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I'd appreciate some insight from the men on this site (to whom this may or may have been, in the past, applicable)

I was just wondering, what is the meaning of trying out a succession of girlfriends when you're approx. 20-30 y.o.? Does it always mean falling in love in earnest and finishes with "it just didn't work out between us", or can you start a relationship already knowing that it won't be for anything serious or anything other than sex?
And when, (if at all) do you begin to look for a lasting relationship with compatibility on all levels, not just in bed?

I'm just trying to figure out something that keeps escaping my understanding.

This should be interesting to see

I'll bring an extra bag - I'm curious too ............. but its more about men in their late 30's-40's who seem to be in the same stage.

We may be here a while then

That was the men running away.

most guys look for that lasting relationship...when they find a woman that isn't playing head games

Had to get more.

Every person is different some men are look for a real realtionship and other are just looking to hook up with as many woman as they can .If the man told you that the wanted to try out a sucdession of girlfriend then to me it sound like he does not or did not want a real realtionsip it sounds like he want to see how many women he can sleep with,Age does not matter some people never grow up and can not deal with a real realtionship............but that just what I think

MOVE OVER

Have a drink



Thank you Des!

Back to our thread, Des and Dori?

OKAY

We can stay.

I can't speak for other men.

When I met the first love of my life she was a virgin.

Other men, and some women, may laugh at me........ but I felt almost overcome with guilt that I was not also a virgin - I'd allowed myself to be seduced on a Greek island by a very beautiful 28 year-old French Canadian nurse a few months earlier when I was at the emotionally tender age of 17.

I deeply and intensely and morally and with every fibre in my body hate the term 'having sex'.

One of the very few things that should differentiate us from the majority of animals is that we are CAPABLE of making love rather than just ruttring in the streets like a couple of dogs and having a 'good bark' to our other beta 'low life' doggie pals afterwards...... describing in detail whether 'she' was a 'good shag' and 'Hey mate - did she take it up the shitter?'

To me, the act of making love is a very precious and wonderful thing.

Anything we do to make something wonderful cheap and nasty also makes us cheap and nasty and less beautiful.

Just my view - those of you who prefer to 'sleep around' are perfectly entitled to your own view and please feel free to attack my opinion if you so desire!

Girls, girls.... Mind your calories!!! Please!

The reason I'm asking is not to say it's wrong or anything - just wondering what is the point/underlying meaning of it.

Beautifully said, Rusty.

Nicely said Rusty


Now I'm definitely hanging around to see what the others are going to say after that.

Thank you.

Recently a woman said to me that she felt we should 'stop having sex' to see if there was anything else to the relationship (totally 100% reasonable from her point of view) -

I thought I'd actually been making love to her previously; I was obviously under a false impression!

Maybe these foolish notions I have of love are just that - foolish!¬

Anybody want to rut in the street with me?

Sorry - I'm one nasty, cynical, twisted bitter son of a bitch - right?

'Love springs eternal in the human breast'

I may not be a virgin, but every time I have formed an intimate relationship with a woman I have wanted to feel that we were both making love for the first time......... to me, making love is so wonderful that it is my ultimate physical statement encapsulating my desire for a really committed relationship.

I think that there are many people (both men and women) out there who are either too scared to make a commitment, or not ready........ maybe they (and I) should not either 'have sex' or pretend or feel that they are 'making love' until they both feel that commitment towards each other.

My own problem is that I have a tremendous urge to commit myself!

Let me gag now. All women don't play head games and truly I think that a woman is much more willing to commit to a relationship before a man is.

Honestly, Rusty, any woman who has a man that would rather make love to her EVERY TIME, than have sex, has a man with a huge heart and should be eternally thankful.

I do hope you find that woman.