Bitter women / altering advice?

HJFinAZ
Sun (Sin) CIty, Arizona USA

Posted: Jun 5, 2008, 11:07 PM CST

Arlene101 wrote:

I just checked in but I wanted to bump this thread until tomorrow. Almost 1a.m. my time.. I am interested in this one!!!!

QUICK!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Come to AZ, it is only 9:00PM here..

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slim1977
Grand Rapids, Michigan USA

Posted: Jun 5, 2008, 11:08 PM CST

I was cheated on. I dont ever think there is a reason to cheat. in my case I decided to stay and try to make it work..... 3 years later here I am at CS so I guess we know how that turned out. as for fault it is always the fault of the person that cheats..... they made the decison to step over the line. even as bad as my relationship was I never did. just not right in my opinion.

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HJFinAZ
Sun (Sin) CIty, Arizona USA

Posted: Jun 5, 2008, 11:12 PM CST

I went out with a woman a while back, now I have arthritis in my right hand..

Revenge, I am sure of it..

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 3:37 AM CST

Hugz_n_Kissez wrote:

There is never any good reason to cheat...if you aren't happy and have the urge to cheat...fine...end the relationship first and go do your thing....Cheating is selfish and cowardly and a nice way of destroying someone elses life so you can have something on the side because heaven forbid if you end up alone!!!!!!!!

It's all about the cheater...never about the cheated...bottom line....You will never hear me say that cheating is ok...because it's not!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry.
Your comment in the karma thread,
where the opening OP was partially about a gal cheating and getting played in return.

hugz wrote:

..Nothing you did was wrong...wanting to be loved is never wrong...BUT what these 2 men did was wrong so please don't let them further victimize you

But others have done the same.. one set of rules for one perso and a different set for someone else.

Remember how badly Mary got blasted for sim...Meaning her living situation?!

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 3:45 AM CST

dcj22 wrote:

WTF? Who said it's okay for anyone to cheat and why is this just directed at women like it's all out fault? I don't get it, Ras.

It is not just directed at women..till it gets down to the last 4 lines.. all else is in general.. pertaining to both men and women...

But it is titled "bitter Women" because of so many different women over time bashing men for cheating. then turning around later and telling another woman that is was ok... it was the mans fault.
it don't happen constantly,, but I have been here reading for over a year and have seen it several times.

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 3:47 AM CST

sxc666 wrote:

I didnt know you were having surgery Ras. But glad it went well and hope you feel better soon.

was slightly mentioned in the OP.
no real big deal, Just got the plate taken out of the heel.
But the Meds are fantastic!!!

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 3:50 AM CST

HJFinAZ wrote:

I have tasted a few and none tasted bitter to me...

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morningmist
portland, Oregon USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 4:00 AM CST

slim1977 wrote:

I was cheated on. I dont ever think there is a reason to cheat. in my case I decided to stay and try to make it work..... 3 years later here I am at CS so I guess we know how that turned out. as for fault it is always the fault of the person that cheats..... they made the decison to step over the line. even as bad as my relationship was I never did. just not right in my opinion.

I was cheated on also. Sadly enough I stayed around and tried to make it work and was cheated on again. There is no reason in blaming anyone. I was hurt and still stayed so who's fault is it that he did it a second time. If you are not happy were you are you leave before you have to decide to cheat or not. In the mean time "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." At least that is how I remember the saying. Blame is just a way not to move on. I will not let him ruin my day.

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 5:27 AM CST

morningmist wrote:

I was cheated on also. Sadly enough I stayed around and tried to make it work and was cheated on again. There is no reason in blaming anyone. I was hurt and still stayed so who's fault is it that he did it a second time. If you are not happy were you are you leave before you have to decide to cheat or not. In the mean time "fool me once, shame on you. Fool me twice, shame on me." At least that is how I remember the saying. Blame is just a way not to move on. I will not let him ruin my day.

That is exactly what I say all of the time.
A mistake it like taking the trash out on the wrong, or- running into another car while backing up.

