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If my englishman and i are talking and the subject of a woman comes into the conversation, like he has not written to her in a month and he says things like well "every time i write her she dosen't respond" am i being overly cautious thinking i may be second choice? just wondering all opinions welcomed

HMMMMMMMMMMMM....No I don't think soooooooo...I think I would feel the same.....

Maybe the woman in question is illiterate...He should try using another means of communicating like "Paint By Numbers" or Crayons.

Always best to be cautious however its all down to whether worth the risk

Both sides of this would at least half raise a red flag for me....

One, maybe you are being over sensitive and feeling that someone should write to you and only you? kinda not even met ownership issues?
Assuming a date or 3 have not been had and you're not an "item"


and Two, Why does he keep bringing mailing another woman into the conversation in the first place? if he does?

Fine if he was "going on a date" with someone else, it would only be fair of him to at least give fair warning, but is talking to more than one person frowned upon?

thank you, it would not be an issue if he did not use the phrase" she WILL NOT reply" over and over which sends up red flags everywhere, OMG! the formula may be kicking in!!! thank you girlfriend you are always to the point and not without emotion sweet thang you

No one likes to be considered "second choice" ........ but in saying that ..... he's sounding realistic to the fact that although he was corresponding to this woman before - he's realizing that she's not interested and he's moving on.

I think that one needs to be cautious of giving our hearts ....... I remember before when I was talking with someone and I realized he was not what I desired - less than a week later he'd found the "love" of his life. So I gather he was talking away to her as well as myself all along. I'm glad I trusted my instincts to realize he wasn't the guy for me.

actually he is an artist in his own right but that is so freaking funny, thanks for the laugh, the woman in question is a russian which he has written to numerous times and even went so far as to check out how much gas and time it would cost to go see her, now mind you she did not seem interested and this from his own mouth, but he writes and tells me things i am wanting to hear, dammit,..............

Hmmmm

I would be thinking, "What am I, chopped liver?"

And if she suddenly replies, would he be gone in a flash?


Gee - What if he mailed you and you didn't reply?

Would he be mourning you like he seems to be mourning for her?

Just food for thought...

I have used my formula on all the guys so far and did not meet this one on this site, met him on a site called jsh, don't go there much only come to this one now and we have written each other since right before xmas, i was staying with him and we learned each other through text before his pic was even up so it goes beyond what i am knowing what to do, i do know this for sure though girlfriend, the flags of him referring to his relationship with this woman is not a good thing, no , it does not bode well, but will give him a chance, after all he has one like the rest has had and only one.Thank you for your input

OKKK anxiety is KICKING FREAKING IN HERE thank you, i am deffo going to chew on this sista, don't like the implications when it comes to my heart being broken although i think it may be too late,thank you

Now, why cannot all women be like Irishlass. That was a very mature post. I should try it sometime!

Thank you, you do make sense, he is emailing me more than i he so i don't know, i am not wanting to be obsessive or anything about this but the fact he is talking serious then i would not think he has a right to continue to write this woman since he DID have more interest than friendship, he has told me this but now i am not so sure, i have to sort this out and try to funtion at the same time, damn what a trip this is, red flags thanks yall for taking time to give me food for thought although i will decide on my own as theranger of county kerry should

I am real my friend and at this point in my life i am not scared to admit.........i am scared thank you a beer calls to me now and so does the porch

And what are the beer and porch calling you?!

maybe a dumbass for taking the chance? who the hell knows i just know it has a heineken and 78 degrees and me and nature, now i will go think for a bit, be back in a little, bye a bit

i think tufty nail on the head there... you wont get a better answer than that my dear!

that's what is so scary yip hear that beer calling my young friend thanks for dropping in, stay sweet

no worries, hope it all works out for you!

I'm still trying to figure out what your formula is - care to share?


As well, just from what you have further shared - I'd be cautious. Give your heart to someone who truly deserves it. Not just someone who "says" the right words ....... watch and listen to his actions .... because if he's really into YOU ........ they will speak volumes.