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hi ! hi ! and... hi again !

thanks for joining the thread !...and welcome to our world princess49503 !



BECAUSE YOU'RE ANOTHER PERSON THATS REALLY TALKING GIRL!...

AND GIVING US THINGS TO TALK ABOUT WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU

( INSTEAD OF JUST LOOKING DOWN ON OTHER PEOPLE AND THINKING THAT YOU'RE TOO GOOD TO BARE YOUR SOUL AND REALLY START TALKING TO PEOPLE )!

i love people like you ...because not only are you worth talking to...but there's always lots to talk about... because of the type of people you are !!!



thanks once again for joining the thread to save us from less ' plastic people ' thats got nothing worthwhile to say for themselves !!! !!!

1. tell us about your upbrining ...where were you brought up ? and what were your mother and father like ?

2. were they introverts or extroverts ?

3. where did all the voilence come from ? and when did it start ?

4. how many brothers and sisters did you have ?

my father was;nt a voilent man to his wife ...he never once touch her but felt nothing wrong with kicking you whilst he was voilently beating you for something he felt you did wrong ( he was a huge fat man that weight about 18 stones then ) i was talking to my older sister about this last month reflecting on some of the beatings she got of him when she was 14 years old coming into puberty .



she took the day of sick from school one day and stayed at home by herself whilst both our parents went to work and my brother and myself went to school, anyway the teacher marked her absent that day and eventually told my father who voilently beat ...AND KICKED HER DOWN THE STARS shouting " who was this man somebody told me they saw you with this week ...you took the day of school to have sxe with a man you worthless child "

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PART 2



i'll carry on talking about my father / childhood ~ and the mistakes that was made there later on.

you sound like you've had an interesting eventfull upbringing princess49503,

5.did you like or learn anything from your father ?

6. how can you be be so sure that you would have got on better with your mother ?

7. i was always jealous of how well other kids got on with their fathers when they were kids at school ( even watching kids in my class 'getting a piggybank' ride on their fathers shouders into school would 'touch me '

8.to be fare to the man he did his best to encourage and made sure we all got a decent education ( secondary comprehensive school that ) and offered to keep us through further college or university

IF WE WANTED BECOME SOMEBODY

..but i can't often remember enjoying talking to him laughing and enjoying his company to be honest with you

BECAUSE HE WAS SUCH A SERIOUS MAN !



i wished i was raised by my mothers sister ...my favourite aunty ( she taught me to have confidence in myself and extend myself to people that i wanted to talk to ) ..because i would have developed much faster as a child living with her than living with my reserved parents .

9. so what did you do to ' BREAK LOOSE ' when you turned 18 then ?



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It's hard to say that anything in my life has been a mistake, because everything I have done has brought me to where I am and WHO I am.

And Who I am is a good person because of my mistakes.

But if I had to choose three it would be

1, Following the 'cool' kid & shoplifting when I was about 8 years old

2, Losing control of my will power in relation to bourbon

3, Trying marijuana

I learned -

1, Guilt really does eat you up & honesty is the best policy (I confessed my sin to the store owner & recompensed)

2, All the 'good times' are not worth it when you feel what its like to dry out

3, Two hour 'body stones' are NOT cool!

ANSWERS PART 1.



thanks for joining us ...and welcome to the thread jostaal !..

I'M GLAD ALL THE REAL PEOPLE ARE NOW COMING OUT TO "" TALK ""



lots to talk about there !



1. do you know one of my most embarassing moments as a kid was when i got caught stealing sweets from my local sweet shop (candy shop 10 doors down ) as a kid !



and me and my family are still freinds with the old couple thst use to run that shop even though they retired about 20 years ago ...

BECAUSE HE NEVER TOLD MY DAD !



2. what was your childhood like then ? ..and did you face any peer pressure to do the things that you did ? ...as kids we use to love jumping over garden walls / fences and stealing peoples apples and pears.



we did'nt give a damm about the apples and pears really it was just the thrill of possibility of getting caught that excited us !!



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I grew up in a small town, peer pressure was all we had, either you gave it or you took it! Anyone with an original thought in that town was front page news!!

Unfortunately for me, I was a follower, I believed that if I did what the cool kids were doing then I would be seen as cool too, didn't even stop to think who it would hurt.

Nor did I see that the cool kids weren't so cool.

I personally hated the thrill of getting caught, the guilt was too much, still is, even little white lies haunt me I just can't be dishonest, it's not in my nature.

ANSWERSPART 2

2. what does bourbon taste like ? ...and how did you get addicted to it ?

