Marriage...whats the point???

mbcasey
North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:12 AM CST

langleygirl wrote:

So your point in being mean is?????????????????????? Ken didn't say anything wrong and he's got every right to express his thoughts and input. Just because someone is older and haven't been married yet - what's that got to do with anything?

Sometimes its not about "taking chances" ......... its about how your life unfolds and sometimes things are beyond our control. To consider marriage to someone isn't something that should be considered lightly.

Thank you.

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Justme4uok
Northern CA, California USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:15 AM CST

mbcasey wrote:

I am 45 years old and never been married or have any kids.

Would love to be married....I just don't think it will happen...

It will happen when you leaset expect it to Ken!!! You need to finish that golf game first!!!

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mbcasey
North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:17 AM CST

Justme4uok wrote:

It will happen when you leaset expect it to Ken!!! You need to finish that golf game first!!!

No it won't...someone on page 7 of this thread said it won't. According to her, I am a scary guy and should not dispense advice. Thank you though...

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Portiea
Konstanz, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:17 AM CST

mbcasey wrote:

Like the guy in the wheelchair, I have my own affliction. I have severe bipolar depression. It wasn't me not willing to take a chance, but the opposite. Noone would take a chance with me.

I have never hurt a soul in my life. I try to help people all the time. My best friend got injured in college..an accident that made him paraplegic. Most of his friends ran away from him. Not me. I use to drive up to where he went to college every weekend and did his laundry for him and run errands.

Maybe you are right. I am just a scary guy who has no business being on a dating site looking for someone with compassion and understanding, who I can give my love and support to. Not only am I the scary guy, but I am scared as hell noone will give me a chance to show them my compassion, love respect and caring, and I will end up dying alone.

Wow, someone was way out of line saying you are a scary guy and have no right to give advice on marriage.. ....people who have been cautious and waited and not jumped into marriage are well equipped to give advice about this....because they have probably thought about it a lot and been in situations where they could have chosen to marry but didn't because it was the wrong decision. And being ill doesn't make you scary or disqualifiy you for a relationship---just like the rest of us, you just need to find the right person.....

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dcj22
Somewhere, Minnesota USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:17 AM CST

mbcasey wrote:

No it won't...someone on page 7 of this thread said it won't. According to her, I am a scary guy and should not dispense advice. Thank you though...

Oh, holy shit, Ken!!

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dcj22
Somewhere, Minnesota USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:19 AM CST

mbcasey wrote:

I am 45 years old and never been married or have any kids.

Would love to be married....I just don't think it will happen...

It's a very negative attitude my friend.

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mbcasey
North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:19 AM CST

dcj22 wrote:

Oh, holy shit, Ken!!

She is right Dana. I asked Suzy for one last chance tonight. She said no and my heart is shattered.

Who am I to give anyone advice?

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Justme4uok
Northern CA, California USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:20 AM CST

mbcasey wrote:

No it won't...someone on page 7 of this thread said it won't. According to her, I am a scary guy and should not dispense advice. Thank you though...

She obviously does not know what she is talking about... I see nothing scary about you Ken....

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dcj22
Somewhere, Minnesota USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:20 AM CST

muppetkiller wrote:

Dreamer82,

My cousin married a guy in a wheelchair. They've been together almost 30 years. I didn't go to her wedding, I don't think I was invited. Knowing her, I'm not sure she invited anyone. Ben was in a wheelchair and part of the fam, 30 years ago. She never needed approval, for anything.

I was fond of a guy at work. If I hadn't been living with a guy, I would have asked him out. Frankly, wish I'd kept my job, dumped the romance, and asked out the guy in the chair.

If I'd been smart, that's exactly what I would have done.

Don't kid yourself, maybe you've met plenty of women who want to go out with you. Do they have boyfriends, would they call you, when they got single? Did you tell them you were interested? When was the last time you noticed a twinkle in a woman's eye? Did you give her your number? Make yourself available!

Some women could care less about your chair. If she twinkles, in her eyes, when she talks to you, give her a number!

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dcj22
Somewhere, Minnesota USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:22 AM CST

mbcasey wrote:

She is right Dana. I asked Suzy for one last chance tonight. She said no and my heart is shattered.

Who am I to give anyone advice?

Oh, honey!! I'm so sorry. Sweetie, obviously she isn't the one for you. Ken, you are one of the most wonderful guys that I've ever known. She just doesn't know what she sees apparently. I don't know what to say. I'm so sorry.

