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I have a confession to make, About a year ago I decided to stay celebit... I have had NO SEX what so ever...
In the past I used sex as a way to become closer to people instead of actually getting to know the person. All of my past relationships have just been based on wild, crazy sex.
So I have decided to wait for that special someone. When I meet him I still don't plan on sleeping with him for at least six months and spend that time forming a different kind of connection.
I know there is already a thread out there that talks about how long to wait. But I want to know if you guys found that certain special someone would it bother you to wait? Would you respect him or her... or do you think you would grow inpatient and bored?
Does this just seem plain stupid and crazy to you all?

Please be kind, I am sharing something rather personal...

As you get older you have less time to wait, but each to their own.

girl im not having any for 9yrs now waiting for my romeo and i know its worth the wait////and im lonely and horny too but o well life does go on

No, I think you are making the right decision, I'm curious to see the response from the men.

I don't think it is stupid or crazy..In August it will be 3 years that I have been celebit..I have really grown as a person. It has put perspective in my life and shown me what is really important in a relationship besides sex..Good luck

I have a great deal of respect on your decision.
Don't get me wrong , there's nothing wrong with wild and crazy sex, but if your looking for that special someone it can always wait. I don't see the need for a time line as you may feel what you want to feel before or after your 6 months. Do what you feel when you feel it.

There should be plenty to discover about you for the right person. Boredom or impatience should not be an issue.

To be honest, I prefer to wait 6 to 8 weeks..
( I know , that may sounds like a strange for a guy to say)


I do think if she didnt want to be that close after 6 to 8 weeks i would be automatically under the impression that there was something wrong..

I guess my way of dealing with that situation would be to distance myself from her

Been over 3 yrs for me, so wheres the crazy part?

Life is so much less complicated.
besides.. I am defined by much more than sex.

however.. you will find that setting a time limit is a joke.
When it is right it will happen.

I think waiting is a good idea. I'm not sure how long a wait, but I think if two people get to know each other they will know when the time is right.
If sex is introduced into the relationship right away I think it can confuse what your true feelings are.

Being the smart-ass that I am....I'll just withhold my comments

Yep!! I agree

Too early is bad news...

i have been without by choice now for bout 5 months now.....prob seems to be hard to find female companion ship that are for it......but thats the way it is for me right now......MOSTVIPER

If you can't separate feelings of love from feelings of sex, then it is best to wait before making sex a part of the relationship. If you feel you need to wait six weeks or six months or six years before you can determine that, then no one should question whether the decision is stupid or crazy, it's your decision to make.

I wouldn't say that I am setting a time limit, 6 months was an example, I definately know I want to wait a significant amount of time though to make sure that true feelings are confused at all by sex.

Thanks for all the advice everyone!

Everyone has there own opinions, and you need to do whats right for you. But I think your doing the right thing.
It has been 4 years for me now. But I would rather make a relationship first. Then build sex around it. Rather then have sex then try to build a relationship around that.

You are correct sir and it cost us both dearly, sad to say!

my hat to you

i posted the poll as a way to show all the women that always complain guys are not interested in a commited relationship but only in sex, they are also looking only for sex, most said will have sex withing one month. there is no way to get to know another person, within one month

you are in the right way to build a loving lifeterm relationship

i aplaud you and i hope you can stick to your ideas

Last time for me was New Years's Day. What a way to start the year. This is going to be my year for good luck. Just a superstition of mine.

talking from my experience (or better to say the experience of the couples i now)

from all those that waited at least one year to have sex, all but only 2 copuples are still toghether, some for 40 years now

all those that had sex withing the frist month, they split after sometime

the six month is the minimum i can consider safe for building a lifeterm loving relationship

waiting until you really know someone is good, but after a time, I do agree with Marty, things would begin to go downhill. When you get really close to someone, however long it takes, it's time to move to the next level... hot, wild, and randy sex.