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Florida singles
WhatUwish4
Jacksonville, Florida USA
Posted: Jun 15, 2008, 2:09 PM CST
TapronXO wrote:
Kudo's for you! I know it wasn't easy at times. I'm friends with my ex, even stay at his house when I visit. It's had a dramatic effect on the kids. They aren't afraid to say the wrong thing. Now that they're older, they prefer our friendship rather then the continual fights. We all have such a great time when we get together. If only more couples could see outside the divorce box and think of the kids.


At the risk of sounding like an infomercial, good for you! I think kids take all their cues from parents. If they see you are getting along fine, it won't impact them nearly as seriously. It's the hate and the venom that affects them, not so much the divorce.
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StressFree
small city, Kalmar Sweden
Posted: Jun 15, 2008, 2:21 PM CST
mikeeemike wrote:
I recon that the high divorce rate, and subsequent relationships between bitter parents has alot to do with the increased social issues on our society, particular the antisocial behaviour of the youth of today.


I agree. It's a huge part of the overall formula...these kids are not surrounded in a loving environment. Plus, the bitter parents don't have the positive energy to love their kids as they should be loved due to the ongoing resentment and anger. It's a vicious cycle that continues at home and at school for these kids. The scary part comes when these kids become teenagers, and they have so much junk in them at an unconscious and conscious level.

The sad thing to admit, is that there are so many immature adults out there who don't now how to manage a relationship together or apart. It's all about revenge and resentment for them, cause in their world it's the only thing that makes these bitter parents feel better...to make their ex feel like shit....even in front of the kids.

I have a friend who will never speak to his ex...ever again. He took the divorce really personal. His kids are the same age as mine, and his kids are always in trouble and I am afraid to let his kids play with mine, because they resort to a lot of fighting to solve a situation...like how they should play.
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StressFree
small city, Kalmar Sweden
Posted: Jun 15, 2008, 2:23 PM CST
WhatUwish4 wrote:
At the risk of sounding like an infomercial, good for you! I think kids take all their cues from parents. If they see you are getting along fine, it won't impact them nearly as seriously. It's the hate and the venom that affects them, not so much the divorce.


True...a divorce should not mean disaster unless their is a lot of hate and venom.
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Arlene101
Cape Breton Island, Nova Scotia Canada
Posted: Jun 15, 2008, 2:29 PM CST
Hit!!!!rolling on the floor laughing boxing superfor now! Happy Father's Day Leo!!!!!!
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WhatUwish4
Jacksonville, Florida USA
Posted: Jun 15, 2008, 2:33 PM CST
StressFree wrote:
True...a divorce should not mean disaster unless their is a lot of hate and venom.


I think the worst part is that the children are made to feel as though they should choose sides. When one parent talks bad about the other, the child experiences a ton of guilt and conflict. To agree is to speak badly about the opposite person, but to disagree is disrespectful to the one speaking. They can't win either way. Lot's of conflict for a kid to handle and they don't have the skills yet to deal with such conflict. VERY selfish of the parents.
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StressFree
small city, Kalmar Sweden
Posted: Jun 15, 2008, 2:37 PM CST
WhatUwish4 wrote:
I think the worst part is that the children are made to feel as though they should choose sides. When one parent talks bad about the other, the child experiences a ton of guilt and conflict. To agree is to speak badly about the opposite person, but to disagree is disrespectful to the one speaking. They can't win either way. Lot's of conflict for a kid to handle and they don't have the skills yet to deal with such conflict. VERY selfish of the parents.


I agree. I can say that neither me or my kid's mom ever spoke derogatory of each other to the kids...and it shows in a good way of course....
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WhatUwish4
Jacksonville, Florida USA
Posted: Jun 15, 2008, 2:46 PM CST
StressFree wrote:
I agree. I can say that neither me or my kid's mom ever spoke derogatory of each other to the kids...and it shows in a good way of course....



Yeah. But feel free to pick your spouse apart here! We're all ears... LOL
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StressFree
small city, Kalmar Sweden
Posted: Jun 15, 2008, 2:52 PM CST
WhatUwish4 wrote:
Yeah. But feel free to pick your spouse apart here! We're all ears... LOL


She is an angel....
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