Thread:

What's up with men...

Category:
Advice
page: 1 2 3 of 3

What's up with men...

Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:41 PM CST
chasingcars7 wrote:
nothing assumed here , and no apology needed.
say what you feel, that already makes you better than they were.

Guys who act this way are not worth your time or your feelings.
Save those for the guy who does the right things for you.



I agree but why is it that we think they are right for us they say all the right things but it means nothing...and its only after a few weeks we find out different...... its just crazy......

confused confused confused confused kiss
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



misssuzyq
Lombard, Illinois USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:43 PM CST
chasingcars7 wrote:
oops meant to quote you misssuzyq..
That was for you :)


thank you
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:45 PM CST
[quote=chasingcars7]oops meant to quote you misssuzyq..
That was for you :)[/quote


No hassle..... Sorry
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



misssuzyq
Lombard, Illinois USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:45 PM CST
bluebelle4000 wrote:
I agree but why is it that we think they are right for us they say all the right things but it means nothing...and its only after a few weeks we find out different...... its just crazy......


That's what I can't figure out. These are guys I've met in person, been out with, talked to. I invested a lot of time and opened myself up for what, It kind of makes me sour.
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »
England personals
a_l_e_x
london, Outer London, England UK
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:47 PM CST
wave
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



misssuzyq
Lombard, Illinois USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:48 PM CST
wave
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



chasingcars7
Attleboro USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:49 PM CST
Some guys just aren't good investors. Rather than take the time to really know someone they are easily distrated. These boys don't do well in the market either.

Just keep going, the man who's willing to take the time to know you will be a keeper. Think of it as weeding the herd.
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »
England singles
tufty
Chelmsford, Essex, England UK
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:49 PM CST
don't suppose you got all rebellious and stuff and asked either of them what's going on?
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



chasingcars7
Attleboro USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:51 PM CST
tufty wrote:
don't suppose you got all rebellious and stuff and asked either of them what's going on?


Knowing the pattern they would probably just lie next...
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



misssuzyq
Lombard, Illinois USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:51 PM CST
I like that "weeding the herd"
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



misssuzyq
Lombard, Illinois USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:54 PM CST
tufty wrote:
don't suppose you got all rebellious and stuff and asked either of them what's going on?


I did not. I figured they wasted enough of my time, why give them the pleasure of wasting more. Believe me last night I wanted to walk up to him and ask him what his problem was, but as a lady I sat with my friends and had a great anyways.
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



chasingcars7
Attleboro USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:55 PM CST
misssuzyq wrote:
I like that "weeding the herd"


Hey it's a womans prerogative.
Lord knows I've been weeded enough times to know :)
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



misssuzyq
Lombard, Illinois USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 3:57 PM CST

Lord knows I've been weeded enough times to know :)[/quote]

LOL
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »
Posted: May 24, 2008, 4:00 PM CST
misssuzyq wrote:
That's what I can't figure out. These are guys I've met in person, been out with, talked to. I invested a lot of time and opened myself up for what, It kind of makes me sour.



me too......... and its difficult not to get sour... One i met went out with on at least a dozen dates.. had a fab time got on brilliantly...or so he said... then nothing... absolutley nothing... so i know how u feel and its so annoying... if they dont want to go out with you ( or me lol) why cant they just say so instead of all the messing around,.... i just dont understand it.......... maybe am having a blonde moment lol
yay yay yay yay yay yay yay
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



misssuzyq
Lombard, Illinois USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 4:10 PM CST
bluebelle4000 wrote:
me too......... and its difficult not to get sour... One i met went out with on at least a dozen dates.. had a fab time got on brilliantly...or so he said... then nothing... absolutley nothing... so i know how u feel and its so annoying... if they dont want to go out with you ( or me lol) why cant they just say so instead of all the messing around,.... i just dont understand it.......... maybe am having a blonde moment lol


Really, it's like all I ask for is just be up front and honest, just say it.

The worst part is, I've been hanging out at this local place every Friday for a long time. Guy #2 is on a softball league and this place sponsors their team. They play on Fridays and are up there every Friday now after the game. sigh
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »
free dating dating
laura225
Somewhere, New York USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 4:29 PM CST
chasingcars7 wrote:
... Think of it as weeding the herd.


wave
I like that...

But there is an awful lot of weeding to do out there confused

Is it from the same category (to be weeded)? I am seeing this guy for a few months and I think he is a very decent and honest person, he does a lot for me - a giver I would say - BUT gosh ALL THOSE PLACES he is going to take me next weekend laugh. When things cool down, he simply doesn't remember? dunno ? confused ?

