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Has anyone ever thought about past opportunities with the opposite sex (friends, work colleagues etc) that might have lead to something more if only they had made the first move, or were aware of the other persons feelings towards them at the time?

I have and even discussed it with that particular person. I don't dwell on it though. Everything happens for a reason and I'm actually grateful that things went as they did, because I don't believe that we would still be friends or that I would be the person that I am.

Sure... I've thought about that.

I try not to dwell, though. That was then......

think maybe were all a little scared of rejection

trust me...I think about those things all the time. Even some here on CS....because of my lack of confidence, I lost out. One lady in particular, I wish I had been more assertive in pursuing. She is now involved with someone and is happy. But I think I could have made her happy, too.

I'll spend the rest of my life saying I wish I had...but I never will. Oh well....such is life!!






NOW! NO MORE SERIOUS CRAP!!

I was back in Oz a few weeks back, and caught up with a couple of old friends from Uni. At the end of the night, and after a few wines, one of my female friends confessed that back in our Uni days she fancied me, which I was oblivious to at the time.

She was a great gal, and she's married now, and we're still friends.

But just got me thinking.

I think we all had missed opportunities and kept dwelling about it 4 some time.For whatever reasons we didn't make that move being aware of someone's feelings doesn't help in the present.Life goes on.

I always went for it to be honest. I have that baseball player mentality, gotta swing to hit.
Some situations were just flat out inappropriate, like when I got major signals/invites from my friend's girlfriend or mom....even grandma...

Ewwww to the last part of your comment however i do agree with you on the player mentality, go for it the most you will get is a no, and i have only had two in my life but i took the chance, but not with a grandma! you need a spanking stressfree egadds!

I've thought about it but I don't dwell on it. There were reasons it didn't happen and they can't be changed no matter how much you wish it to be.
Different circumstances....those would be different circumstances.

Life goes on.

I think we all have "what if's" about past choices. I try not to dwell on the past. What is....is. What was....was.

No.

OMG YES!!!! I was not only super shy in High school when it came to the guys I was interested in but apparently I was blind as well!!! the smartest, nicest and HOTTEST guy in the entire school (who also happened to be the quarterback on the varsity team) had apparently had a crush on me all year and was having trouble making conversation with me! I though he was just being nice!!!! I look back now... and if I had just talked to him I might have missed some of the larger obsicles I had to contend with later down the road. its all good through... its all a part of what makes me ME!