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Granted ive guess ive been known to be a bit of a serial dater a times
i suppose i get bored try to meet some one new as often as possible ( of course not in a desperate fashion im a lady at all times, unless im extremely angry.) and hope fully ill land in the right arms.
but lately it seems in 2008 men dont seem to be on a relationship tip. although they say they are... i just think its a very individulaistic epedemic going on . Yes we all love love and like affection but i always thought there as almost a way you go about things if you are to ever sort of plant a seed for things to grow.
call me old fashioned! call me romantic! call me crazy !

ill give you an instance perhaps it will help clarify...

i had been chatting online briefly with a local guy finally i agree to meet him for the fist time . It ws awfull late but he seemed so sweet i figured what they hey.. we'll go to i hop no big deal. .....
well,
as im driving there, his directions (even while on the phone with me) were horrible! It seemed like he had a studdering issue or something he just wouldnt spit it out! mean while im driving!
finally i get there we go in house sit in his room.
He tells me he just got off theres clothes all over (like he just stepped out of them). I definitely smell body odor and his pants kept falling down. he turns on the tv with in ten minutes of shootin the shi#t he wants me to like cuddle up and have this "make out session" with him.

I kindly had to explain a good four times how i thought he was sweet and cute but i just got here and rather get to know him more blah blah ablah.....
The simple ass st ..st ..studdering braniac couldnt understand why. he was persistant. by the time i left his ingnorant ass didnt even say bye .
but i guess it my fault....

its my fault he didnt make his wishes known BEFORE I LEFT trust me i wouldve SAVED THE GAS!!!!
i guess its also my fault he drools and cant smell himself.

is that wrong?
is that prude?
yes he was cute and nice but goodness ! i felt he was hasty.
Im encountering more and more hasty men .
Im wondering if i need to change my appraoch.
id appreciate some feed back thoughts experiences. im just curious what others may be experiencing.

You go home with a guy the first time you meet him, what do you think he's gonna expect?

I loved your post.....

Especially that part!

Don't blame yourself though. Women can think up a thousand reasons that they shouldn't get intimate with a guy, or they can think up a thousand reasons why they did. It's up to the guy to decide which category to be in.

JM Smooth Ass O

Hi,
Interesting story but be more cautious next time around. Just to share, I have a girlfriend who spend a lot of time online and met many of them after chatting online but she never got into situation like this!
Guess what? She always suggest to meet the man on Sunday morning, then go to attend church service with the man. Some never go beyond 1st date and she is still hunting for Mr Right.
Good luck to you

"save the gas" ....... pick a restaurant close to where you live ....... meet him there. Anyways pretty crazy to go directly to his house - what were you thinking? Thank goodness nothing bad happened to you because you just never know these days.

If I am meeting somebody for the first time, I would choose neutral ground, a meal or something.

Pretty stupid of you to go to someone's home for the first meeting.....

now u know. Good luck next time around...

Agree

Well, first of all..... he sounds like a slob!! I am also dumbfounded that, as others have pointed out, that you would go to the home of a man you don't know for an initial meeting!!!!

I would never contemplate meeting anywhere other than a public place at first. I did indeed have someone from outside the UK coming to spend the weekend. But because I wouldn't allow him to stay at my home (I made perfectly acceptable arrangements), he called it off. Speaks volumes, doesn't it....... it was simply about sex, not getting to know me and having a good time.

You firstly need to be more selective, by all accounts, plus you need to be safety-conscious.

Good luck to you!!

(BTW.... I am no less dumbfounded that you were on the 'phone to him whilst driving!!).

people people let me elaborate...
for one, he only lived about 20 mins away
secondly did every one miss the part of us going to IHOP?
that was he whole point of us meeting at his house . we were to ride to gether to I HOP in his area in which know nothing about. he asked me to come in and so i did.w e just never mad it to IHOP . i guess again that would be my fault

I thought you meant you liked hopping.





Kidding.

Sounds to me like this guy is one heck of a jerk.. I would let it go with all the rest and move on. Next time you know better.

why would you go to a man's apartment (home) having never met him before??? You are in New Jersey for chrissake!! Haven't you heard of Tony Soprano???

Aside from his hygiens issues, I think he was right to expect more than a chat session from you. of course no meand no. But you certainly sent mixed signalsa by going alone to a strange man's home late at night!!


JMO...of course!!

I wouldn't sweat it...

I mean you tried to be nice, & from what you've told us, you seemed to have been pretty honest and up front with the dude.


You know what you prefer in a partner, and what you do not prefer.



Now, you'll be moving right along, I'm sure.



Good luck to ya...

she said dude




LUSH THAT WAS FUNNNNYY

Its sad your trusting nature was abused in that fashion... on the other hand...seeing what you saw and smelling what you smelt and first impressions....it took 4 times before you left the odoriferous slob.

so by saying odiferous i am incorrect?





wow
i embarrassed





fire-
always good ta see ya!

you must have found my picture elsewhere on the internet

nice to read your thought s too Mindful

hahaha
i had to read that 3 times to get it



youre such a smartypants

im out but give em heck big stuff

Don't think that anyone of us missed the part about you intending to go to IHOP ...... but I think that you are missing the point - don't go to a stranger's house! If the guy is too lazy to get dressed up and go to a restaurant to meet you it doesn't exactly intend that he's too willing to put any effort into a relationship.