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So many of us have been hurt, some of us many times, we get lied to and played with, used and discarded.
Are we looking for the right things, The right signs?

Do you really want what you think you want?

Heres what I mean.
Everyone knows the old saying.. you attract more flies with honey than with vinegar.
people looking for a mate know this also so they can put on such a sweet act-- for a while. and it seems so many fall for the act.. because it is so easy to fall for the one that says just the words we want to hear.

But consider. Do you really give it enough time to see if this sweetness it just and act, just a well thought out plow to capture you..
Really.. isn't that what usually gets you interested in someone to start with.
And then after the relationship got serious, did it fall apart and seem like you were with a stranger.

this person is a painted heart, and the paint soon fades or chips away.

now try looking at the Unpainted heart.
the person that is real, not just putting on a well practiced show, one that is sincere and realistic. The one that will always be caring and honest and not just constantly on a hunt for the words that you want to hear.

almost any flower attracts bees...
the common old weed, a dandelion, is always there, the hardest and harshest of weather has no affect on it,, you can tromp on it, burn it, cut it down or a million other drastic measures.
But it always stays firm.. bounces right back.

but take the scent and beauty of a rode.. just how strong will it hold up?
One good hail storm, flood, or even just a stiff wind and it is gone.
it is so hard and so much effort to keep it healthy and alive.

my point is.. just because something looks good and sounds good.
it very well may not hold up to the test, to the hard times.

What have you been overlooking?
Even a mocking bird has many beautiful songs....... they are just copies and none are truly its own.

Been looking for my gem amongst a lot of rocks ........ takes a little rubbing to discover if its real or not. True gems are rare and hard to come by - but well worth the time and effort - I'm a patient woman.

That's a very good point Ras.. sometimes it's so hard to tell.

But often plain as day.
But it works because so many want to feel good instantly.

Howdy mis C

You mean those gem rings in the quarter machine at wal-mart arent real??

Been doing a lot of heavy breathing and rubbing and nope - haven't found one real one yet!

But cubic zirconium is very popular these days

I think most people here just want to play.

They like to use the internet to pretend that they have a love life.

Therefore, they choose the sweet, playful flirty ones.

And why not, because in the long run, it's a fantasy that takes little effort and will never involve reality.



No reason to choose vinegar if the honey is free and always available

For many yes,
But a lot do want to meet in RL.

So then is is best to fall in love with a fantasy just to fall.

I guess it takes a little caution and a little trust in your gut feeling with
sincerity towards the relation which to be the way to a start in one's search.

It s a beautifully written post Ras !!

Its true many a times things and people dont appear the way they are .. whether they will stand the test depends on if they are willing to take the test in the first place. I guess to be with a particular someone looking towards a long term relation calls for being forgiving and forgetful when needed. This is what i bear in mind.

I'll take the sincere unpainted heart any day thank you...I would rather have someone who can be in it for the long haul and is sincere about who they are...than someone who puts on an act to get me interested that fades in a hurry......I like to know I am falling for the real person...not a bunch of words and actions designed just to attract someone....only to be disappointed later on...when I don't really know the person at all and if I had known the real person...never would have dated them in the first place!!!!!!!!!!!!!

uhoh .. i meant " which is to be the way to a start "

Words of wisdom, Rasgumby. most of us came here to find an unpainted heart, and make friends.
Thank you for this great post.

that's why, I may seem a little rough around the edges. But I don't present myself as anything other than what I am.

I don't try to sugar coat anything, or anything about me. What you see is what you get!!

Hi Ship !

now a days people are in a rush to a relationship

later they find they hav choosen the wrong one

if they took their time to get to now each other beter before being involved, there wiill not be so many broken hearts

True words, great advice.

Beautiful post, Rasgumby!

My heart is Unpainted. Would anyone like it?

Sometimes, one of the person involved is in a hurry to see things settled;that is why the relationship is rotten from the very beginning.
It takes time to know someone, just a little bit.
We all have a life, businesses, studies, children etc...but loneliness leads us towards our computers and we forget time, how to behave . we are transposed into virtual land and do and say things that are not from our true self.