sex , are you casual or serious

mattbat
dunedin, Otago New Zealand

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 10:37 AM CST

Well Im just curious to get a world view of how poeple feel. Im in Bangkok wattching all the Brits and Yanks an d god knows who else going crazy over the local "sexually relaxed" customs and personally my few casual encounters in my life have beek just OK, compared to when theres "love being made", so if you feel like sharing....

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gentlepaws
Any town, Ontario Canada

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 10:43 AM CST

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Well Im just curious to get a world view of how poeple feel. Im in Bangkok wattching all the Brits and Yanks an d god knows who else going crazy over the local "sexually relaxed" customs and personally my few casual encounters in my life have beek just OK, compared to when theres "love being made", so if you feel like sharing....

Not into "sport sex" making "Love", is just that, making love. Sex without love, is just mutual masterbation. Paws

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singleenuff
nashville USA

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 11:20 AM CST

Nice way to put it Paws! I agree!

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CrystalChica
Goose Bay, Newfoundland Canada

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 11:48 AM CST

In cultures were sex is "relaxed" aka prostitution is legal, sex is sex. There's a big difference between, having sex and making love. However, I also believe that both types of intercourse happens in relationships. I've lived in cultures were sex is hushed, and cultures were you can get a lic. to sell yourself, and sex is valued in both, within the context of the relationship.

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k_macd11
Sherwood Park, Alberta Canada

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 3:21 PM CST

Sex is the expressioj of your feelings for someone else, therefore, it should and has to be serious!

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Wings
St. John's , Newfoundland Canada

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 3:23 PM CST

Sex is just a warm body, where as making love has the emotions involved. I have always made love, never had just "sex" ! ;-)

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joovisst
Sodermanland, Sodermanland Sweden

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 3:28 PM CST

No love, no sex, thats it.

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Meilandra
Eden Prairie, Minnesota USA

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 3:58 PM CST

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No love, no sex, thats it.

Ideally I wish I could say that... but it's been a while already, and it depends on how frustrated I'm feeling. "Toys" can only work to a point... But I wouldn't just pick up some stranger, it would have to be someone I felt some connection with, so although it might not be "making love", it wouldn't be just sex either.

Maybe "friends with benefits"?

I don't know...

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adj4u
north central USA

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 4:02 PM CST

sex is serious no matter how casual it seems to be

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PILOLO
Noordoostpolder, Flevoland Netherlands

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 5:22 PM CST

Sex should be serious , unfortunately western society has become so morally bankrupt that sex has become almost meaningless . Having sex and making love have become practically synonymous . In a normal setting, the former involves giving in to the animal instincts inherent in every one of us , while the latter has to do with feelings of love and affection . Unfortunately, we live in abnormal times.

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fcryan
limerick, Limerick Ireland

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 5:29 PM CST

definitely couldn't just have sex, I'm an old fashioned girl when it comes to this subject, being in love and that first time that the two of you become one, is so deep on so many different levels and nothing can even come close to it. dont get me wrong every one has there own opinions on this and fair play i just couldnt have sex just for the sake of it. i'd rather use my toys than pick up a stranger lol.

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sxyeyez87
Lebanon USA

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 5:46 PM CST

I personally cant do the casual thing, i tried to and i just get too attached, so I think that sex shouldnt be casual, but it all depends on the person.

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Katine76
Moncton Canada

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 5:56 PM CST

I have had very very few one night stands and to be honest its not for me. When I want to get physical and intimate with someone its with someone I know that its going to be serious and not casual. I do not refer to it either as sex. To me its making love.

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nwnstar
Conway USA

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 5:58 PM CST

i've done both. and enjoyed both.

depends upon who i am at the moment...

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fcryan
limerick, Limerick Ireland

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 6:02 PM CST

just looking at the responsess and its great to see that there are still people with strog ethics on this subject, again i wont judge anyone on what is right for them, i just feel that its not worth doing with all that can go wrong, i mean that theese days you could be risking your life not just your mind. oh dear i,m going all deep again lol.

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nwnstar
Conway USA

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 6:22 PM CST

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just looking at the responsess and its great to see that there are still people with strog ethics on this subject, again i wont judge anyone on what is right for them, i just feel that its not worth doing with all that can go wrong, i mean that theese days you could be risking your life not just your mind. oh dear i,m going all deep again lol.

i know, i know...bad me.

i'm reformed now, honest.

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fcryan
limerick, Limerick Ireland

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 6:25 PM CST

lmao

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madottati
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 9:06 PM CST

I'd like a serious relationship and I don't like casual sex!
(i'm honest because i'm drunk! LOL)

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Lillyofthevalley
St John's, Newfoundland Canada

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 9:14 PM CST

beyond serious!!!!!

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Illuminate
Kathleen, Georgia USA

Posted: Apr 30, 2006, 9:16 PM CST

It don't go up unless their are feelings attached.

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