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HI Joanie
You betcha looks matteralong with age. occupation, education level, interests and hobbies, yada yada yada It has to do with an individuals process of selecting
a mate Based on compatibility and physical attraction For some.. intellegence might rank #1 on there list another person it may be there physical appearance or another may be attracted to a individual displaying a combination attributes of a pleasant personality, common interests, intellegence, financially secure and looks What I may consider beautiful in a women may be different form another man and I can tell you it is not just about looks there is more to a person than that outer shell

I'd be lying if I said looks don't matter. But, I will say that since I've gotten older that they don't matter as much. I think a person needs to be attracted somewhat to the person or they won't even give them a second thought. JMO

for me yes - but for women I hope not!!

Because she feels the same about you.

Everyone has their own opinion of what they find attractive looks wise. And yes, it's important to the initial attraction. It's also one of the reasons I don't respond to men who haven't posted pictures. True, like Claire has said before, I could be passing up George Clooney, but then again, if the guy is that good looking, why refuse to post a picture? Mine's posted....some men will find me attractive...some won't....it's just a matter of the ones that do falling into my category of what I find attractive for there to be communication......*still waiting*

I think anyone would be dissembling to say anything other than yes they do matter. However, they are not the only thing that matters, and not the most important thing by far....unless you are a fool.

I could not have said it better myself!Good job.

When I'm looking at the profile of a man I find good looking I also have a tendency to think that he'd never be interested in me.....one of the drawbacks of hearing the voice of my ex in my head from 17 years tearing down my self esteem...........Ok...the secrets out....I'm broken...lol

Not always, although I do agree, looks get you there; but sometimes it is a special "Who is this, wow he is interesting"feeling.But I do agree that everything else is what keeps you there.

Ileana

If we live with one foot in the past and one in the future we are stepping on the present!Never let an ex's voice ruin a good thing,.

hrt4lse, I know how you feel, Dear. I was treated the same way. I also do the same thing when I look at a good looking man on these sites. But then I think if they don't find me interesting enough to get to know me then to heck with'em. There is some one out there for me, and I just know it.

Well said Looking 4 love

I don't ever tell them that...lol...of course, maybe I just did!...lol It doesn't happen all the time....usually I try to have the same attitude you just mentioned....but once in awhile....it just gets to me....like when I'm so pickin tired of looking & not finding....lol

Easy to say....sometimes hard to do.

Looks always matter-but, I don't go for the "classic" handsome, I prefer an interesting face

I am a face addict. If his face bores me, than his personality usually does as well.

In school years, I dated very little because I was very serious about love and making a life. Too too many of the girls and women were simply too full of crap to bother with. Too much stupid mindedness.

In my life, I have met very few that are desirable because of the same crap. Looks are nothing....but you can't fix stupid and shallow and selfcentered and vanity and self pursuit without love for another except the love of them for what they can do for you minds.

There are few adults left but plenty of 20-70 year old teen agers. Thinking they know everything and don't know shit.

There are some good women here but distance is a killer for those who have large responsibilities and little time.


If there was a bomb dropped and all the crap was removed. You rolex would impress noone. To have your tits hanging out would not make guys look. You tatoos wouldn't be cool and all the other crap people do to feel important or better. If a man and a woman meet it would be the improtant things in life that would join them together. Life, love, family, children, tenderness, holding, touching, planning for better, working for better, grandchildren,....the future of the families. Not if the guy has the latest Xbox or if she has real tits or silicone.

Damn people! Wake up and get rid of the shit that is keeping ya'll apart. Trust has been replaced by greed. Love by looks. Sex and children by lust and wild pursuits. tenderness replaced by hornyness.

If we were all as we should be. This site would have never existed.

....... def the attraction has to be there...... xx