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I didn't think you would

If you want my honest opinion on this matter - it's just like that because of the way it is dictated to us!!!

If men were'nt expected to be the hunters and women were'nt expected to be the prize then this cliché would never have lasted throughout human history...

How much copulating do you think would be happening if men suddenly all decided NOT to persue women anymore and simply hang around waiting for women to come to them? Not much I don't think - women like to be persued and they also love the attention that men give them when they flaunt themselves!

So it's only natural that men would give themselves a pat on th back when they score - afterall this is what society dictates for us. If it had been the other way around and that it was the women who went out looking for men flaunting themselves for attention then maybe this whole cliché would be turned around and then women would be giving themselves a good pat-on-the-back.....

I can arguably say that it has NOT always been men chasing the women. and there are still a few tribes in the world where the women DO choose their mate. do you know how the myth of vampires started? or how the myth of the fountain of youth started?

I keep hearing society "expects, dictates, norms, blah, blah, blah".
Aren't you all a part of society? Doesn't what you have to say count?
Do you let others decide how you feel or think?

Is that what you want to believe?

Keep perpetuating the age old myths and stereotypes and they'll stay as a part of the society you help to create.

I agree Kid... it does take a little bit of courage... and it comes easier to some rather than others (u included) but its not set in stone that we have to follow the rules that society dictate... society sucks.. it is clearly not working.. particularly where relationships are concerned.. as soon as we start liking and respecting ourselves and liking and respecting others.. the rewards will be great I am sure... Men and women have the potential to work perfectly together.. we were made that way... we just have to listen to our hearts and our better conscience more

I think it's been that way because of religion, and society perpetuates it.

Hollywood and Cosmo probably won't like that line of thinking much. Being realistic might cut into their profits.

The Bible is actually a good guide.... the thing about religion is that it dictates... orders without backing it up... the Bible is a great manual for life...

coincidentally I was at a church meet tonight and the topic was relationships the paster outlined a few basics and a couple of 'experienced' people let us in on some of their wisdoms and secret...
to me it makes perfect sense....

1. We should treat people with love and respect, even those (perhaps particularly those) which we do not wish to pursue a relationship with.. this means not playing with people, not treating them like a pair of shoes that we are trying on for size.. we all have hearts.. we all have feelings.. and if you treat people like that.. by the time they do meet the person that is for them they may be in shreds.. by the way we treat them.. we have a responsibility people

2. Relationships take time they take patience.. particularly at the early stages.. don't jump in.. get to know the person.. if you were buying a car you would surely check it out.. why would something as important as a lifetime commitment, be treated with less respect...

3. Friendship first... friendship is a precious thing.. if you have friendship and respect first and foremost, you will have a strong foundation that will enable you to survive the trials that are INEVIDABLE in a relationship..

4. Don't rush into sex.. again this relates to the responsibility that we have towards others.. but also.. it can cloud ur judgment... hands up who has had a whirlwind sexual romance, that when faded.. you asked urself.. gosh.. do I even know/like this person.. whooooops...

I have asked the speakers to email me the notes.. when I get them.. anyone who wants a peak is welcome to ask me basically..

The thruth.. the bible actually makes a lot of practical sense

It's about time we didn't exist to line THEIR pockets then

A little joke.



The Sermon

A little girl became restless as the preacher's sermon dragged on and on. Finally, she leaned over to her mother and whispered, "Mommy, if we give him the money now, will he let us go?"