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my bro inlaw# turns up last week at 11pm asks to stay the night which is quite usual for my sister, him and their kids but he is alone.

he # wants me to stay up and have a drink, smoke, chat or just watch tv with him..... nope have work the next day. ok no worries put him up in their usual spot.

Tues he #turns up and leaves the car and heads to pub telling my son if we need to use the car is all good. he# ends up coming over to my other sisters place for our usual tuesday dinner. i leave him # there to visit with other bro inlaw( he# just wants to know that'll i'll make sure there a feed in the fridge for him, if he# gets hungry when he# returns) he# rocks up at 2 am pissed and noisy (am working all week) .

wed he# suppose to go home... still in town (his# car still at our house).

thursday my son rings bro inlaw# had been looking for me to drive him around, he# turns up at a family friends place for her boy b'day party in a cab. he#just wants to know if there will be a feed in my fridge for him# when he rocks up later. He # turns up at 2am and noisy.......

i think he has

1 not respect for others
2 wants others to be at his beck and call (slave) i cant believe that my sis puts up with this

would you put up with it ??

My Answer is no i wouldn't put up with it. Tell him to go home, your place isn't a hotel, and your not the maid/cook/taxi driver either.

JMO

i did that in a note cause i wasnt in the mood and had no time to argue on friday.

told him to wake up to himself...

was feeling a little guilty because of my little sis is all.

People who have the nerve to do such things usually end up successful because the recipient of such actions are caught off guard, don't have experience in responding to such aggression, or (and it's a big or) the people just can't stand to hurt them. I was asking opinions on a person like this in my own thread. Some people can go on and on like this and not be challenged. It's very hard.

Leave him another note eplaining that you're flattered by all the attention he's been giving you lately, but that you feel the need to remind him that he married your sister, not you and that, if she won't take care of him or he can't take care of himself, he is more than welcome to "attempt an extended elevated aerial fornication at a laterally moving, circular locomoted, wheel shaped pastry!"

(If he doesn't like it, tell him to take a flying f*ck at a rolling doughnut!)

Your sister puts up with it and seems so are you honey. Just tell him freeloaders are not welcome and I certainly would not have that sort of encouragement around my son.
Remember some people have no respect and others enable certain behavior. Don't ever play the victim sweety you and your kid/s deserve better, family or not! A simple NO.

Can you explain the flattery part to me? how are his actions flattery?

If he doesn't like it, tell him to take a flying f*ck at a rolling doughnut - sounds bloody good!!!!

As usual, Don has a perfect answer!

Lock the doors

Don't answer the phone

If he tries to break in or makes a lot of noise, call the police.



He'll get the hint and find another person to bother.

Id ask him very politely if he likes sex and travel.
Im sure his answer would be yes,
Id then tell him.................. F**K OFF THEN.

hahahaha!

Well i hope my note got thru to his think head...

i just felt funny cause i dont want to upset the applecart (so to speak) and i have already been through the not talking to my sis for 2 yrs because of him. so i am very cautious when it comes to making any trouble without chatting to her first.

i gather general its ok to tell anyone that their behaviour isnt acceptable it they are doing the right thing by others.

ty

but to do that to a brother inlaw ?

sounds like keeping it short and sweet

couldn't have put it better myself,

I think the best thing to do is sit and talk with your wife and tell her that you want this to come to a stop and tell her that you are gonna be honest with him and tell him what he is allowed to do and what he is not allowed to do in your home, talk with you wife and let her know what you are gonna say, so she can see if it fits her and what she would like to do with the situation and agree on it .............then let him know


Randal

Sounds to me like he is taking your kindness as a weakness,and thats a BIG no-no.

The direct approach is needed with him it looks like to me,...take him by the hand and lead him to and out the door.

u haven't mentioned your sis' feelings on this at all. does she know where he is and what he's doing? have you talked to her about it? have they had a fall out? i reckon u should phone her - then tell him to get his ass back home where it's SUPPOSED to be. mind you, if that's the way he treats your sis then i doubt if she's in much of a hurry for him to go back either.

Ok...where is his wife during all this?

I think it's pretty obvious that there's some marital things going on here, don't you?