It's not like I can't go places without him but it's just pathetic.

I already know I am not going to stay with him, just need to come up with a nice way to break the news.

To be weeded?

I hear you, Misssuzyq, but have no answer to all this sad flower Strange? Pathetic?

I am NOT generalizing, though.
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »
New South Wales personals
Wylde
Canberra, New South Wales Australia
Posted: May 24, 2008, 4:32 PM CST
Don't stress about it 'misssuzyq'. Intuition suggests the problem lies with the men to whom you might be superficially attracted, and in the instances you quoted, those men who are attracted superficially to you.

There's no simple analogy. "Opposites" and "likes" neither attract universally nor distract unconditionally. It's not really like junior school physics.

Humans experience higher, complex emotions. Or at least they should.

Sometimes visual and other immediate sensory things excite us, causing temporary failure of proper perception, judgment, reason. It's easy to dismiss this as 'animal sex'. Sometimes there's a poor mix of dishonesty too.

My intuition? Ok, I'd guess the two males you mention were confronted by you, your intelligence. Not that you were deliberately dominant, but they were perhaps inhibited, able only to show a facade, pretence of personality. And this was something they could not sustain over a longer period. No match is perfect, but we each deserve something that promises inspiration, love, harmony. Those males were obviously not a good match for you.

Inevitably they trailed away, were caught up with someone else, some female more their level of like and dislike.

The fault was not with you.

Nor is it with us males in general.

You are a selective woman. You deserve better. You shall have it.

Of course, I could have taken the much easier route by answering with the chestnut: ' "What's up with men?' I give up..! Tell me the answer...!" '

Be patient just a little while longer. It will be worth the wait.

Good luck,


- W


.
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



chasingcars7
Attleboro USA
Posted: May 24, 2008, 4:35 PM CST
laura225 wrote:
I like that...

But there is an awful lot of weeding to do out there

Is it from the same category (to be weeded)? I am seeing this guy for a few months and I think he is a very decent and honest person, he does a lot for me - a giver I would say - BUT gosh ALL THOSE PLACES he is going to take me next weekend . When things cool down, he simply doesn't remember? ? ?

It's not like I can't go places without him but it's just pathetic.

I already know I am not going to stay with him, just need to come up with a nice way to break the news.

To be weeded?

I hear you, Misssuzyq, but have no answer to all this Strange? Pathetic?

I am NOT generalizing, though.



American Heitage defines weeding as :
To eliminate as unsuitable or unwanted.
Often used with out: weed out unqualified applicants.

In the case of Mr wrong above, an appropriate demise.
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »
England dating
Claayer
Wild Wild South West, Cornwall, England UK
Posted: May 24, 2008, 4:37 PM CST
chasingcars7 wrote:
Some guys just aren't good investors. Rather than take the time to really know someone they are easily distrated. These boys don't do well in the market either.

Just keep going, the man who's willing to take the time to know you will be a keeper. Think of it as weeding the herd.


I agree thumbs up
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »



pvictoria
Victoria, Gozo Malta
Posted: May 24, 2008, 4:41 PM CST
misssuzyq wrote:
(1): I can't figure it out. I met this guy and we talked for months, went out on several dates it was great we always had fun. A few weeks ago I'm on the phone with him and he asked if I liked him. I said I did, he said that's very good. So he syas he will be in the area this weekend can I take you out. I agreed. We texted back and forth the day of, but no mention of going out. I said nothing about it and he didn't. Have not talked to him since.
(2): Met a guy a few weeks ago at a local place I hang out at. He asked for my number I gave it to him, we've talked and IMed. Last Sunday we were talking I wasn't going to go up to the local place this Friday, but he said he wanted me to show up. The group of us went up there. He says absolutely nothing to me.
I am confused and do not know what is going on.


Hi girl.Men are just like women.We need what you need.You have obviously met some strange birds in your recent past.If I was interested in you I would act totally different.You would be my queen and I would go nose to nose with anyone challenging our relationship.So not all men are the same.Just pick your guy from now on more carefully and ask him the right questions.If he is not ready to commit to you dump him and find one who is.Just trying to help .
handshake
Pete
Is this post offensive? If so, Report this post »
page: 1 2 3 of 3

Report this thread if it breaks rules, is offensive, or contains fighting. Staff does not know about forum abuse (and cannot do anything about it), unless you tell us about it. If this thread is offensive, please click here to report it »

If site dates and times do not show correctly, you can fix this by editing your timezone
Click here to edit your timezone »