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here how it goes my ex/best friend told me she got high risk cancer causing HPV virus (STD) from the guy she is with now its not that she is sleepin with him that gets me i dont wanna lose her i was sworn not to tell any one but i need to talk about it but i cant to anyone she knows so here i am

All you can do is be her friend and be there for her to talk to. She must trust you or she would not have told you in the first place so just be there for her.

Last time I checked cancer wasn't contagious. I dont think I'm understanding this

The HPB Virus causes cervical cancer not ans STD

it can be sexually transmitted

Are you afraid of losing her by her dying of cancer?

ok course shes my best friend i would be here if it wasnt for her

what really pisses me off is that the dude told her he was clean

Did he know when he slept with her that he had a disease he could give to her and that it was this high risk?

i dont know she didnt call before going to bed if i would of stepped up and got things together i really dont think it would of happened and feel like shit

What I'm wondering is that if he knew he could give her this disease, why does she stay with him? The man gave her cancer when it could have been prevented? Why would she stay with him?

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first of all im sorry about your friend. HPV is a very common STD most people have and dont even know they do and it goes away. In some cause if not treated in can turn into cancer. There are barely any symptoms and it can stay dorment (sorry horrible speller :) ) for many years. There are many web sites that can tell you more about it.

One of my best friends had it and we were all very scared but we did some research and i can thank god she was fine. Below is some info i found and the link it might help you understand it better.

Just be there for your friend that is all you can do.

HPV infection. Approximately 20 million Americans are currently infected with HPV, and another 6.2 million people become newly infected each year. At least 50% of sexually active men and women acquire genital HPV infection at some point in their lives.

STD Facts - Human papillomavirus (HPV)

she just found out today i dont know what she is doing i dont know if the guy knew or not but most guys are pigs and just wants some booty i dont know the guy but we have been broken up for almost a year and like a month later she told me that she might be into him i guess they have been together for like 7-8 months she started sleeping with him last month thats longer than she wait with me and she was a virgin when we meet and trust me ive done the research she is the most important person in my life there are like 100 different strands of it not sure which she got but if she has HPV 16 and 18 she got like 70% chance of gettin cervical cancer and when i read that 100,000 women die every year from hpv i felt so sick

was she told she had cancer or HPV? There is a very good chance he didnt know. Im not defending him, please dont take it the wrong way. If she doesnt have cancer then it can be treated and she will be fine. Like i showed you in my previous post its very common and there are no symptoms. Did she just go in for a regular pap test?

she went for something and they found abnormal cells and she got the word today she got high risk hpv and let me rephrase bout dude she asked him if he got tested for any std and he said ya after his last gf and said he was clean which if he was then he messed around on her and she is such a good girl she dont deserve none of this it not like she is a whore only the 2nd person she has been with she was with me for 4 years and this guy

as a women who has been to the GYN soooo many times an abnormal cells is very common. There is no test for men for this. So even if he really did get tested for STD there is no test for HPV for men. Unless he had warts on his "area" that is not something they would test for.

A friend a mine was told the same thing and she almost killed her boyfriend that she was with for a few months. And it turned out that he had it from before her. and this was a health nut regular aids test etc.

your friend god willing will be fine. Tell her if she has any questions to speak to her doctor. Like i said before im not defending him but dont jump so fast he probaly didnt know.

it sounds like your a very good friend and she will need support from someone like you. She will have to make that choice on wiether she believes he got it before her and the truth is unless he confesses there is no way of really knowing. Tell her to look online it gives soo much information.

i feel like such a ass at the time were together i lived with my folks and was haveing trouble finding work she left me cause of that after she told me thats why she left i went and got my own place not the greatest but study work and took to long getting my shit together she had developed feeling for the guy i dont think its 100% my fault but i feel somewhat responsible and after she told me she got hpv i asked her if i would got my shit together soon if she would of left she told me she wouldnt have went anywhere

donot blame yourself at all. sometimes it takes something drastic to happen to make people get their shit together. i cannot stress again how common HPV is i bet if you ask 10 women at least 6 will tell you that they have had abnormal cells when going to GYN. If you still have such strong feeling why not try again? and if she is telling you that if you would of gotten your shit together this wouldnot of happened to her then she is trying to put the blame on someone other than him.and you dont need that. You cannot blame yourself for what happens in your exes lives after you have broken up. Shit if that was the case dam my last boyfriend cause if wasnt an ass i wouldnt be on the computer typing right now i would be "busy" LOL
If you truly still love her which it sounds likes tell her and see what happens cause she will NEVER trust him again weither he knew or not.

You can't feel responsible for her actions...she obviously chose at some point to have unprotected sex...It may not have even been this guy that gave it to her...if it can lau dormant for years...hindsight is 20/20....there are no guarantees that even if you would have had your shit together that things would have worked out between you 2 and that she would still not be in the same position...This doesn't mean a death sentence...all it means is they will keep a closer eye on her abnormal cells...BUT it can be sexually transmitted so she needs to think about protecting others from it during sex!!!!!!!!

she has only been with me and him i mean we have had unprotected sex thats cause we were virgins when we meet im not saying that im responsible things could of been different i know its not a death sentence ijust need someone promised her i wouldn't tell anyone feel bad for breaking that promise but i doubt anyone she knows is on here since im sworn not to talk cant talk to anyone around me so here i am and thanks to all