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Portiea Konstanz, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany
kurzita:
Eeeeeemmmmm......thanks.....

but more then sentiment it's logic really.....

women being so damned undecisive about everyhting.....

one learns.....


you just couldn't quit while you were ahead...



kurzita Xaghra, Gozo Malta
Portiea:

you just couldn't quit while you were ahead...



rolling on the floor laughing

was expecting that......

rolling on the floor laughing

but true.....it is a gentleman's preragative to give a woman all the time she requires....maybe it's too 'british' for a lot of people, but I do believe in etiquette....and treating women right....

bouquet
Ambrose2007 Badger, South Dakota USA
You dodged a bullet. The guy is certifiable.wave
friendsfirst Burbank, Illinois USA
Portiea:

you just couldn't quit while you were ahead...


laugh



Portiea Konstanz, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany
kurzita:

was expecting that......



but true.....it is a gentleman's preragative to give a woman all the time she requires....maybe it's too 'british' for a lot of people, but I do believe in etiquette....and treating women right....


I was kidding the first time anyway, just trying to get away with less emoticons....didn't work too well--i think u took me seriouslybeer
StressFree small city, Kalmar Sweden
moonfoxinthesnow: ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?


Surely dodged a bullet. Your intuition guided you in the right way. Plus that dude is mental if he is going to get all mental over something like that...silly men.



kurzita Xaghra, Gozo Malta
Portiea:

I was kidding the first time anyway, just trying to get away with less emoticons....didn't work too well--i think u took me seriously


I'm getting used to most of the regulars who post here, and really, I WAS expecting a retort of sorts......

grin

Have gotten used to your sense of humour I guess....

higly appreciated however....

head banger
winddancer1950 Clarksville, Tennessee USA
I only check my mailbox/flowerbox a few times a week -- I don't sit here and watch the screen 24/7 for activity. It is called "having a life." When I am on the road and offline, it can be a week between mail checks of any kind. I always give folks a week or two to respond. If your flower giver is so impatient that he expects instant gratification, he has issues. That behavior spells troubles in capital letters, backlit with neon. Yes, you dodged the bullet.




rasgumby Moberly, Missouri USA
Just wait till he finds out that you eat crackers in bed!

You bad girl!wink



moonfoxinthesnow ALBUQUERQUE, New Mexico USA
rasgumby: Just wait till he finds out that you eat crackers in bed!

You bad girl!



SSSSSSSHHHHHHHHHHHHH!!!! scold Your NOT supposed to TELL!!!!

yay peace

Seriously though, thank you all for posting, It made me feel better and realize I wasn't so off kilter for feeling weird about it.

teddybear
LONELY28 alpena, Michigan USA
moonfoxinthesnow: ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?
You did nothing wrong.The guy pushed too hard too soon.And i think that he needs to look up on how to treat a woman.He should have respected your wishes and slowed down.I think that you dodged the bullet .
kearabetswe pietermaritzburg, Durban South Africa
you did nothing wrong, some people does not the meaning of the word patience and they think that they can get what they want immediately, dont feel sorry for yourself its time he learns that when interacting with others its not only about yourself and your needs but what others think and feel, and never jump to conclusions



shipoker55 St. Petersburg, Florida USA
his loss



alex_192 sarasota USA
moonfoxinthesnow: ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?


you did nothing wrong

winddancer1950:
I only check my mailbox/flowerbox a few times a week -- I don't sit here and watch the screen 24/7 for activity. It is called "having a life." When I am on the road and offline, it can be a week between mail checks of any kind. I always give folks a week or two to respond. If your flower giver is so impatient that he expects instant gratification, he has issues. That behavior spells troubles in capital letters, backlit with neon. Yes, you dodged the bullet.


the system shows when people read their e-mail
he realized the mail was read but no answer



for those that started bashing him, have you ever consider what could be in his mind?

so let me share things that i have seen (male perspective) in dating sites, but before you start bashing me, read till the end

CS as a dating site is way much better than the others, altught i have seen people asking to have more memebers, i prefer a small number but all of good quality

in the big datins sites, it was so common for me to get a mail (flirt)
i am way to slow, i try to read and get more of the person before answer her
when i was not answering fast enought i wil get that kind of behaviour, she complaining i am not interested
if i answer "on time" and by the second mail i was not ready to fix a date then i was a player

if he is a new one here, with those kind of experiences, his behaviour seems to be normal for him

please dont undertand me wrong, i am ont saying that what he did was right, just trying to explain what could be in his mind






Indyfella indianapolis, Indiana USA
morganlee: I don't think you did anything wrong. Can think of 2 reasons he acted this way.

