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ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?

I don't think you did anything wrong. Can think of 2 reasons he acted this way.

He felt embarressed and thought it was a rejection.

He just has no patience, expected instant response

Truly maybe a bullet dodged ......... or more than likely a person who's tired of being rejected .... unfortunately seems to happen a lot on these sites. Maybe next time a quick note to say thanks - but I'm a little shy and you're being very direct and forward.

I don't think that you did anything wrong - but he definitely needs a new attitude and a fresh perspective of how he's coming across.

I wouldnt want to date someone so oc like that....I mean, its a bit overbearing... But, jmo, if I get something like that, I may respond, and right to the point, "hey, got your note, but need to think about it, not a yes, but neither is it a no...I will get back to you soon, ciao". I would say something like that.

Truly a bullet dodged...

U just dodged a bullet... phew!!!! a NORMAL guy isn't 1. going to ask you out without at least introducing himself and chatting first.. 2. Is not going to expect a girl to accept an offer from a stranger out of the blue... I say you had a quardian angel guiding u... listen to your instincts... they are the most accurate guide we have

Yeah, I can definitely see how sending someone a note like that would be courteous. But at this point, I think it was a bullet dodged too. Thanks for the feedback!!!

Hell, Just drop him a line and say, I would rather chat first for a bit to get to know you a bit.
Just going for it out of the blue is dangerous.

But he was clearly an asshole with a major problem

I agree.. particularly with that.

You dodged a bullet sweetheart.
Sounds like a control freak and a damaged ego, if he loses it after not getting a reply within a few hours then imagine if you refused his advances. Take all the time you need to make decisions and sometimes a good one will be made for you in an ironic way.
Good luck sweetheart and ignore him its his loss.

I completely agree

Yep, dodged

Hi Dana

Hi hun!!

agree

Yep, I agree, you did nothing wrong.

Usually when I get a message like that, whether through a flower or email, that comes on strong right off the bat with phone & off site contact information, I'm the one putting them on ignore. I've found that generally they aren't sincere and are trying to lure a person off site to scam them. So don't worry about the reaction you got....he's not worth it.

Male perspective....

bullet dodged.

Any male who does not know how to WAIT on a women has it all wrong....

Hell, I have been here for about 9 months and all of the ladys still dodge me

I really didn't know women could run so fast!

[quote=kurzita]Male perspective....

bullet dodged.

Any male who does not know how to WAIT on a women has it all wrong....[/quote]

A beautiful sentiment....

[quote=Portiea]



Eeeeeemmmmm......thanks.....

but more then sentiment it's logic really.....

women being so damned undecisive about everyhting.....

one learns.....