Posted: May 23, 2008, 6:20 AM CST
People have different psychological types, and each one of us has his own story, full of disappointments, wounds, bad memories, tragic facts and events, besides the joy of some moments and better periods of time. Each one of us has a world inside himself, and a defined psychological type, that induces us to behave in a certain way, based on the psychological function we develop in our psychical sphere.
So, depending on which psychological type a person belongs to, they have a completely different reaction to the same stimulus. This reaction depends also on the personal psychical traumas they have had.
Some people that belong to introverted psychological types for example, are more vulnerable to acquiring a suicidal tendency.
When we see a person that has such a hidden tendency, we have to try to understand why they don’t want to live. Usually they are accepting living under unbearable conditions, or accepting horrible situations, without understanding they have to change and abandon this way of life. They can not accept what doesn’t make them happy without caring about their happiness, and they can not continue to ignore reality forever… There are many problems they may have in their daily life, perhaps during many years repeatedly, that are killing them softly inside. So, their hidden desire is to die, even though they know they can’t actually commit suicide. They don’t accept the idea of a suicide, because that’s what they have been taught. However, deep inside them, they only want to die and abandon forever all the horrors they have to swallow every day… all the problems they know will never find a solution… everything!
This desire is condemned by their human conscience, that’s why is it hidden and appears in an obscured form: it seems to be only a tendency to be negligent.
In fact what happens is that their psyche wishes to die, and they start having strange thoughts, fantasising or dreaming about a sudden death, in which they wouldn’t be the ones that decided to abandon life, everyone and everything, in such a cowardly way.
They start accepting ideas like: “I could easily die if a very simple accident would happen now…”, and “it wouldn’t be my fault…” But these thoughts never create decisive action towards suicide, because their conscience is still alive and not allowing them to accept the act, while pretending they had only an accident.
We never know however who is going to win in the end. Is the human being going to overcome his depression and become healthy and balanced, after winning the battle against the strong tendency to commit suicide, or is this strong tendency going to push him to really kill himself in this hidden way?
My advice is to always consult a psychologist if we’ll observe that we suffer from several small accidents, or somebody else close to us does. The constant accidents are not the result of negligence. They reflect a suicidal tendency, without any doubt.