3. my best freinds an alcoholic ( well so he thinks ...until he realises that his wife, his father, his sister, and myself won't have anything more to do with him if he drinks again after this week thursday )!!!!



but thats a long story !

4.what was your alcoholic days like then ? how did it all start ?..and end up ?

5. and why was trying marijuana such a big mistake for you then ?




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ANSWERS PART 3


10. why was not going into the army at that age such a big mistake then?



11. what do you think you would have gained from it ?..and how do you think you would have coped with the disipline at that age ? ... idon't think i would be able to take superior officers insulting me all the time ' brainwashing me into thinking like a soldier




mind you they say that the army is one of the best places to learn a trade !..so what part of the army were you thinking of signing up to then ?



12. its a pity about that house you lost in 2001 because of your sickness .

i made 4 huge mistakes regarding the property market between 1989 and 1991 which is another story in itself



13. by the way whats thyroid cancer ?



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To answer your question:

1. My father is a quiet reserved man and when I was a kid, had a better, non-violent home for me to live in. I saw him occasionally.
In my mothers home, there was a lot of physical and emotional abuse and I lived in fear most of the time I was there.

I stayed close to my cousin who made his career in the Army and being 16 and 17 years old going into the Army was a pretty good option. I think I would have been ok with the discipline after living in my mothers home, the Army would have been a step up. But, I also had a lot friends and when I was 17 and 18 I was having a blast and decided at the last minute that I wanted to keep partying.
I had always kept my grades up in high school so I was accepted into college and my father offered to pay for it. So I accepted.

Looking back now, I wished I had gone into the Army Reserves and worked for a little bit, just to figure out what I wanted in a career.

My three biggest mistakes:

1. Getting married before I was ready.

2. Not retiring from the military.

3. Not being grounded and just clowning around as a youngster(now I am paying for it).

Just my take on the thread.

welcome to the thread !

1. tell us about what happened when you got married then ?

2.what happened in the military then ? why did you join ? and how did they treat you ? did you get to travel much ?



3. why do you think that you're now paying for clowning around as a youngster ?

hi sillyricky55

i forgot to ask you how you found the training for the mililtary asa young man when you first joined ? and what your family and freinds thought about you joining ?

Alcohol was a big part of my family's lifestyle for as long as I could remember, we had our own bar that was always stocked with beer, wine & bacardi. My parents would often let me have a shandi (beer & lemonade) when they were entertaining, it was an acceptable treat back then, alcohol was not such a bad thing as it is now. It was only natural that I would accept drinking as an everyday thing. So when I was 16 I went to a social evening at my boss's place, he had an array of alcohol there & told me his favourite mix was bourbon & L & P (Lemon & Paeroa, world famous in New Zealand) As I had only ever tried Beer, wine & bacardi, I thought this would be a good time to try something new, and I loved it! It was smooth, didn't burn the throat (as some top shelf spirits can do) & at the time relatively cheap to purchase. With all these factors & my lack of will power (and the fact that I have always done what other people do to look cool), it was a given that I would keep up with the bourbon, didn't take long after that to get addicted..

Trying marajuana was a mistake because of the way it made me feel, I couldn't move for 2 hours, I was fully alert & aware of everything around me but had absolutely no power in my body to make even the slightest movements, couldn't talk, couldn't lift a finger, couldn't even move my eyes! - NEVER will I do that again!

Alcoholic days were fun, I had lotsa friends, had a full social calendar & I had lotsa dents in my car, memory loss, ALWAYS broke!, cant remember the amount of times I was late for work! Really enjoyed waking up in strange places & then trying to find my way home, LOVED misplacing my vehicle every weekend (yes I actually lost my car many times)............. barrell of laughs the whole time (sarcastic undertone included)

Lets just say that because of those days I am very aware of how good my life is now.

I won't say I haven't made any mistakes, cause I have, lots. But I have very few regrets, I either learned something I needed to know from those mistakes, or gained something I wouldn't have otherwise. Like my first marriage, a complete disaster, but I got my daughter out of it, and I would go through the hell again gladly for her.

I like where I am today, and who knows, maybe the long and winding road I took to get here was the only way.

This is a tough question!

I often wish that I would have tried harder to keep my first wife. We really were a great couple. She left because I was drinking, hoping that I would straighten up. Instead, I got mad and started drinking more. That's when I met the douche bag who ended up as my second wife. You see, I got her pregnant and then married her. I tried, and tried, and tried to keep that marriage together, but it was no use.