I'm here for you my friend.

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Portiea
Konstanz, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:23 AM CST

mbcasey wrote:

Who am I to give anyone advice?

Probably just about as good to give advice as the rest of us.....no one really has the answers....just our own experiences and the brains and senses through which we have filtered them....

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dcj22
Somewhere, Minnesota USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:25 AM CST

Portiea wrote:

Probably just about as good to give advice as the rest of us.....no one really has the answers....just our own experiences and the brains and senses through which we have filtered them....

Very true, my friend. I have tears in my eyes at the thought of my friend, Ken, in such pain. One of the best guys I've ever known.

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mylifewithu
springfield, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:27 AM CST

mbcasey wrote:

No it won't...someone on page 7 of this thread said it won't. According to her, I am a scary guy and should not dispense advice. Thank you though...

Ken don't think like that!! You already know I have a lot of fun with you and if you lived near me, I would date you in a heartbeat!! I have a girlfriend who is bipolar, she isn't like a lot of them are, she gets really depressed at times, but thats all. I already knew that you are bipolar from the thread you announced that in, but did it stop me from having fun with you on cs, No, cause I love your great big freaking heart!!
As for dreamer kid in a wheelchair, I have been helping him with his profile, poor kid thought he could only have two sentences on it, and it was bad. Anyway he has improved it some!!
As for you don't let people like that one woman get you down, I used to think the same way , to run if they have never been married. But since then, I have found out many of them have bigger hearts than I have ever met.

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mbcasey
North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:29 AM CST

Thanks everyone, but what is the use? I just have to accept it and try to live a productive life alone.

I know I am whining, but after years of being alone, the message is on the wall.

Thank you all and goodnight.

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langleygirl
Langley, British Columbia Canada

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:32 AM CST

Portiea wrote:

Wow, someone was way out of line saying you are a scary guy and have no right to give advice on marriage.. ....people who have been cautious and waited and not jumped into marriage are well equipped to give advice about this....because they have probably thought about it a lot and been in situations where they could have chosen to marry but didn't because it was the wrong decision. And being ill doesn't make you scary or disqualifiy you for a relationship---just like the rest of us, you just need to find the right person.....

I totally agree .............. we all deserve love - its about finding the right people to include in our circle ..... whether it be friend(s), or a partner. Sometimes those that struggle - have compassion and understanding that goes beyond most others who have never faced any long-term issues .......... may scare others away - but those with an understanding see the person beyond their faults and fallacies.

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screenangel
Orange Park, Florida USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:32 AM CST

I've already had a lengthy marriage, and although it ended in divorce, I regret neither. I've been very happy living on my own for 14 years now, but I'd like the legality of marriage, if I were ever to live with someone again. I'd be the first not to take a live-in relationship seriously....feel no real commitment to it. ...and, since that would be the case, he may as well live in his own house! lol!

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Portiea
Konstanz, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:35 AM CST

screenangel wrote:

I've already had a lengthy marriage, and although it ended in divorce, I regret neither. I've been very happy living on my own for 14 years now, but I'd like the legality of marriage, if I were ever to live with someone again. I'd be the first not to take a live-in relationship seriously....feel no real commitment to it. ...and, since that would be the case, he may as well live in his own house! lol!

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muppetkiller
Snyder, Oklahoma USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 12:55 AM CST

langleygirl wrote:

So your point in being mean is?????????????????????? Ken didn't say anything wrong and he's got every right to express his thoughts and input. Just because someone is older and haven't been married yet - what's that got to do with anything?

Sometimes its not about "taking chances" ......... its about how your life unfolds and sometimes things are beyond our control. To consider marriage to someone isn't something that should be considered lightly.

I wasn't trying to be mean. It hit me like a person who's never had kids, trying to give advice.

The input may be valuable, but there's a lack of experience. Not mean, just honest.

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mylifewithu
springfield, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 1:04 AM CST

KEN DON'T GO!!!!!!!!!!!!

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Jun 1, 2008, 1:51 AM CST

muppetkiller wrote:

I wasn't trying to be mean. It hit me like a person who's never had kids, trying to give advice.

The input may be valuable, but there's a lack of experience. Not mean, just honest.

I'm sorry but you have no right to give an opinion about someone you know nothing about....and no weren't honest you were down right rude!!!!!!!!!!

YOU hurt a man with a very kind heart in the process....Perhaps some people's words are better kept to themselves...Hope you're satisfied with yourself!!!!!!!!!!!