i need your advice.!!!!!

alex_192
sarasota USA

Posted: Jul 16, 2008, 10:47 AM CST

Seuss wrote:

I think that it's called simply wanting someone in your life. We sometimes do that, will stay with a man or woman because of our lonliness. Doing this only makes it worse. I understand where she is coming from, and know where you are coming from. I have been thru a lot of unhealthy relationships. I am still learned the hard way.

i prefer to be alone all by myself
than to be lonely in a bad relationship

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livinglarge
kildare, Kildare Ireland

Posted: Jul 16, 2008, 10:58 AM CST

2cuteforu wrote:

i was dateing this guy for 5 months,he told me that befor he was seeing me, he was dateing a married women for 6yrs.he told me that he was over her, but i found love cards she has gave him threw the years,when he would get a phone call, he would hide his phone so i couldnt see who was calling? and would tell me that i need to learn to trust him!!when he would go to work,he wouldnt answer his phone,(mind you that he works for himself!!) he never had a problem talking to me befor? every job he dose is all for women,he says that they are married women and i am tripping for nothing? (why cant there husbands do the work?) my nerves couldnt take anymore.!! i blew him off.!! do you think that i did the right thing? my heart tells me that he has been cheating on me...please give me your advice........

In my opinion , you did the right thing!! Good for u

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CjTenorSax
Atwater, Ohio USA

Posted: Jul 30, 2008, 3:59 PM CST

morganlee wrote:

i don't want to fall out with you, but please explain why you post such generalized statements that just don't apply to all women, then get angry when people ask you about them. This is not an attack on you. Just trying to understand

Thank-you Morgan! I always wondered the same thing.

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CjTenorSax
Atwater, Ohio USA

Posted: Jul 30, 2008, 4:54 PM CST

2cuteforu wrote:

Thank-You..what really got me, was when i found all them cards she has gave him. and why would he save them, inless he is still in love with her? they even took trips together,it was just to much for me to swollow when i found all that stuff.!!

First, you did the right thing to listen to that little voice inside you. You got out of a relationship that could have and most likely would have been bad 4 you, esp. if you did not feel you could trust him.

Now, as for this question. In the future, you will probably meet someone whom you love and he loves you too. Remember we girls are not the only ones who have had special moments in our lives and keep things like letters, mementos, etc. Guys have also. My late husband and I agreed to each have a "PAST Memory Drawer" as well as a "CURRENT Memory Drawer" for our life together. Another friend and her husband had "Memory Trunks". There we kept things from our lives BEFORE we met each other.

These were things that were special to us and that we wanted to share with our children. These experiences, moments,events and times in our lives helped make us into the person(s) we became that made us attractive to each other. I does not mean we were still in love with our exes, it was just part off our lives that helped to form us for our future and our future mates. They were also there to give to our children as INDIVIDUAL history they could see, perhaps things they could look at to learn a difficult life lesson, etc. from.

Look at it like keeping pictures of you at your prom or from your first marriage,etc. The thing to remember is that is the past and there is nothing wrong with taking a stroll down "Memory Lane" once in a while, like with your grand parents, old friends, etc. come over. I never felt threatened when, My late husband or ex-Fiance shared things with me from their past. This usually happened when some one we had not seen in a long time came into town and things eventually turned to remember when, or Cj did J or P ever tell you...., then the pictures etc would come out and we'd all have a good time. It happened with my friends, relatives, as well, Hey J or Gosh P did Cj ever show you or tell you about?..... You get the picture.

There is nothing wrong with keeping parts of ones past around. That was before he (will have) met you. It helped form him into the person you will fall in love with. Just as your past will help form you into the person your future mate will fall in love with. He will have chosen you for his future not the ones he was with but you. My Father was almost 18 yrs older than my Mother. They taught us this and it worked well for them as well as for all of us kids.

The only time you should worry is if the person seems to be attached to or dwell on the past esp. if a good number of years have gone by. But you would be able to tell that. That is different than here. Here the biggest issue is that you could not trust him. If you had been able to trust him,(providing he was not the toad and pond scum he is), you would not have and should not been worried about his old letters,etc.

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SatelliteServer
somewhere, Ontario Canada

Posted: Jul 30, 2008, 8:45 PM CST

I surely would not be dating a guy who is dating a married woman... then again I surely would not date a guy

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jlw45
chandler, Texas USA

Posted: Jul 30, 2008, 8:55 PM CST

2cuteforu wrote:

i was dateing this guy for 5 months,he told me that befor he was seeing me, he was dateing a married women for 6yrs.he told me that he was over her, but i found love cards she has gave him threw the years,when he would get a phone call, he would hide his phone so i couldnt see who was calling? and would tell me that i need to learn to trust him!!when he would go to work,he wouldnt answer his phone,(mind you that he works for himself!!) he never had a problem talking to me befor? every job he dose is all for women,he says that they are married women and i am tripping for nothing? (why cant there husbands do the work?) my nerves couldnt take anymore.!! i blew him off.!! do you think that i did the right thing? my heart tells me that he has been cheating on me...please give me your advice........

...2cute4u, ....you are 2cute4 him....

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zdeadmanwalking
bowling green, Kentucky USA

Posted: Jul 30, 2008, 11:44 PM CST

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cristina
Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands

Posted: Jul 31, 2008, 1:10 AM CST

zdeadmanwalking wrote:

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Moderator, please remove him completely

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friendsfirst
Burbank, Illinois USA

Posted: Jul 31, 2008, 1:25 AM CST

cristina wrote:

Moderator, please remove him completely

4 u dear

And a ..

Howdy tonight Cristina.

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cristina
Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands

Posted: Jul 31, 2008, 1:28 AM CST

friendsfirst wrote:

4 u dear

And a .. Howdy tonight Cristina.

Morning dear, my day is starting! I hope you are enjoying your evening!

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