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Think that you need to learn to stand on your own two feet ........... you don't love #1, #2 you're not interested in (so stop taking money/gifts from him because you're sending the wrong message) and #3 is not available and really should have never been brought into the situation because you were/are living with #1.

Rent or share a place with someone that is not going to take care of you - because you need to learn how to do this on your own without a man. Life is not some fairy tale (ie. knight in shining armor) and when you seek your security etc. from others then you're going to find yourself sometimes stuck in a situation such as you've created.

A relationship with a man shouldn't be based merely on finding security ............. its much more than that and you're worth more than that - but it sounds like you want the easy route ...... is the cost that you're paying worth it in the end?????


There will be a #4 out there somewhere ................ there always is ............. but its about making yourself #1 woman.

It seems to me you feel like you have to be with someone to be happy, that is NOT GOOD!! Try working on your independence, make yourself happy, move out and try living alone, love YOURSELF. There is no rule that you have to have a man at all times.
As for number 3, he's taken, leave him alone, if for some reason if it is meant to be then it will happen.

first of all i want to make it clear i can't live with a man i had just like a bit because i was taking pity of him way back then it happen in a relation that one day you like him and the next you don't because i came to knew him. i've put myself in an unhappy situation i admit but we broke up so many times and even cheated behing his back i am the one who took my cloths and everything but gess what he was crying and forgive me i didn't look to stay with him the whole year and a half i've tried it didn't work out 5 time yes 5 time we broke up and came back together


he don't get it and that's not my fault!
RAS

if your to good at this
then tell me?

what to do i don't even think you would stay in my shoes a min when a guy came and tell you he will hang himself if you go away stay with him and pretend to be happy

yes i am mad because i should had been more clearly on this but it's was not your buziness

i am not playing game here

i totally understand that he loved me but i can't loved him and be happy with someone who work with suicide tendecy threats ok

I think you are all playing with each other and all being totally selfish and whilst you claim to have a problem I think that you are secretly enjoying all this male attention. You are all playing with fire. I think you should sort yourself out and disengage from all of them until you know what you want, then go get it. The longer this situation goes on the more likeLY everyone is going to get hurt. So do all of you a favour (you are the key)and get out and move on. JMHO. Good luck.

step back and look at this, not one of them is treating you fairly. Look for a #4 and relax do not sweat it with #1, 2 ,3

come on he is playing you when he said he would hang himself...You cant stay with someone who threatens you like this...He wont hurt himself..that is old..heard it a million times...Stop making excuses and get out if that is what you want..I am not trying to be rude..but anyone who wants to leave can leave...No body has a hold on anyone like that

I have yet to see a positive post from you. Try it, you might like it.

I seem to have missed something here, I gave the same advice and comments as many people here, but I am the one singled out for you to vent on?
Does that mean that my opinion for some reason means more than the same from someone else?

Sorry- when you ask for advice in a international public forum, that is what you get. You got what you ask for

You are right, I wouldn't stay in that situation for any period of time, what.. is the guy like 12 yrs old? get real. If he was going to hang himself because you are gone-(which is just a childish attempt at control)( and he would not do, I think we have all heard this crap line a few times. but if I am all that someone has to live for then they have nothing useful to offer to a relationship!

There are 2 kind of friends.
one who will just agree with you, to make you feel better or -those that tell you the truth so you might open your eyes and do the right thing to improve your own life.

If one lays in a bed of snakes- should we really expect not to get bitten?

Maybe sort yourself out first and then try getting serious.

I would never have 2, 3 or more lovers at the same time....

I only let them come in one at a time while the rest wait in line outside my front door

Didn't I see this on Jerry Springer?

WTF!!!...

i wouldn't have the energy Seriously you have been given some good advice here, only YOU can decide whether to listen to it and help yourself

Hehe...i really enjoy your Thread

just want to tell you guy's that #1 and i broke up last night we had talk and he told me it would be better for me to have my own appartement so now i am looking for an appartement for july.I told him that we can saty just friendsnothing more because i couldn't go on with him and he told me that he wasn't in love with me anymore i think we had been honest with each other and as for # 2 well he called me last night he was drunk and we didn't go to work but tonight i will give him back the money. and will have to get thing's straight with him too that he is was too old and i don't like the way he talk to me when he says that he will attack me. if i had to made a complain at my job for that i would not have a choice to do it i know he is kind but bugging me to have kisses here and there it sexual harrassement.

You know honey,you are remanding me one girl from this site,her name was Marry,she was just driving me mad with the same story like you are talking about.....

Eh?! Most of my posts are positive...All I said was the price is right was rubbish. Is Bob Barker one of your idols.

Here...E=MC2...That's always generates a positive answer. Unless of course you start throwing anti-matter into the equation. Then no, that would not be positive.