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Sorry Gilly, how very rude of me!

Hello

nice story diceman!

but it all depends who yoi confessinig to ?...and what you're confessing about ?..its



sounds to me that you've only made one mistake that you've got the confidence to talk about !

best of luck with your future relationships

" hello " " hello " " hello "

" hello " hello hello " thats what our british policemen use to say to people as they aproach them ..but its all changed now !

by the way you're an interesting person to talk to ... really looking forward to talking to you about the rest of things you mentioned

Hi gilly,

Yes we do say hello here, I was being rude & impatient before, sorry bout that.

My parent's bar was just a personal bar in our house (not a nightclub/pub type thing) but they certainly laid on entertainment quite often. Usually most of the town locals would end up at our place after the pubs had closed on a Friday night to continue with their partying.
Dad would set up his drum kit, mum would get on the piano & someone ALWAYS had a guitar, every now & then others would bring their instruments (trumpets, saxophones & even flutes) & we would party till sunday morning, the bar was always well stocked & would usually go the distance.

Paeroa is a town in NZ, they have a large statue of a bottle of L & P in the main street. Lemon & Paeroa was created there before anyone even knew what a wheel was (well not quite but it was a long time ago) The drink itself is a lemon soda fizz, I can't really compare it to anything else, you'd have to try it for yourself one day.
It's manufactured now by Coca Cola, not sure if it sells internationally.

I was addicted to bourbon for a few years, only took a couple of months to get hooked on the stuff.

I'm much more self controlled these days, tend to limit my alcohol intake, and I avoid bourbon as much as possible.

Bourbon is really just whiskey, i'm sure if you looked hard enough you could get some at your local. Jim Beam was my poison.

Each to their own when it comes to smoking I guess, some people can take it, some cant.... I definitely cant.

Thanks gilly, its nice to have an interesting topic to talk about.

I've posted my reply to part 3 & am heading off to bed now (it's 11.30pm & I have work in the morning) I'll check back tomorrow after work

Bye for now

One big mistake, telling my past partners all my other mistakes.

heys its nice to have the interesting people like you to talk to JOSTAAL!...because

ITS PEOPLE THAT MAKE GOOD CONVERSATION ( NOT THE TOPIC ) !

chat soon !

I appreciate your drive- gilly- to encourage people to talk. You know there are many crappy and childish forums here.

My biggest mistakes (with the benefit of hindsght)

-Not to start traveling when I was much younger (maybe 15)
-To live thinking that I was better than I really was
-No to experience hunger and pain more often than I did


and many more... they are all so big and devastating

i hope you enjoy talking to people on the forums the way that you naturaly talk to each other ..and gain what you want to gain from your conversations with each other as a result of presenting yourselves and talking to each other that way !

PART 4

1. YOUR PARENTS BAR SOUNDS QUITE INTERESTING JOSTAAL

how big was the house then ? was it a license bar ? ...it sounded like a lot of fun to be there !



i wish there were more places like that in london !



tell you what the best time i had was in london about 3 years ago when we use to go to house music party squat raves in what was then known as

' the voice building '

there was a national black newspaper headquarters building in brixton sw central london that was vacated waiting to be demolished when house music squatters took it over for a few months before they eventually got evicted from the building ...but the way they decorated the place and the fantastic illegal rave parties that went on until 10 am the following morning and the illegal places we got invited to to carry on raving until the following day was just amazing !



you had musicans singers magicians poets all kinds interesting people were turning up at these places ( of course you could quite easily pay your money to go to a respectable club ...but who wamted that ) !



thats another big mistake i made in my life ... and that was not getting into these illegal gatherigs earlier




boy did we have some good times there !

a lot of the time i was on cloud 10 because cloud 9 was'nt high enough !



those days are over now because i've been there done it and worn the tea shirt now !... but its nice to socialise at nice chill out places where people areplaying musical intruments or expressing themselves in an unusual or creative way !



2. your parents sounded like fun people to hang out with ..were they fun ?

3. did you play any musical instruments or were you just there to drink all the booze ?



4. what were the people like that attended your parents bar then ?

5. whats the difference between new zealanders and austrialians when it comes to socialising then ?

6. you say bourbon taste like whisky ..is it like jack daniels then ?



END OF PART 4

Good afternoon gilly

Lots to talk about here.........

The bar was nice, dad built it himself, it took up a whole corner of our family room. Not licensed at all, no one cared about liquor laws back in the 70's & 80's and dad never sold alcohol to anyone, he just stocked the bar & people came to drink. There were many people that would buy more booze throughout the week & drop it off at our place in preparation for the next weekend.

The house was a 5 bedroom homestead, it was the first house to be built in our street & when it was brand new it was surrounded by farm land. When we moved into the house it was on a half acre section, dad later subdivided & sold 1/4 of an acre leaving us with a 1/4 acre section also (still quite large by today's standards) The rear of the section was bordered by a creek & 100 year old macrocarpa trees which we used to tie good strong ropes on & swing like Tarzan across the creek, all the neighbourhood kids would be in our back yard during the summer months.

My parents were fun, everyone who came to our house called them Ma & Pa, they were like parents to the whole town, that was in the good old days, when people respected their community, our doors were never locked & we would often wake up in the morning & find people sleeping on the couch or on the lounge floor, it was common place for our family, mum would wake up about 6am most mornings, count the bodies in the house & start cooking breakfast for all of them, they would wake, sit at the breakfast table, eat & leave to do their days work or whatever. I grew up thinking that was the way life was & everyone did it.

