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guy's i need help really bad. I don't know what to do with men's anymore?

i will called them #1 and #2 ok just for their privacy.

I am with #1 for a year and a half his really find Everythings work well
but i can't open my heart to him because i somekind love #3 even if i never meet him

then i met # 2 at work he really like me he buy me alot but now he is giving me money i wouldn't say the amount but it's really to much
and no i don't have affair with him i am so lost i don't want to live with #1 or #2 but #3 lives really far and he is going to get married with another woman.

#1 he is kind but yielled alot after me he expect to much of me since i've work he ask me to do everything a nomal stayed at home would do
i can't barely sleep ,i have to clean ,do the laundry,make the supper,
after his work he came home and watch t,v
after i came home i have to do everything even if i work night shift.

#2 well he is just a co-worker and a friend but it's not normal to have friends who threat me a little more nice then your #1 right

Well then came #3 which i think everytime #1 and i make love

please help

HMMMMMMMMMMMMM...and most of us have a hard time just finding one!!!!!!!!!!!!...


Just go with your heart darlin....but I wouldn't let money or someone buying you things be a factor in your decision.....

ok not sure i have this right but i thinbk you should forget all 3 of them.

1 because he sounds selfish and you were clearly not happy.

2. Because not often does someone give you money and want nothing in return, think you could be geting into a bad situation there.

3 Because he is getting married to someone else !

Give yourself time ,,take a break, find yourself first

#1 is a control freak - dump him

#2 cash aint all that bad...

#3 taken, move on....


maybe you can find a number 4?

so you said i should dump #1

but where am i gonna live if i dump #1

on #2 until i can have #3 if i can't have #3

then move on #4

Look in your heart what you want in a man.

Don't think about any of these, only what you want your man to be.

Then write it down in detail.

Then write down the details of each one of the guys your talking about.

Then compare each to your wants in a man.

Then get rid of all that are not at least 75% of what you want a man to be, even if it means dumping all three.

If you need to make the % greater until you get to one. Then go from there.!

do what many do look for flat share with a girl

Get self suffient! make your own money and have your own place. That way you are in control of your choices.


Old saying!: Sometimes you must hang out on a limb until you can find a way off. Then the next time you are going to get on a limb, grease it so it will be easier to get off of next time."

Be able to fall back on your own money, home,...ect. Never surrender your independance or you will find yourself a slave to a mean master and no way to get off the limb.

Thanks Rilly

I know what i want but every time i found it i am so happy and i am out of controle on happinesss like when i found my # 3 i was so happy to find my tresure that i had said to everyone in my village that i had finnally found the love of my life and he was in love with me and everything i don't know if he really was the whole time he never told me that he loved me i just maybe thought he was. And he was looking for someone in my back during i was sending him gift and money. and i didn't never forgot his birthday or his son birthday.

yes i am really not happy with #1

and #2 is way to old for me but he keep bugging me to go stay with him.

what she said

I really think you need

to take some time for yourself, YOU are the only one that can really make yourself happy, waiting for

someone else to do that won't work. Get your independance, it will help build youe self esteem and

self worth. The rest will come in time

it would be so simple if #X would came and kidnappe me and ask me to marry him on the spot!

life is rarely simple.

But then you would be a missing person, he'd get life in prison and it's back to the old writing letters to each other.

oh god no

i will protect him

Sounds like Len is right. Learn to take care of yourself, dont EVER assume that someone loves you, don't go head over heels until you know someone really well, give yourself time to mature into love.