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So the major problem I have...I am ready to move on to a new relationship, but how do I help my daughter become ready? She is 12 years old and still holds onto hope that her Dad and I will get back together. We both as her parents have made it clear that even though he and I are friends and our focus together is to be the best parents we can be, we cannot ever be together again. Maybe she needs more time. Although our marriage has been over for two years, this just became known to her 6 months ago. She is my number one, but people keep telling me that if I am not happy in life, I cannot be a good parent. I don't know if this is true, I was unhappy in a marriage for a few years and still managed to be a good parent. Although, I think I am a better parent now because I am not focused on my failing marriage. So please parents who have been in the dating game for a time now, give a newbie some great advice! Please only positive comments!!

ohhhh boy these situations are never easy. It has been over two years for you and your EX but honestly its only been 6 months she has been aware of it, it's still fresh in her mind.

I think the problem lays with as much as we dont want another relationship to fail, children don't want to lose another person either. Children will always look as they have two parent a Mum and a Dad to her your new guy is trying to replace her Dad.

At this stage I would probably call on the ex and ask him to talk with her and let her know he is always going to be her Dad but you both need to move on. And never ever let the new partner act like the parent I couldnt stand that when my Mum done that to me and my siblings.


I dont believe there is an easy answer to this situation its one of those day by day scenarios, and the childrens feelings need to come first but you also need to let her know you need to move on with your life.

Its hard and I wish you all the best.

that is an easy task

My ex's daughter was about your daughters age and she hung on to hoping her parents would get back together. There was time that she even tried things to break us up and to her mom and new husband. All we could do was love her and when she did wrong things she got in trouble. But we also gave her understanding about what she was going thru. We talked to her about our relationships, and let her know that the divorce is final and no going back. We just dealt with things, until she finally let go a year or so later. Best advice I have , I hope it helps !