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Exactly what happened to my last marriage...

I agree my ex boyfriend said to STOP wanting so much sex? And he is younger then me! So I played good girl and backed off, then he just got up and left me

Well, for my two cents,

A man will stop hunting, when the prey wants to be caught.
It ceases to be challenging.

Now, i'm not suggesting that man and badger should never feel each other up along the riverbank, but, honestly, that's not the driving force of the "man looking for badger along riverbank" storyline you see in movies. Ok, there's no movie, but...

It can work both ways I agree...I think it boils down to one or both taking each other for granted that the other one will be there regardless of how you treat them or don't treat them...It's sad yes because I think romancing each other...treating each other with love and respect should be a lifetime thing...along with apprecation of one another!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Yeah, but it can be a bit hard to define how the pursuit can continue and in what form when the prize already has been won...

Anyhow, I've never been much of a fan of the romantic archetype of come-hither, pursuit, flight, more pursuit, reluctant surrender..etc. It seems to me that simply valuing your love above all others and treating her or him with affection, passion, and respect - and simply enjoying him or her - is the cornerstone of making it work, not the usual romantic flight and fancy. I agree the latter has a place in the initial phases, Claire, but it just seems like gamesmanship later in the relationship. It seems that it would then not be so much about pursuit as about reinforcement of what you find good about your mate?

But I have a lot to learn - still - you please don't take this as my absolute belief.

And oh - hi, Joanie!!

I GUARANTEE YOU ONE THING.

If you treat your man or woman the same way everyday that you treated her on the first day you met her.....

Then you'd never get bored,or take each other for granted.

I agree...

that you treated her or him.

I'M FULL OF TYPOS today.
I know,not very attractive.

Well anyone that evaluates ones spelling abilities as an attractive atrtibute...UMMMMMMM has issues...so no need to worry...and I'm the queen of type O's around here....

True, but's what wrong with having issues about bad spelling? I find good spelling and writing attractive qualities. Why wouldn't they be? What - poor spelling and grammar are appealing? Why?

You mean, H&K, that if someone writes you an email full of solecisms, poor spelling, and other signs of poor education or indifference, that you don't find that a bit off-putting? (Since you write well - and have taken the time to learn to express yourself - why wouldn't you find that to be an appealing attribute in others?)

No...to each his own...I just don't think about spelling either way....to me it doesn't make a difference in who the person is...and that would be my main interest!!!!!!!!!!!!!


If it effects what you think of a person...and who they are...to me yes I would see that as having some kind of issue!!!!!!!!!!!

Or get laid? I'm just saying... Not many people get any on the first date.

No it would depend on the content of the e-mail...that's what I look at....and I don't use grammatically correct writing on here myself and often have type o's so I would hope there is nobody judging me soley on how I write...BUT what I write....

I agree with Jeff. You can't continue pursuing someone you already have. You need to simply value what you have and show that person how much you value him/her.

I DON'T SLEEP AROUND.

Look.

If I take the time,I CAN SPELL well,but sometimes theres music in the background,there's something cooking on the stove,the phone rings....etc...etc.......etc.



I DON'T even know why I'm explaining myself to you.

there's.........oops.






F*ck this s.hit.


Happy?

I work in simplistic formulas through life so this is easy to answer but the cure/fix is not.You are correct in the fact that people do quit doing what they used to do and they also start doing what they didn't do, in order for me myself to achieve an almost perfect union with the one that gets me it will have to work on an even keel as far as the formula=keep doing what you were doing and don't start doing what you didn't do=LOVE that is all.