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Arlene101: Hi Jeff: I saw your mugshot on here twice in the last 2 weeks when I signed in and today I saw this one you are using now.

mastic55: s to adjust or is totally out mind at this point.....don't give up but be careful.

Ambrose2007: Hi, Arlene!

How did you know this was a mugshot?? (I told the police that I was merely on my way to a Halloween party but my car broke down so I had to hobble along the main boulevard downtown in my high heels and hot pants and was only trying to hitch a ride when that nasty undercover cop picked me up! What happened to having a little human faith in people?)

mastic55: With all the new laws and rights he has to be gay....all joking aside, I been around for a while it sounds like he's setting you up to move in and live off you...jmo

tabyjean: OK...I met this guy about 3 months ago that lives in my town from another on line dating site. I really like him but not sure what to do or what to think. I'm not going to tell his hole life story but here is why I'm confused.

We met & hit it off really well. He told me he was really interested in me & was in this for the long hall but we weren't together officially if you know what I mean. Anyways, he just got out of prison & is trying to get his life on the right track... He all the sudden vanishes for like 2 weeks than texts me asking if i could forgive someone who just vanished? I said yes cause I'm one who gives chances but asked why he did that. He told me that the person he was living with was given a 3 day notice that he couldn't be there or they would loose their apt. Now he's living in a men's christian home & working on getting things right in his life. He mad plans to come over 1day after helping his pregnant sister move...he text saying he was done & was going to call me when he got back to his mothers & never did! 2 days later he text saying he was sorry his sister worked his but off & it was getting late & he didn't know how to tell me without me getting mad & how much he wanted me. He asked me if I've been with anyone else & I said no...He said he likes when a girl is faithful & he's down for his girl & asked if I would do that for him? Today will be 3 days & I haven't heard from him.

I understand he's been through a lot & has a lot going on but I'm wondering if this is a game he's playing or should I just be patient? Tell me what you think please...

fireliter: Forced isolation from society and family causes alot of disruption in ones life... employment, living situation, even self esteem can be damaged to an extent.

I know when I did a 90 day sentence, what my wants and needs where upon my release... I needed a job and a residence.... I wanted the affections of a woman.

allow him to establish / acquire his basic needs for living... and in the meantime do not allow your desire for companionship with him to destroy your own heart or life.
remember if he is in a needy situation he is not his own man and others that offer him shelter food and means to survive will be controlling his actions.

tabyjean: Well thank you all...I heard from him today but don't think i'm going to walk away or stay...I think I'm just going to shop around for a while before I make any decisions & see what happens...because I see that he has a lot going on & it may be that hes playing games & he may not be

langleygirl: Think you are best to take a step back ............... you deserve the best - so why settle for less?

There's a girl I work with - similar situation ......... now she's got a kid with him - he doesn't work because he can't hold down a job and there are lots of other problems that this guy has as well ........ her life is hell because of the choices that she made.

Unfortunately its not only affecting her but also all her kids lives. Sometimes we can love people - but its sometimes best to not be with them in a relationship.

dcj22: He is taking you for a ride just to control you. Dump his sorry ass

tabyjean: OK...I met this guy about 3 months ago that lives in my town from another on line dating site. I really like him but not sure what to do or what to think. I'm not going to tell his hole life story but here is why I'm confused.

We met & hit it off really well. He told me he was really interested in me & was in this for the long hall but we weren't together officially if you know what I mean. Anyways, he just got out of prison & is trying to get his life on the right track... He all the sudden vanishes for like 2 weeks than texts me asking if i could forgive someone who just vanished? I said yes cause I'm one who gives chances but asked why he did that. He told me that the person he was living with was given a 3 day notice that he couldn't be there or they would loose their apt. Now he's living in a men's christian home & working on getting things right in his life. He mad plans to come over 1day after helping his pregnant sister move...he text saying he was done & was going to call me when he got back to his mothers & never did! 2 days later he text saying he was sorry his sister worked his but off & it was getting late & he didn't know how to tell me without me getting mad & how much he wanted me. He asked me if I've been with anyone else & I said no...He said he likes when a girl is faithful & he's down for his girl & asked if I would do that for him? Today will be 3 days & I haven't heard from him.

I understand he's been through a lot & has a lot going on but I'm wondering if this is a game he's playing or should I just be patient? Tell me what you think please...

tabyjean: OK...I met this guy about 3 months ago that lives in my town from another on line dating site. I really like him but not sure what to do or what to think. I'm not going to tell his hole life story but here is why I'm confused.

We met & hit it off really well. He told me he was really interested in me & was in this for the long hall but we weren't together officially if you know what I mean. Anyways, he just got out of prison & is trying to get his life on the right track... He all the sudden vanishes for like 2 weeks than texts me asking if i could forgive someone who just vanished? I said yes cause I'm one who gives chances but asked why he did that. He told me that the person he was living with was given a 3 day notice that he couldn't be there or they would loose their apt. Now he's living in a men's christian home & working on getting things right in his life. He mad plans to come over 1day after helping his pregnant sister move...he text saying he was done & was going to call me when he got back to his mothers & never did! 2 days later he text saying he was sorry his sister worked his but off & it was getting late & he didn't know how to tell me without me getting mad & how much he wanted me. He asked me if I've been with anyone else & I said no...He said he likes when a girl is faithful & he's down for his girl & asked if I would do that for him? Today will be 3 days & I haven't heard from him.

I understand he's been through a lot & has a lot going on but I'm wondering if this is a game he's playing or should I just be patient? Tell me what you think please...

tabyjean: Maybe I said that wrong...I didn't mean I'm going for him...I think I'm just going to keep meeting new people & dating...take the time to get to know people as I'm dating & see what happens. I'm not going to just walk away from him cause it could be many things but I'm not going to just wait around for him...did that make more sense?

fireliter: Forced isolation from society and family causes alot of disruption in ones life... employment, living situation, even self esteem can be damaged to an extent.

I know when I did a 90 day sentence, what my wants and needs where upon my release... I needed a job and a residence.... I wanted the affections of a woman.

allow him to establish / acquire his basic needs for living... and in the meantime do not allow your desire for companionship with him to destroy your own heart or life.
remember if he is in a needy situation he is not his own man and others that offer him shelter food and means to survive will be controlling his actions.

langleygirl: lol .......... short and to the point!

dcj22: I'm sorry, I'm in pain. I shouldn't have been like that. Can I use the fact that Portiea, my evil twin, is taking a break so I'll have to fill in for her on the evil part? I'm sorry tabbyjean, I didn't mean to be rude. I just think this man is going to hurt you in the end. Then he'll go on and lead his life while you pick up the pieces of yours. I'd hate to see that happen.

tabyjean: Its ok...I asked for others opinions, & you all are just telling me what you think or have learned from your lives. I'm not taking it personal. I've been through so much & am still learning. & I can bet I will make so many more mistakes through my life that I will learn from. That is why I ask others for their thoughts...so I can learn...LOL I may not always listen but I at least do my best...

tabyjean: He asked me if I've been with anyone else & I said no...He said he likes when a girl is faithful & he's down for his girl & asked if I would do that for him? Today will be 3 days & I haven't heard from him.

I understand he's been through a lot & has a lot going on but I'm wondering if this is a game he's playing or should I just be patient? Tell me what you think please...