Posted: May 25, 2008, 9:40 AM CST
StressFree wrote:No probs Like I said, I was in a similar position. I waited, and waited, and waited, and waited. The woman I waited for, was afraid to commit. She said she did not want to complicate her life. She said she had strong feelings for me and loved me and all, but she was just too afraid to give it another try. She would pull me in, then push me away when things got close. She just wanted a relationship at a distance sort of speak. She was just kinda of a control freak. She liked the fact that I was out there still dangling and single as well as sitting and waiting for her. Then the second I tried to move on she would try and give me signals again and pull me back in her trap. Fu** that sh*t. I said later to all that eventually. It was just not bringing me happiness. I'd rather invest my time being alone and maybe finding somebody who was willing to experience more than some sexing here and there on her terms. Said matter was with my kids mom....
interesting how when we tell stories that might seem similar, they definitely arent because one move makes all the trip different...?
in this case, both are doing their lives normally, having their relationships. She more certain, stable than him, because he is really enjoying his single, independent life. He claims to not having a relationship...
at her last relationship he couldn't stop being present...never pressuring but wanting to know the standing of it...and horrorified with the idea that she could move with him to his country and all.
Ok, the difference is that she never really waited for him...but she realises that after 5 years, he is there...
No, we can't let people play with our feelings...
