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I am not profound at all (taking what is just understood by that) but I must say that I have always noticed (from experience, books, etc) that profound people do not have better chances to find a good love than shallow lads. I think that has nothing to do with finding the perfect match but with the simple fact that the foundations of love can not go with an unquiet mind that always breaks new trails of thoughts. Dunno.
Profound people are not then better equipped or less flawed for love than other people. It seems.

NO they aren't because the key word is people...they are human beings just like the rest of us...NOT gods....so they make the same mistakes....

True, but it also rounds up the idea that love or the success of it can not be controlled by mental power, better thoughts, acts guided by previous experience etc. It seems that the inner storms each of us has have different laws under which they exist. They live in our minds but our minds even if they are well equipped can not control them at all.

No joke!!!

many years ago I worked in a hospital,, with a bunch of well educated people.. and i learned from these people that their lives were screwed up worse than mine...

I was so amazed.

No it can't for the simple reason that there are always 2 people involved...each person is an individual with their own inner storms going on....so no matter how many positive thoughts or acts one person may do....no two people are alike...and nobody can control anothers actions....it takes 2 to love and that's the hardest part...is to find another who loves just as much as you do....this coupled with human mistakes....makes success all that much harder in a relationship!!!!!!!!!!!

Perhaps we try to make the concept of love too complex in our minds? Mayhap it truly is simple and simply just is?

It gets complicated because of the mutual expectations. They are always too many and too unrealistic

Exactly my point ..................... so perhaps we need to change our perspective - look at it through a different viewpoint then we've done in the past?

But love grows in our minds -most of the time- as a promising panacea for most of our tribulations and hype shit. Without that factor love would lose lots of its strength.

If you know love---go with the flow , without expectation or control

You have control over your mind ....... you can change or alter your perspective and you make the choice to either simply like someone or fall in love with someone. I think the less expectations we have of another - the less disappointments we'll also have.

What I'm trying to say is simply just enjoy the person for who they are ........ if love develops then you've been blessed with that rare connection of the spirit/mind and soul.

The more you learn, the more you realize how little you actually know.
Hence the deep, trouble minds educated people have
And twisting them in all directions is so easy, especially when one is always looking for answers.

It always sounds good. I mean optimism and good desires. Though who controls his/her own mind? I do not think there is one person like that.

Well I think it takes effort and practice ......... I definitely believe it can be done (doesn't mean that we don't have moments of weakness) but I believe that the mind is an unlimited resource which we truly don't understand. I think its a matter of seeking out knowledge and wisdom of others who have learned from their own experiences .... what makes them successful? Success follows patterns of behaviour/thoughts/actions ........................ emulate those and see what happens.

Some people are born with that thing of looking for answers. Either a blessing or a terrible damnation, and always with a relative value, the truth is that people like that do not have easy paths. That is of course far from the plain being complicated of childish and heavily confused people (though some of that stuff is always there for the answer-seekers)

A good point. I have got into certain kind of meditation for long time, but I have also noticed that the practice itself takes you away from many wordly things you must have been pushed into by our being social creatures and part of a pack. It can include the kind of love we are discussing here. It might prove (only my speculation) that some people are not programmed to have a good love, therefore to push into that foolishly can only make their necks more wrapped with a bigger load of karma chains

True, some are by defauld bound to keep looking for answers. So, they choose the paths less travelled.
Some others prefer the smooth ones, with plain and clear things.
Ans yes, you also have people that are plain complicated, confused and searching....
Going back to your title...profound people don't have better loves....each of us have the kind of love we're attracting and looking for....better? Better than what? Better that the love of a calm and relaxed person? That's comparing apples with carrots!

I think the stuff of the thread was not originated by any kind of comparison but by this simple observation: Almost nobody presents a profile that looks terribly shallow. Does it mean that some amount of maturity -or somehow intellectual or spiritual depth or something that smells like that- is a good prospect for a potential partner?

The key to a great relationship is the matching....either you have depth of thought or not, if the couple match in the way they see the world and expect things, you'll whitness the happiest couple and ever lasting relationship.
Being deep doesn't make you doomed in finding a great love.....you just need to find another depth matching yours ....and voila!

Two lofty depths can make up a huge abyss to vanish without trace.