moonfoxinthesnow: ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.
So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?
you did nothing wrong
winddancer1950:
I only check my mailbox/flowerbox a few times a week -- I don't sit here and watch the screen 24/7 for activity. It is called "having a life." When I am on the road and offline, it can be a week between mail checks of any kind. I always give folks a week or two to respond. If your flower giver is so impatient that he expects instant gratification, he has issues. That behavior spells troubles in capital letters, backlit with neon. Yes, you dodged the bullet.
the system shows when people read their e-mail
he realized the mail was read but no answer
for those that started bashing him, have you ever consider what could be in his mind?
so let me share things that i have seen (male perspective) in dating sites, but before you start bashing me, read till the end
CS as a dating site is way much better than the others, altught i have seen people asking to have more memebers, i prefer a small number but all of good quality
in the big datins sites, it was so common for me to get a mail (flirt)
i am way to slow, i try to read and get more of the person before answer her
when i was not answering fast enought i wil get that kind of behaviour, she complaining i am not interested
if i answer "on time" and by the second mail i was not ready to fix a date then i was a player
if he is a new one here, with those kind of experiences, his behaviour seems to be normal for him
please dont undertand me wrong, i am ont saying that what he did was right, just trying to explain what could be in his mind