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Hi everyone,

this is a sad day for me. one of my dear friend just lost her father today. and I don't have a nice word to comfort her.

To think I've lost mine three years ago, I should or could comfort her.
I feel like a bad friend.

Np need for words, just be there, hug her/him and listen

Hi Tuffy, thanks for the advice

Sometimes it's not about words, it's about being there as a shoulder to lean on or cry on. The ability to comfort the friend in their time of need. It's never easy for any of us to comfort a friend who has lost someone that is near and dear to them.

These two poems helped me when my grandparents passed on. I hope that they may bring comfort to your friend as they did for me.


Do not stand at my grave and weep

Do not stand at my grave and weep
I am not there. I do not sleep.
I am a thousand winds that blow.
I am the diamond glints on snow.
I am the sunlight on ripened grain.
I am the gentle autumn rain.
When you awaken in the morning's hush
I am the swift uplifting rush
Of quiet birds in circled flight.
I am the soft stars that shine at night.
Do not stand at my grave and cry;
I am not there. I did not die.

Mary E. Frye


To Those I Love
If I should ever leave you whom I love
To go along the Silent Way,
Grieve not,
Nor speak of me with tears,
But laugh and talk of me as if I were beside you there.

( I'd come - I'd come, could I but find a way!
But would not tears and grief be barriers? )
And when you hear a song
Or see a bird I loved,
Please do not let the thought of me be sad...
For I am loving you just as I always have...
You were so good to me!

There are so many things I wanted still to do -
So many things to say to you...
Remember that I did not fear...
It was Just leaving you that was so hard to face...
We cannot see Beyond...
But this I know:
I love you so -
'twas heaven here with you!

Isla Paschal Richardson

thanks, I make sure she read this. You're an

You're welcome...I'm no just someone that understands

wish I knew you years ago. when I lost my father, everyone thinks I'm fine because I didn't cry in front of them.

I already make a peace now, so its okay.

I don't think there are ever right words one can say in such situation.
Be there for your friend with your heart and soul, is the best you can offer.

wow...thatnk you for reminding me the poem of Mary Frye.....
It was on the tip of my tongue since a while ago and I couldn't remember it......so true and touching! Thank you!

Hi. Thanks for the advice...

What tufty said!!