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Reading the responses on the other thread on people being cautious or picky .. i am wondering when do people know that they have met the one ?

uhh noooo .. i amnt crazy .. ermm as yet , just thinking .. when people say " and i fell in love " or " i didnt feel the same " but absolutely admire the other person ... How does one know or decide if thats the feeling or thats the person or not ?? How does one know its not infatuation or just the rosy period of liking someone but more than just another crush ??

ermm making this sound a little more sane .. What factors or pointers would you consider while making the decision if you are serious in the way you feel and if thats the person ??

And further .. what factors would you consider while deciding to take it one step further in to getting married ???

HHm ........... good decisions shouldn't all be based on "feelings" because those are going to change over time and circumstances. I think that love is a choice - you make the choice to love someone. Yes, I know all about those feelings of infatuation, lust etc. ........ but I think that choosing a partner involves much more than that.


As for the infatuation stage ......... I think that this is where time comes gets involved and when those feelings subside - could you still envision or do you even want that person to be in your future?

As well - the choice to make a commitment to another - not sure many people truly understand the depth and scope of that word and what it truly entails. If I were serious about getting married - I'd seek out advice to make sure that I was on the right path because I'd want to make sure that I did have a firm foundation to base my relationship on.

Nicely put..

Something to think on...

As you know Eric and I will be Married this year...We both spent time on here b4 we met to really get to know one another..His likes and dislikes and well as mine...

We spent time together with the children and without...We get along quite well....

I have some jealously...but that is not his fault its mine..and he does work with me on that and understands....

There is not much i dont like about him..Only the fact he gives to easily
what i mean by that is...anyone who wants help from him..like a shirt off his back..money...shoulder to cry on..someone just to kick it with..and so on...

I wouldnt want to change him ever...

He really is totally one in a million...

You both are one in a million and make a great couple.....

Thank you babe...

Maybe he's got the t-shirt?????????????? That'll be the SIGN.

Yeah.. maybe it's a T Shirt with a sign ON it..

like..

It's me It's me It's me It's me It's me It's me

I am not sure that I understand your question.
But I thought I knew until you asked.

It's a two sided thing, Does he make me feel emotionally good, and do I make him feel that way as well. can we have fun together, can we laugh together, do we really enjoy each other, are we really suportive of each other, is there a true give and take in the relationship, is the give and take equal, these are the basics. how often do we have an disagreement are we really compatible? there are so many things to concider for marriage. kids jobs locations ex's families, your own strengths his strengths as well as weaknesses. But this is just answering with JMO on marriage.
As far as how do you know if it is love or just an infatuation. I usually ask my self what would be the most I would do for this person, and what would I not do? Is he worth giving up everything I have and everything I know? And if I am wrong would it still be worth it in the end. if the answer is yes for me than I know I love him.
Really I am glad you asked this question, because I have been trying to decide all of this my self. And answering this has helped me to make up my mind some. So thank you!

You dont...could be like trying to hold water in your hands and all the time it's seeping through your fingers....

Can we really put all the 'considerations' into writing?

your lucky if you fall in love more that twice in your life..and you know your in love !! it won,t be a question.. your heart will ache when there not around ,,

for me it's all about how I feel when I am with that person...only time will tell if he or she is the right one...the more you get to know them the more you know if you want to spend the rest of your life with them...

By now, I need one that says : PICK ME PICK ME

FOR THE LOVE OF GOD AND ALL HE CREATED PICK ME....



that's the sign I'm looking for.....

I thinking if we knew the answer to this... we wouldn't be single.

I'm thinking finding a happily married forum might be the better place to ask this question. in fact.... I would have a lot of questions for them.

i found you never know...cause just when you think this is the one you find out it was the other one....

hmmmm true !!!! In fact scary but true ...

How much of effort going in to trial of possibilities .. phew !!

ahhh ..