But cheating is NOT a mistake..... it is a decision.

Know how badly I would hurt if my partner cheated.... regardless why.

So, I will NOT be the cause of anyone else hurting like that.

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 5:29 AM CST

rasgumby wrote:

That is exactly what I say all of the time.
A mistake it like taking the trash out on the wrong day, or- running into another car while backing up.

But cheating is NOT a mistake..... it is a decision.

Know how badly I would hurt if my partner cheated.... regardless why.

So, I will NOT be the cause of anyone else hurting like that.

oops

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j_goose71
Over there USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 5:38 AM CST

In My book, cheating makes you trash. Period.

If you're not happy in the relationshp, get the FK out. It's pretty simple.

If there really was a god, all you cheaters would be FKed.

You can be sure, that if my SO cheated on me, her sh*t would be out on the front lawn. (did it before, 'll do it again)

And yes, RAS, I've seen the same posts that you have. Over and over. Kind of entertaining actually. To see who remains true to themselves and who stays "holier than thou".

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 5:44 AM CST

j_goose71 wrote:

In My book, cheating makes you trash. Period.

If you're not happy in the relationshp, get the FK out. It's pretty simple.

If there really was a god, all you cheaters would be FKed.

You can be sure, that if my SO cheated on me, her sh*t would be out on the front lawn. (did it before, 'll do it again)

And yes, RAS, I've seen the same posts that you have. Over and over. Kind of entertaining actually. To see who remains true to themselves and who stays "holier than thou".

my view also...
If they cheat.. man or woman.. you have just made the decision yourself that it is over.

There is NO reason... just excuses.

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j_goose71
Over there USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 5:45 AM CST

rasgumby wrote:

my view also...
If they cheat.. man or woman.. you have just made the decision yourself that it is over.

There is NO reason... just excuses.

What's that quote?

"Excuses are like assholes, everybody's got one."

{and they all stink}

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sxc666
Central Coast, New South Wales Australia

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 5:47 AM CST

rasgumby wrote:

my view also...
If they cheat.. man or woman.. you have just made the decision yourself that it is over.

There is NO reason... just excuses.

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DragonLee
pleasantville, New Jersey USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 5:57 AM CST

tabyjean wrote:

I think cheating is wrong on both ends whether its the man or woman cheating...There are lots of excuses people make for cheating...If you cheat on someone it's because your having relationship problems & must not be happy so why not just end the relationship? That doesn't mean you don't love them but why put yourself & the other person through so much more heart ache than needed?

Well said why put that other person through so much more heart ache especailly when there are small kids involed, in my case i later one of her gay brother whom i turn down his advances told his sister he seen me with another girl so she thought she was getting back at me.

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prncss4someone
Hopeful, Michigan USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 6:00 AM CST

why bother with a relationship if you are going to cheat? There's the door, if you are that miserable, use it. I never figured out why people would stay with each other, and cheat. Makes no sense. Man or Woman....

Hope your surgery went well

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 6:02 AM CST

prncss4someone wrote:

why bother with a relationship if you are going to cheat? There's the door, if you are that miserable, use it. I never figured out why people would stay with each other, and cheat. Makes no sense. Man or Woman....

Hope your surgery went well

Thanks, went pretty well, what planet am I on

on oxy...

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prncss4someone
Hopeful, Michigan USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 6:09 AM CST

rasgumby wrote:

Thanks, went pretty well, what planet am I on
on oxy...

whatcha mean Puppy? Didn't I make sense?

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rasgumby
Moberly, Missouri USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 6:11 AM CST

prncss4someone wrote:

whatcha mean Puppy? Didn't I make sense?

Pain meds... lalalalalalala

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opalbeauty
Worcester County USA

Posted: Jun 6, 2008, 6:11 AM CST

I have never cheated but I have been cheated on....I kind of think crazy glue does justice.

But really, I think it's over when one cheats on me.

And I have received emails from married men asking if I would date them. That is a big turn off to me.

I have been lucky that I have never been misled by a married man.

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