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like huggs said, forgive and move on, don't forgive and stay, this is how i feel, when he did that to me? i thought he was just some sick animal, and i saw him like that just a dumb, sick animal and i felt better while telling myself this, onesided love is never easy and it is impossible to reach an end that you want, so moving on is best,imo please don't feel alone

I was cheated on and I was forgiving. I was FOR GIVING her a divorce as fast as I could. No time for that kinda crap.

I use the Bush philosophy. "Fool me once, er, eh, um, well ya aint gonna fool me again"

aww you are always sweet...you always know what to say to bring a smile on to my face

Hey sweetie..How is the weather there...over 100 here..but thank god for the wind we have

Amen brother, i hear you loud and clear on this one, to the curb with you!

that is what friends are for, you do the same, don't change, ever, time for a nap now, see ya'll later maybe, have to leave with such good calm company

sure it is........you may not stay with that person but i have learned from experience that it is no good to hate.....hate eats YOU up on the inside

Possible to forgive, who knows, everyone is different, To forget, it takes a long time, but eventually you have to let it go and focus on your life, otherwise it just eats you up inside. The cheater will have to live with the gult for the rest of their lives, especially if there are children hurt as well. But don't blame yourself whatever you do!!

Pick yourself, brush yourself down and move forward with your life, who knows what's ahead....

A wise philosopher once wrote: "To forgive is divine, but to forget is generally the classic incipient symptom of approaching senility." Or something to that effect.

Wellllllllllllll I caught my first (second one died)husband in bed with my friend My marriage was over within five minutes, I lost 45 pounds and started to drink a lot. I saw signs of my son who was in diapers at the time and decided to do the right thing and not put my son in the middle. I gritted my teeth and beared it. Forget that picture--NO--Forgive absoutely. I cannot hold on to that kind of bitterness for my own sake. My ex turned out to be the best father in the world for it and I will always defend him because I am sure I had a lot to do with it. Young (19) just ever paid him much attention. I just wanted a baby and maybe wejust did what was supposed to be done. Hell , what does anyone know at 19.

I still think you missed your calling Jeff. You should be a therapist or at least our very on C/S therapist.

Never.

Good idea, Arlene! I could get everyone warmed up for a nice long stay in the funny farm...

I never knew how to take you when you first came on here BUT - Now that I see your offbeat humour, I think we could all use a day at YOUR funny farm. You are good for what ails a person.

Yeah, I remember your thinking I was just another pretty face, Arlene. I'm glad you finally came to recognize the demented personality skulking behind it...

it does take time.......it took me 9 long years but i decided he wasnt going to take up anymore of my life , so i let go of all the hate and anger and hurt and i am better for it

if I can't forget, I won't be able to let it go

My dear lady.......... I may never forget some of the relationships I have been in, I assure you, I have let go of each and every one of them..

Oh come on..... Don't you have just a wee bit of that left? WHat if you need it for another..

NO I DONT HATE HIM AND I DONT LOVE HIM.......we are civil to noe another, we spent 22 years together and 2 strong beautiful sons came out of our relationship, so no sir i have no hate in me for him. i wish him all the best , just not with me

I don`t forgive or forget my 34 year old exwife who ran off with a 20 year old now wants to get back with me but i turned down