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This is very true and there are many books and studies to back up this statement.....I have a few.

Many problems arise over sexual problems that a partner or both partners may experience, and it carries over into the relationship on a conscious or unconscious level according to psychologists....and I know this from experience.
Sexual compatibility is never to be underestimated, of course there are some exceptions....according to some posts in this thread.
I really do strongly feel it's a very important aspect of a relationship...good sex and good relationships going hand in hand is no myth
I can honestly say from experience that a relationship will not solely survive on goodoff the charts great sex alone. My last relationship was a very good one. My ex and I got along all the time, we rarely argued, agreed on many things, and disagreed with respect and understanding. We also had phenomenal sex. It ended because I did not want to have a baby (already have two kids), so I was just not ready for that, especially since we had been together for not even a year and a half.
I know from experience that a discrepancy in views about sexual frequency can create problems. If you cannot settle into a pattern that you are both happy with, then it will be a problem....no matter how good your everyday relationship life is going outside of sex. If you have a strong sex drive, and your partner does not, good luck with all that. It is the same as if you did not like a characteristic in your partner, and just could not manage it because it made you so unhappy...no matter how hard you tried to understand.
If somebody is so much more sexually drastically different than you in the sense that it only puts pressure and creates problems all the time.... why in the fu** should we stay. This whole thing about sex has gone astray. Like we should ignore the significance of it. The people who feel guilty about expressing it or doing it all the time, even with multiple partners, are more often than not influenced by their religion. I remember going to church in high school (my redheaded girlfriend was a Christian), and during Sunday school with the teen age group, there was so much negative talk about sex...how bad it was to fornicate and so on. The preacher would always lecture us about how we should wait until marriage, and if we did not, it was like we were going to hell or something.
I just find it absurd to deny our biological drifts.
There is so much more to post about all the problems that bad sex can create in a relationship....in the beginning or even as we age together through mid-life and into old age.

Excellent, imo.

I dont this I can manage. I love my sex too much

I would spend the rest of my life living with and loving someone
without ANY sex!
I would probably prefer it that way.

I would rather take the time to show love and passion in other ways.
How many of you have ever had someone place their hands, just hovering above your body, not even touching you, and felt the tingling of energy move through you? IT is an awesome experience! I would love to do this with someone, letting love flow ~~~~~
I want to reach out and touch the spirit of the person, much better than the physical and gives so much more meaning to the love experience.

There are many other ways to experience love, than pounding intercourse! Give the hobby horse a break and try something New and Exciting!

I have.Not just hands.Entire body. It really is a delight.
Nice read.
I wasn't going to answer right away.Seems Gilly and Aries and yourself have experienced this other dimension.
It's nice too see.

I would have thought it was pretty obvious that people are not all the same, nor is everyone looking for the same in a relationship.

I think we need to acknowledge on some level, that besides people who put other needs above sex, there are those who do not need / enjoy it, for reasons psychologists and or sexologists would be in a better position than me to outline.

Gilly, I do not think it's really proper to describe these people as pretentious and hypocritical.

It is very interesting to me that many of those who have said "no" are not even (presumably?) able to imagine that there are people with other priorities. This smacks of narrow-mindedness and self-centredness to me.
There!!
You see.... I can call people names too

I hope you will forgive me.
Can't help myself.
You see, I am an AUSSIE too!!! And I too, like to tell it like it is.

And to answer the thread question: YES!!! (resoundingly)

well best of luck to you and your future sex life ( if any ) !

breeze !

People's 'realities' differ I guess... some people know it would go completely against the grain for them to cheat, and some people know that a commited relationships (based on love) has many dimensions (only one of which is love)... now, while I appreciate your 'honesty'.. please don't assume that just because some of us assert that we would not be unfaithful to our partner, that we are somehow 'lying'... we just possess different moral compasses that's all... I have been in long term relationships (not marriage) and I have been faced with all sorts of challenges (within those relationships) including long distance... I know that while I am not perfect or whiter than white, I would just not be comfortable with myself if I were to sleep with someone else while in a relationship... I would much prefer to work on that relationship and talk about whatever challenges we faced... or end it, if there really is no hope

nonsense you want spitiual healing ! you're banned from the thread !

Geez.. since when did decent, honorable, behaviour become something that we have to defend tooth and nail... ... Gilly.. put the shoe on the other foot, if you had a girl, who was not 'satisfied' with you... which would you prefer..

1. work with you to make things work, discuss (if necessary) and remain faithful
2. Hop on the next bloke behind your back (to get her fix) cause you were to small, or too quick, or just plain boring...

Tell me thruthfully (imagining of course that you have feelings for this person) how YOU would feel....

It is not rocket science people... treat others like you would like them to treat you.. be honest.. and appreciate that NONE of us.. (yes EVEN you Gilly) are not perfect, so a relationship... if it is to worth its salt, has to be something which involves GIVE AND TAKE... and MUTUAL commitment...

now you're talking streesfree !

and isn't nice nice to spend the rest of your life in an happy

STRESS FREE RELATIONSHIP !

you have must seen or been through the arguments that couples have when the sex isn't isn't right

ALWAYS PRETENDING THAT THEY'RE ARGUING OVER SOMETHING ELSE !

Nobody's perfect,but I try to LIVE MY LIFE...................NEAR RIGHT.

Well said Aries.

I would not feel comfortable with myself if I cheated again. I did it before, but it was because the man society encouraged me to do it in a sense. I thought it was cool back in the day, but felt like shit afterwards cause I did love my girlfriend back then when I was in my 20's. I just knew it would lead to bad things, and it did.
I don't know why I really did it, I just assumed it was something done here and there back in my teens and younger 20's. Others were doing it, and I have to admit that I was more of a follower back in my teens.
If I had a woman that I loved, and had great sex with, I can assure you that I would never look elsewhere....only fantasize if I saw some hot waitress or something.
I am saying this in all honesty, cheating only creates bad karma for the relationship. I know from experience. I fu**ed it up, and learned that it is not worth to sleep around behind your partner's back. That is just wrong and violates the trust factor.

Is it possible to love two women at the same time? What say you Gilly? Will you ever answer any of my questions?

I don't think that this question is even possible, because if you really are in love with someone you can share everything with them including how to fulfill you sexually .

HI AIRIES01 ! with the upmost respect give and take is not the essence of what we're talking about here

i've been there !..done it and worn the tea shirt love ! both not been happy with the sex with a partner ...AND another partner not happy with the sex with me ! AND TO TALK EVEN DEEPER ..very happy with the sex with a partner ..but after the sex was over had nothing much to say to each other !...why ?..because we had nothing else in common apart from wanting to screw each pther's brains out !



AND I'M MUCH MORE LOYAL THAN PEOPLE MIGHT THINK I AM !




i'm ready to move on to the next issue !

rubbish kitty !