with this curse....and stopping is easier said than done, ask any "hopeless romantic"

I have learned to stop looking for perfect and just enjoy life. Now I am alot happier!

NO...perfect MATCH, personality-wise and interests, physical apperance is not on the top of my "list"(best word i can think of)

It's cool. It is perfectly normal for wanting the perfect match at your age. If you are still single when you are 35, you will know what I am talking about. It's not worth chasing the that does not exist....but damn close too perfect is not all that bad. Roll with the one you love...it can't be sunny everyday with a perfect breeze...so just expect that.

You can only control your half, respect the other half and cherish what you have when you find somebody. Just don't try and change any lovely woman so she can fit into your picture of a perfect girlfriend.

i am enjoying life....i just want a more deepening relationship/ 's to come my way, without me scrambling out when things get to lovey-dovy;

-It usually starts with me realizing that this person might not work out for me....and most the time, i find something that goes against my values in that person....help meh

Well thats the way it works , and you are luckily seeing what won't work ahead of time, keep listening to yourself , sooner or later, a good one for you will come around.

....i'll try that....this is the last sound advice b4 i will try my luck and have some fun during the summer... later C.S. people...good luck!!

When you're ready, she'll show up. Sounds like you're not there yet, no use trying to force the issue till you are. JMO, I don't know you from Adam's housecat, so I could be wrong!

I was gonna write something long but this should do it

This is the hardest part about relationships and seeking the one we want to share our lives with. If we simply wait to find the woman who matches, 100%, the mental image we have of the so-called 'perfect' woman, which is subjective, of course. You will never find her, ever. However, I believe, compromising your beliefs, standards, convictions, et cetera is not something one should do either. What it comes down to, which is subjective also, is finding the 'right' woman. Will she be 'perfect'? No. Will she be make you 'happy' and can you make her 'happy'? This is the important question. You must have a similar vision in where you see your lives going. You must have similar faith, where faith exists. You must have similar if not identical ethics and standards. You need to be patient and communicative with one another. If you have these lined up, then things like passion will fall in line, I believe.

Maybe there ISN'T someone for everyone? Maybe, some people ARE meant to be alone forever?


get a dog...... they are always happy to see you when you come home, no matter what

Take a walk in the park with your new dog, meet a girl walking her dog. Perfect match. Next?

It isn't that there is merely only 'one' person meant for everybody. Such romanticisms are a falsehood. I, myself, and a romantic at heart. However, it is that we seek someone to be with our whole lives, it certainly is not that there is merely 1:6.5 billion. If so, there would not be so many successful marraiges out there. Your point is taken tough, a good pet can help.

Nothing wrong with being romantic, just don't be hopeless.

.......just go with the flow.

lucky im a hopeless romantic as well, no one would understand what goes through our head unless they were one, they view us as a pathetic person who sits around moping and depressed cause were alone? it has nothing to do with that... we enjoy our life just as much as the next person, party a lil, go out to the beach, water ski what ever it is that u find fun, enjoying time well spent with friends or people u get along with. Its just when it comes to relationships when we find that person you "click" with we want it to be on a deeper lvl, we think deeper, we feel deeper, every aspect of the relationship falls on feelings, just because others have an emotional range of a Teaspoon doesnt mean were any less for wanting more. To feel a deeper connection between the two people. To want to experience and enjoy life not only with fun, but to enjoy life with someone that goes deeper than just "i love you".