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Well I am just one of a zillion women on the planet.. and a man being in a wheelchair wouldn't put me off.. so there MUST be HEAPS more woman out there that think like that too..

Anyway.. look at the bright side.. most of us here are not in wheelchairs .. and cant find anyone EITHER!... haha

Yeah, I'd like to meet someone like that. Can you introduce me?

Been there done that and don't think I would want to do it again, married to the father of my first 3, was with the father of my second 2 kids for almost 15 years with out being married, think I was far more commited to the relationship without the certificate than I was with

Thats it Trish, i blame her parents.

But wow!! I come back from the pub
and seven pages, hey on one of my
threads.

Irony is, out of all the threads i've posted,
this has had the most 'legs' but its been on
a subject i'm least interested in.

Anyway, as far as i'm concerned,

Its just a piece of paper!!!

heck Gra, they cant all have it as sussed as you and I they dont know the people we do obviously - all the people who have long term, very comitted and sucessful realtionships - full of the most beautiful love and mutual acceptance and still going strong after 20 or thirty years

maybe its something to do with the media

hi all....Am I the only guy on this topic????

I was married for a brief 2 years..( moved from my home in Miami Beach to London England to make it work )....had a one-and-a hlf year relationship with the woman on the phone and letters back and forth.....Among other things, she turned out not at all to be what I thought she was.....stupid me.....

I don't think I went into the marriage with all my brain-cells intact. I was lookig for THE partnership...and it did not work out.....simple as that.

Maybe I am old fashioned ( my parents still married after 54 years ) but I would love to make that commitment to someone in the future, that I really feel is "the one"...Of course I will take far better steps to get to know someone ( no long-distance marathons for me ever again!!! ) and then REALLY know if that person is the one I want to make that commitment with....

In response to the "piece of paper" thing....( I am not religious either, by the way ) I think people, by nature, want the easy way out of things....especially if you are arguing with your mate and " had it up to here"..it would be so easy to up and leave if there is no legal, binding "paper"...Too many men these days, leave thier mates in financial difficulties---with children, etc.....Society NEEDS this marriage thing if there is to be any fairness to the indivivuals involved....I know a guy can dump a woman, even if they are married....but there are safeguards in place to protect the "wronged" spouse......I ramble.....that's about it....


Anyone here near Miami for a nice meal out????

Ray

I did say earlier that I put up with a lot more than I have seen people getting divorces for and defy anybody to to quantify or qualify their level of commitment above mine

No you're not. I'm still here.

It depends on the people I guess.

this thread reminds me of this song

Now that you're gone
All that's left is a band of gold
All that's left of the dream I hold
Is a band of gold
And the memories of what love could be
If you are still here with me

You took me from the shelter of a mother I had never known
Who loved any other
We kissed after taking vows
But that night on our honeymoon
We stayed in separate rooms

I wait in the darkness of my lonely room
Filled with sadness, filled with gloom
Hoping soon that you'll walk
Back through that door
And love me like you tried before

Since you've been gone
All that's left is a band of gold
All that's left of the dream I hold
Is a band of gold
And the dream of what love could be
If you are still here with me

Ooh, don't you know that I wait in the darkness of my lonely room
Filled with sadness, filled with gloom
Hoping soon that you'll walk
Back through that door
And love me like you tried before

Since you've been gone
All that's left is a band of gold
All that's left of the dream I hold
Is a band of gold
And the dream of what love could be
If you are still here with me

Yeah, she never even had a sexciting wedding night by the sounds of it, if they stayed in separate rooms

She would have been better off with the "living in sin" option rather than the "Band of Gold" one

Gawd and i was going to ask you a Bodie to marry me

I've Just put that to him Mair.

Wags his tail and nods his head in approval.




As for me though...i'm trying to stay out of jail.

The only strong point of making the union legal is that children usually like their

parents to be married. Seems to make them feel more secure.

Otherwise-- I don't really see the point of having that legal document.

Two people can draw up their own promise (s) to each other. Seems like a lot less

hassel. Depends on one's age, whether there are children involved, how truly

devoted the couple is to each other, and...how secure you are about yourself.

My best friend is paraplegic. He got married 10 years ago. He thought the same way you did. He decided to become a social butterfly and have some fun. He would go out alot and meet new people all the time. Just keep putting yourself out there and meet new people. It will happen...the best of luck to you!!

I am 45 years old and never been married or have any kids.

Would love to be married....I just don't think it will happen...

Dreamer82,

My cousin married a guy in a wheelchair. They've been together almost 30 years. I didn't go to her wedding, I don't think I was invited. Knowing her, I'm not sure she invited anyone. Ben was in a wheelchair and part of the fam, 30 years ago. She never needed approval, for anything.

I was fond of a guy at work. If I hadn't been living with a guy, I would have asked him out. Frankly, wish I'd kept my job, dumped the romance, and asked out the guy in the chair.

If I'd been smart, that's exactly what I would have done.

Don't kid yourself, maybe you've met plenty of women who want to go out with you. Do they have boyfriends, would they call you, when they got single? Did you tell them you were interested? When was the last time you noticed a twinkle in a woman's eye? Did you give her your number? Make yourself available!

Some women could care less about your chair. If she twinkles, in her eyes, when she talks to you, give her a number!

How do you think you're qualified to give advice, to people who want to be married?

There's your first clue! You're 45, never been married. You never bothered taking a chance. You're the really scary guy.

So your point in being mean is?????????????????????? Ken didn't say anything wrong and he's got every right to express his thoughts and input. Just because someone is older and haven't been married yet - what's that got to do with anything?

Sometimes its not about "taking chances" ......... its about how your life unfolds and sometimes things are beyond our control. To consider marriage to someone isn't something that should be considered lightly.

Like the guy in the wheelchair, I have my own affliction. I have severe bipolar depression. It wasn't me not willing to take a chance, but the opposite. Noone would take a chance with me.

I have never hurt a soul in my life. I try to help people all the time. My best friend got injured in college..an accident that made him paraplegic. Most of his friends ran away from him. Not me. I use to drive up to where he went to college every weekend and did his laundry for him and run errands.

Maybe you are right. I am just a scary guy who has no business being on a dating site looking for someone with compassion and understanding, who I can give my love and support to. Not only am I the scary guy, but I am scared as hell noone will give me a chance to show them my compassion, love respect and caring, and I will end up dying alone.