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Personality first.

your a winner.....

Funny you say that because I notice at once if someone looks different.I even comment on it.When I describe my friends I mention character and looks.This way the other person can visualize my friends.

No I'm not.. I'm a loser.

Looks lure me in..... Personality holds me.... or repels me.....

*Brushes up on witty openning lines*


Sooooo...erm....it's been a while since I done this hold.

*Dashes off and phones mum*

Hi, mum, it's Steven...You know when you got together with Dad...What did he say to you?

*mum looks at phone rather puzzled*


He said son, I am an RAF pilot and have a 9 inch wanger.

Oh...So who come, mines is so small then, mum?

A certain look gets your attention, but it's the personality that holds your attention. At least for me.

Good points ........ maybe its more of a gender difference? or you're the rare exception ....... well at least from my viewpoint.

Right...The elephant man would certainly get my attention and I am sure his personality is lovely...But their ain't now way I am getting my grove on with him.

You never know, he may be a real arsehole!

Well I think I must be the rare exeption since every guy I know fits the stereotype description of a man.It must be my job too to see only the things that are disfunctional and need fixing.One becomes very observative.

I have experienced both senarios.... I can grow to be attracted to someone who is intelligent, funny and charming... I could never grow to love someone who is beautiful but dull, boring and rude... would never happen.... nothing against looks and sure it is a big bonus... but I know right now that it will be the person I fall in love with not the face.. JMV

I kinda like the handsome ones with the crappy personalities....

I have to admit I agree with prncss4someon, and I wish I were not so shallow, but that is the truth. I have had a lot of candy on my arm, and I still love it...addicted to candy...LOL

Woman are like a fine wine.....but all I ever find.. whines

To be honest, I begin with looks first. That being said, if she looks great but has a bad attitude or a personality I'm not getting along with, I still wouldn't date her. But realistically, looks are first simply because (i) that's most likely the first thing I would have encountered that caught my attention and (ii) if I'm not happy about my date's looks and find "distracted" by other women who look much better then it's not fear to my date because that will only bring about insecurities and problems. Therefore, when I choose a date, I'd choose one whose appearance I'm pleased with. Realistically, as well, I expect the opposite from my date so I try to keep myself looking good.

It doesnt matter how you look like,what matters is your heart.We can never truly judge only the outside of a person,though the first thing you see is the outside.

Looks catch my attention. Personality keeps my attention.

you got it right there! it is that simple, if i am not attracted to you then you will probably just be a friend or not, no matter your personality, i deal with formulas and the one tufty speaks of is the one i go by, but hey that is just me.