On the one hand, I regret letting my first wife go. On the other hand, I cannot imagine life without my daughter. Also, douche bag that her mother is....getting sober was a part of that process.

The ancient prophet Isaiah said it this way:

Although the Lord gives you the bread of adversity and the water of affliction, your teachers will be hidden no more; with your own eyes you will see them. Whether you turn to the right or to the left, your ears will hear a voice behind you, saying, "This is the way; walk in it."

The adversity and affliction in our lives are our teachers. People make the same mistakes again, and again, and again because their teachers are hidden from them.

We are all put here to learn a lesson from life, and we will learn that lesson, or we will have to repeat the class again, and again, and again.

So enough of my preaching....just wanted to say that as much as I regret what happened, I realize that it had to happen, for me to be who I am today.

hi diogenes !

where were your 3 mistakes ??? only sounds like one to me !.. and tell us what really wrong instead of preaching !

you forgot to say "hello " jostaal !

ANSWERS PART 1



hi xrated269 !

how nice to have a teenager WITH SOMETHING TO SAY HIMSELF join the thread !




now there's lots to talk about what you've said .... before

'OTHER PEOPLE WITH NOTHING TO SAY FOR THEMSLEVES BUT PLENTY TO SAY ABOUT PEOPLE START COMING IN TO TRY AND RUIN THE THREAD'



we'll all automatically spot who they are because they'll most probally choose to start talking about you " instead of themselves "

1.anyway whats it like being a teenager in viriginia ?

2. is there plenty to do where you live for kids your age ?

3. what do you normally do with yourself everyday ? have you left school or college ? do you work ? study ? or just play ?



i was very lucky when i was 17 years old to get an apprenticeship to train as an electrician for a young black guy because some of the guys i went to school with in my year were'nt so lucky to be offered training ..drifted in and out of work and ended up turning to gamling drugs and crime ! in fact the guy with the biggest personality in the school ( and the biggest dick ) !
got beaten to death about ten years ago breaking into somebodies house trying to steal their video recorder



i found the first 6 months of me leaving school and going into the working enviroment very difficult when it came to relating to what i called at the time " old white men that drank too much tea / spoke nothing but politics / and verbally abused each other everyday " !!

4. THE VIRGINIA POLICE SOUNDS BAD NEWS



do they just pick on you ..or do they pick on everybody ?

5. what the penalty for driving without a drving license where you live ?



6.what you say about relationships and how people try and 'mess you up' with gossip is interesting .....9 times out of 10 its jealousy !

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the mistake i did was.........the day after i got married during breakfast...my wife and i was having true confesion time....she ask me lets get all our sins out...she told me to go first i did she started crying and we never were the same again....what i learn is what ever i do...from now on i'm going to live with it confession is not good for the soul...did our marriage last...i'm here aren't i

1... clicking on this thread
2....reading this thread
3....posting on this thread

What did I learn...................... I need more coffee

PART 3 ANSWERS



" HELLO " JOSTAAL !

don't people SAY HELLO TO PEOPLE they start talking to in new zealand then ?...if not it must be a cold mother mother place !



there's lots to talk here ..but you still havent told me what burbon taste like yet ( i'll still trying to imagine it )! aparently its a popular american drink ..but you never hear anybody asking for it in a bar in the united kingdom ...!

1. what was your parents bar like ? what sort of people use to go there ? was it just a drinking bar or did they use to lay on entertainment ?



2. whats paeroa ?...what does that taste like then ?

3. how long did it take you to get addicted to bourbon and how long were you addicted to it for ?

4. at first smoking marijauna was the best thing that could ever happened to me at the time ! because for the first 32 years of my life i never use to think !...and after i smoke my first joint age 32 ... i started thinking !!



it was a good thing at the time because after a while i started thinking more creatively ..but then after a while it can make you paranoid !..so i eventually decided to give it up !



5.i've given up smoking ..and now i'm thinking of totally giving up alcohol for a year ( apart from maybe light wine with a meal ) i'll tell you the reasons for all of that later !



the dents in your car story sounds funny and reminds me of when i was going through my break up in relationship with my sons mother and kept denting the company cars !

i was a lighting electrician for bbc television news and current affairs at the time and had a boss who ' just simply did'nt understand me '

my boss at the time was like eddie murphy's boss in the film ' beverly hills cop '

he'd shout his ass off at me saying " WHAT THE HELL DO YOU THINK YOU'VE DOING CRASHING ANOTHER FU**ING CAR ..THIS TIME IN THE NEWS GARAGE "

that was one man i could never make laugh ...trust me !



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