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BnaturAl Sarnia, Ontario Canada
FlowerOfTheSun: Intelligence V broadmindedness!!!!

Some people equate intelligence to being able to "talk" about numerous subjects ...

IMO, SOME people are ABLE to talk about many subjects BUT are soooooooooo (to nick one of Hugz fav expressions!! ) LINEAR with their way of thinking that discussing anything with them is unpleasant ... Their way of thinking can be that everything is either black or white ... Soooooooooooo tiresome!!!!!!!

I much prefer someone who is open minded and able to explore others point of view ...
Sharing similar values and ideals is also trully important in a relationship ... If children are going to be involved to actually agree on subjects like "how to bring up the kids" is paramount, in my experience ... (I learned that the hard way BTW!!! )For instence what good would it be to share one's life with someone who we can stay up till the small hours "debating" if when it come to practical stuff he/she defines everything around them in "material terms" and the other defines everything around them in spiritual terms?


:hmm: most of what you're saying is behavioral, chosen or learned. While behavior modification is intelligent (imho) rating behavior as intelligent or not, based on differences (usually biased) alone is somewhat subjective. A meeting of the minds is intelligent partnering, smart, efficient communication.

does that sound linear? laugh
ladyvirtue52 redding, California USA
riyablossom: hmm I have heard this so often about i would like to meet someone intelligent and smart ... etc.

What do you think you are looking for when you are seeking a mental match ? Is it his/her ability to keep up an intelligent conversation or have an opinion whatever it might be or plain be receptive of what you are talking about ?

How do you assess smartness on the " scale of the mind " ?

Does it matter at all ????


Finding an intelligent man is part of the qualities that I seek..A man that isnt intelligent turns me off..he must posess many other attributes that I admire as well..But an intelligent man shows alot about his character and how he handles his life...being a responsible adult and acting like one..professor



kidatheart Southern BC/Lamont, Alberta Canada
ladyvirtue52: Finding an intelligent man is part of the qualities that I seek..A man that isnt intelligent turns me off..he must posess many other attributes that I admire as well..But an intelligent man shows alot about his character and how he handles his life...being a responsible adult and acting like one..



Rules me out.laugh

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jampet wexford, Wexford Ireland
kidatheart: Rules me out.


He** that rules MOST of us outrolling on the floor laughing
arabella Temple, Maine USA
kidatheart: Rules me out.


That's what I like about you, Harry rolling on the floor laughing
Tater springfield, Illinois USA
riyablossom: hmm I have heard this so often about i would like to meet someone intelligent and smart ... etc.

What do you think you are looking for when you are seeking a mental match ? Is it his/her ability to keep up an intelligent conversation or have an opinion whatever it might be or plain be receptive of what you are talking about ?

How do you assess smartness on the " scale of the mind " ?

Does it matter at all ????



Well as for me, I say I want someone that has some intelligence and common sense simply I want someone that can understand simple logic, reading, writing, math and be able to hold a conversation about all sorts of things not just about sports or politics or religion, or biology I want them to have a little knowledge in alot of areas the listed are just as an example.

Then from the common sense aspect here is an example: If I put someone in a square room with a ceiling and tell them to take a broom over all of it before (i don't know we paint lets say) if they did not sweep the ceiling off first then the walls from top to bottom and lastly sweep the floor they are to stupid as far as common sense is concerned for me. and only people who have common sense can understand why



Dont_Look_Now Huntsville, Alabama USA
I'm looking for someone who stimulates me intellictually by being able to understand what I'm talking about in a conversation but at the same time, I want him to be able to be goofy and make me laugh too laugh Call it a happy medium is what I'm looking thumbs up
Emanuellla la rascruce de vanturi San Marino
riyablossom: hmm I have heard this so often about i would like to meet someone intelligent and smart ... etc.

What do you think you are looking for when you are seeking a mental match ? Is it his/her ability to keep up an intelligent conversation or have an opinion whatever it might be or plain be receptive of what you are talking about ?

How do you assess smartness on the " scale of the mind " ?

Does it matter at all ????


smartness is smth that can be obtained by patience and study...i never used to pay too much attention to it because it can easily be modified into better or worselaugh

i am rather looking for a heart match (sweetness and beauty of heart is smth u have or u don't from the very beginning) and i am searching for those who do have them:) ( well...that doesn't mean i made the right choices haha)
somechick Cincinnati Ohio, Ohio USA
What she said is what I'd be looking for too.thumbs up



Dont_Look_Now: I'm looking for someone who stimulates me intellictually by being able to understand what I'm talking about in a conversation but at the same time, I want him to be able to be goofy and make me laugh too Call it a happy medium is what I'm looking
Trood Mojacar, Andalucia Spain


Thank you both for your welcome.

Flower Of The Sun:
I did realise, that maybe you meant it in another way.
More overall, than point of contact.
Sorry I took the wrong option.

Best wishes to you and Gongman.

Do your parents live in M----r?

Best wishes to Rivablossom

Take care
Trood



stefonline Dublin, Dublin Ireland
hmm I have heard this so often about i would like to meet someone intelligent and smart ... etc.

What do you think you are looking for when you are seeking a mental match ? Is it his/her ability to keep up an intelligent conversation or have an opinion whatever it might be or plain be receptive of what you are talking about ?

How do you assess smartness on the " scale of the mind " ?

Does it matter at all ????[/quote





An extremely rare species to find these days........rolling on the floor laughing



mynameisvivi Mexico City, Distrito Federal Mexico
I don't really care how many doctorates one has, if he can't figure out basic things. I guess I am looking for somebody who is logical and and able to asses situations in life and form an opinion about it.



gingerb Letterkenny, Donegal Ireland
I like intelligence, not equating to education so much, as quick on the uptake. Able to get the joke, or have the odd smart answer ready. I've met a few very educated people who were not intelligent at all. They were quite boring in that they never got the essence of what was said. I have also met people who hardly went to school who were smart and witty and good fun.

I believe intelligence is definitely not about education or lack of it. wine




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