He felt embarressed and thought it was a rejection.

He just has no patience, expected instant response



I hope you don't rat me out Morgan.......crying



johndivr Middle East, Florida USA
OH BELEIVE ME HE MISSED BY A MILE, GIVE US HIS NAME AND WE CAN ALL PICK ON HIM. I AM FEELING REAL NASTY TONIGHT. BETTER YET LETS GET SOME MODEL PICTURES AND INVITE HIM TO MEET HER IN SAY, ASPEN FOR A WEEKEND OF UNIMAGINABLE PLEASURE, WANNA??? HUH???
BE WELL
JRdevil
dcj22 Somewhere, Kansas USA
johndivr: OH BELEIVE ME HE MISSED BY A MILE, GIVE US HIS NAME AND WE CAN ALL PICK ON HIM. I AM FEELING REAL NASTY TONIGHT. BETTER YET LETS GET SOME MODEL PICTURES AND INVITE HIM TO MEET HER IN SAY, ASPEN FOR A WEEKEND OF UNIMAGINABLE PLEASURE, WANNA??? HUH???
BE WELL
JR


super

riyablossom somewhere, Pennsylvania USA
moonfoxinthesnow: ok so someone on here actually contacted me today with a flower box note and his phone number and asked me out for coffee... which is really sweet but I'm shy and I felt I needed more time. So I put it on the shelf to think about it for a few hours... when i come back here tonight after work I found a sour grapes note "so I guess your not interested, that sucks" and find out I'm blocked.

So I am just sitting here feeling kinda weird about it.... did I do something wrong or did I just dodge a bullet?


hmm ..if u knew who this person was or have corresponded before and thought positively .. maybe it might make u wonder .. a bit ..

But otherwise ... i think its perfectly ok to have your own choice or need time.

cheer up hug



johndivr Middle East, Florida USA
IT WOULD BE FUN U KNOW............................I WOULD TRY BUT I AM SURE OF MY SEXUALITY, HE MUST NOT BE. DCI GIVE HIM A BUZZ. TELL HIM YOU JUST GOT BACK FROM THE FAR EAST TANTRIC MASSAGE SCHOOL AND HE WON A WEEKENG OF HIS DREAMS.....
JRdevil
PS I WILL GIVE YOU A BUCK IF YOU DO, JUST NEED AN ADDRESS, PHONE NUMBER ECT
NITE ALL!
JR



skwidwurd Aberdeen, Grampian, Scotland UK
alex_192: you did nothing wrong
the system shows when people read their e-mail
he realized the mail was read but no answer
for those that started bashing him, have you ever consider what could be in his mind?

so let me share things that i have seen (male perspective) in dating sites, but before you start bashing me, read till the end

CS as a dating site is way much better than the others, altught i have seen people asking to have more memebers, i prefer a small number but all of good quality

in the big datins sites, it was so common for me to get a mail (flirt)
i am way to slow, i try to read and get more of the person before answer her
when i was not answering fast enought i wil get that kind of behaviour, she complaining i am not interested
if i answer "on time" and by the second mail i was not ready to fix a date then i was a player

if he is a new one here, with those kind of experiences, his behaviour seems to be normal for him

please dont undertand me wrong, i am ont saying that what he did was right, just trying to explain what could be in his mind


well slap my bum and pickle my nuts! i actually find myself agreeing with alex 192. (never thought i'd ever say THAT!).

firstly, moonfoxinthesnow you did nothing wrong........BUT..........if he'd checked and saw you'd opened his mail and never replied, chances are he may have thought you deliberately ignored his mail and had no intention of ever replying, in which case he may have been offended. i guess i can kinda understand if that were indeed the case. not the way i'd have handled it but then, i don't often send people mail cos i'm an unsociable, grumpy scot with a spotty bum. tongue




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