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ruhere4me
Coon Rapids USA

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 12:38 PM CST

Another thread gave me this question
why does it seem like we don't get it until its is over.
in my last relationship I had, I thought that it was all good and then one day when she left and told me I just don't get it !
well I still don't get it

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RedHeadedTaurus
Here, Michigan USA

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 12:47 PM CST

Communication is key, in a case like this. She said you "don't get it" ---- get what? Did you ask? Did she tell you?

If you didn't get it then, & you don't get it now, then all I can say is hopefully you've moved on. And when and if your next relationship rolls along, I do hope the two of you have (much) better communication...

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ruhere4me
Coon Rapids USA

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 12:52 PM CST

RedHeadedTaurus wrote:

Communication is key, in a case like this. She said you "don't get it" ---- get what? Did you ask? Did she tell you?

If you didn't get it then, & you don't get it now, then all I can say is hopefully you've moved on. And when and if your next relationship rolls along, I do hope the two of you have (much) better communication...

no. we do not communicate anymore.
I did find some answers in the thread about what would you like to say if you had the chance .
thanks

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 12:54 PM CST

ruhere4me wrote:

Another thread gave me this question
why does it seem like we don't get it until its is over.
in my last relationship I had, I thought that it was all good and then one day when she left and told me I just don't get it !
well I still don't get it

That sounds like a woman who has been communicating something over and over and feels she wasn't being heard!!!!!!!!!

I could be wrong...BUT I know I have made that same statement and that was the case!!!!!!!!!

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dcj22
Somewhere, Minnesota USA

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 12:55 PM CST

RedHeadedTaurus wrote:

Communication is key, in a case like this. She said you "don't get it" ---- get what? Did you ask? Did she tell you?

If you didn't get it then, & you don't get it now, then all I can say is hopefully you've moved on. And when and if your next relationship rolls along, I do hope the two of you have (much) better communication...

What she said.

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ruhere4me
Coon Rapids USA

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 12:59 PM CST

Hugz_n_Kissez wrote:

That sounds like a woman who has been communicating something over and over and feels she wasn't being heard!!!!!!!!!

I could be wrong...BUT I know I have made that same statement and that was the case!!!!!!!!!

I get it. my question to the women here would be you are with the person and you know who and how they are and you stay with that person for a length of time and say the same thing over and over why do you try to change this and at the same time accept it?

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Hugz_n_Kissez
Someplace, Ontario Canada

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 1:02 PM CST

ruhere4me wrote:

I get it. my question to the women here would be you are with the person and you know who and how they are and you stay with that person for a length of time and say the same thing over and over why do you try to change this and at the same time accept it?

It depends what it is....If it's something that is effecting the relationship and my partner wasn't listening to what I have to say and there could be no compromise...then no I wouldn't stay for any length of time...there isn't any point....not to mention frustrating!!!!!!!!!!!

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Zellarrone1
Hull, Humberside, England UK

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 3:09 PM CST

ruhere4me wrote:

Another thread gave me this question
why does it seem like we don't get it until its is over.
in my last relationship I had, I thought that it was all good and then one day when she left and told me I just don't get it !
well I still don't get it

That's because men can't see the wood because the trees are in the way

Men live in oblivion most of the time

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prncss4someone
Hopeful, Michigan USA

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 3:11 PM CST

Zellarrone1 wrote:

That's because men can't see the wood because the trees are in the way

Men live in oblivion most of the time

what she said, except without the pink cloud....

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jampet
wexford, Wexford Ireland

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 3:14 PM CST

Communication is, for me, key. My last relatinship ended because there was just no communication- in the end, even I gave up. You can't get blood from a stone. A closed book just doesn't do it for me, and if someone just doesn't want to 'talk abut it' then, there's no point.
And I don't mean the ' honey , what are you thinking?' kind of communication

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Zellarrone1
Hull, Humberside, England UK

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 3:14 PM CST

prncss4someone wrote:

what she said, except without the pink cloud....

Are you trying to say oblivion isn't an happyplace?

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cristina
Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 3:17 PM CST

Women got the key...men should simply follow her. My male friend said so

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cristina
Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 3:18 PM CST

follow them

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JuleeBeth
Sun Prairie, Wisconsin USA

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 3:24 PM CST

I found out that men just don't hear what you are saying or they hear it differently than you meant it. The whole Mars/Venus thing. Even when I told my ex that I wasn't happy and told him exactly why, he still didn't get it. We did the councelling thing and that helped for about 2 days. He looked at me shocked that there even was a problem. How dense can you be??!! Finally I said, "This isn't what I signed up for!" I packed my bags and never looked back.

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cristina
Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 3:27 PM CST

JuleeBeth wrote:

I found out that men just don't hear what you are saying or they hear it differently than you meant it. The whole Mars/Venus thing. Even when I told my ex that I wasn't happy and told him exactly why, he still didn't get it. We did the councelling thing and that helped for about 2 days. He looked at me shocked that there even was a problem. How dense can you be??!! Finally I said, "This isn't what I signed up for!" I packed my bags and never looked back.

" this isn't what i signed up for"

pitty they don't get it

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arabella
Near Farmington, Maine USA

Posted: Jun 11, 2008, 3:29 PM CST

ruhere4me wrote:

Another thread gave me this question
why does it seem like we don't get it until its is over.
in my last relationship I had, I thought that it was all good and then one day when she left and told me I just don't get it !
well I still don't get it

Next time, ask what it was that you are not "getting"

Then use your manly self to FIX the problem

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ruhere4me
Coon Rapids USA

Posted: Jun 18, 2008, 12:03 AM CST

arabella wrote:

Next time, ask what it was that you are not "getting"

Then use your manly self to FIX the problem

why do women always want you to fix as they seem to call it.
if I was that way when you met me, why cant you accept me for the way I am.

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princess49503
grand rapids, Michigan USA

Posted: Jun 18, 2008, 12:05 AM CST

Hugz_n_Kissez wrote:

That sounds like a woman who has been communicating something over and over and feels she wasn't being heard!!!!!!!!!

I could be wrong...BUT I know I have made that same statement and that was the case!!!!!!!!!

been there

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friendsfirst
Burbank, Illinois USA

Posted: Jun 18, 2008, 12:08 AM CST

princess49503 wrote:

been there

Hi sweetie.

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princess49503
grand rapids, Michigan USA

Posted: Jun 18, 2008, 12:10 AM CST

friendsfirst wrote:

Hi sweetie.

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