I played trumpet when I was young but soon lost interest when I found out about cigarettes, booze, cars & girls

People of all types would come to our house, we didn't discriminate, if they wanted to join in & they respected everybody in the room then they were more than welcome.

Yeah Jack Daniels is very similar to Jim Beam, both very smooth drinks.

That's part 4, I'm off to pick up my daughter from Netball, bbs

hi jostaal !how interesting !



lots to talk about there later on today



in PART 5

PART 5

WOW !

YOUR PARENTS HOUSE SOUNDED LIKE THE PLACE TO BE BACK IN THOSE DAYS !



1.and its nice how everybody came round during the week to drop the booze of ready for the weekend !...what a great sense of community !



2. my parents were'nt like that ..we had a party once in a blue moon ...but my aunty was though ..you'd always find people round at her place

MY AUNTIE WAS A GREAT SOCIALITE ALWAYS ARRANGING REGGAE PARTIES ( SHABEANS) AND REGGAE COACH TRIP PARTIES GOING ALL OVER THE PLACE

...but my parents were the opposite ..and was continiually critisng her for her lifestyle !...even though she was the one that socially kepted all the family together!!!



3.what's a ' homestead ' house then ?

4.YOUR PARENTS HOUSE ON SUCH A PLOT OF LAND WITH THAT CREEK
SOUNDS LIKE A DREAM

5. what are macrocarpa trees then ?

6. all this 'tarzan swinging from a tree' stuff sounds great to me

END OF PART 5 ..BE BACK SOON

PART 6




7.your childhood sounds great !... a dream house in a dream location with the dream people around you !...boy i wish i had that jostaal !



its also great to be able to go to sleep without having to lock your front door

IT LOOKS LIKE YOUR PARENTS TAUGHT YOU HOW TO POSIVETIVELY EXTEND YOURSELF TOWARDS PEOPLE !

whilst i grew up with an inferiority complex !..which took ages to rid off.

8. were you any good at sports as a kid ? because another big mistake of mine was not pursuing boxing from a young age , my cousin who's 3 years younger than me went on to become a united kingdom boxing champion



9. i was good at judo and got as far as yellow belt ..but never pursued it !

10. i could never work out why anybody would want to play the trumpet ...thats a horrible instrument ( making all that racket in peoples ears )!



my eldelst brother use to play that ... and drove everybody in the house crazy with it ?



but at lease he became good at it andbecame part of a jazz band ! ...he was proud the night that he played at the famous ronnie scotts jazz club !

11. so what music social scene did you decide to step out into then when you started getting into cigerettes, girls and cars ?



12 . could you dance ?

13. did you try to become

A. a hippy ?

B. a teddy boy ?

C. a skinhead ?

D. a mod ?

E. hells angel ?



14. what sort of places did you use to hang out when all this drinking away from home started then ?

END OF PART 6

Response to part 5

Afternoon gilly

Sorry I was too busy to write yesterday.

Yeah, our house was party central alright! But it was more than that, it was a safe haven for lost souls.

A homestead is a big old house, kinda like the main house on a farm, our house was prolly twice as big as todays standard houses.
Big ol porch out the front (even had a swing seat on it), white picket fence, the whole enchalada.......

In many ways I miss that old house.

Macrocarpa trees are indigenous NZ trees that grow to around 100 meters tall.

Good for swinging from & climbing

End of part 5

Hi again, back for part 6

I wasn't very good at sport, I was more the 'academic' type, strong on smarts but lacking in skill.

I did play hockey for a few years, I liked it but was never going to join the national team

Always wanted to do martial arts but never had the discipline & didnt believe that the sport would discipline me along the way.

Started smoking at an early age (peer pressure again) and hung out with a bad crowd, a few of my friends were stealing cars before they were able to drive (I never actually got involved with the auto theft) but I did enjoy learning from them what made cars tick.

Developed a love of Holdens at an early age (Australian made car to rival Ford) These days running Chevy engines under the GM logo, Holdens are more closely associated with Pontiac in America & Opel in european countries.

My second car was a Holden HJ Kingswood ute with a 186 straight 6 engine & Crager mag wheels (real steel ones too, not the alloy kind that you get today) and man that thing could go! My sister's boyfriend had a later model Holden Ute with a 253 V8 in it, and although he could beat me on take off, on a flying run we would be even, in fact one time on a 1 mile drag I almost beat him.

So what I became was known as a 'rev head' people saw me as nothing but some jerk who only loves 1 thing better than his car & that was himself!
But they were wrong............ I loved my car more than myself!

Could I dance? Yeah I guess so, not that it was cool to do that in my group, we would either race or just sit on the hood of our cars in the street & talk about racing.

But when I was younger, before I liked cars, man I could boogie! My brother used to run a mobile disco in the 70's & I would be his roadie, free entry to each gig, free food & drink & I practiced all the latest moves when my bro would run his playlist before the doors opened. My mates thought I was cool, (which, of course, I was )

The drinking would usually take place at mates houses or parties in the area, never liked the pubs, too much trouble with bouncers, cops & money! Picking up a hip flask or 2 at the bottle store was far cheaper & more to my liking.

End part 6.........

honey, people do not need to know everything. It's in the past for a reason and should stay there.

1. Never marry a jealous man
2. Dogs are there for you when some men aren't
3. The dog is the better companion

Actually, 2 & 3 aren't mistakes. I got rid of the husband and kept the dog. Good trade.

got involved with wrong crowd[mexican mafia]
got too much into drugs
almost paid with my life.