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Ok so you've F'ed it all up. I't s all your fault (please don't argue on this) but you realize it and you have tried to apologize. Tried to start over again...

You've called a lot, you've texted, you've left messages, you've emailed, you've done everything possible to reach the guy and say sorry and beg forgiveness. In the span of 2 months he's emailed you twice in return......

When do you call it quits on a 2 and a half year amazing relationship? When do you give up?

My heart is saying "NEVER"!!

My brain is saying much more and I might be considered a stalker.... (lol-not really but you get what I mean)

When do you just crawl away and hid in the corner and give up on the best thing in your life?

I've tried every possible means to reach him and nothing......

Rather than put yourself through any more pain....You have told him how you feel and as you said done all you can do.....I think now it's time to just live your life until such time as he decides what he wants and gets in touch with you....I'm sure there is still hurt on both sides...BUT the ball is now in his court and there isn't much more you can do except to wait!!!!!!!!!!

hey hon if he has a cell phone, leave a texr message, he will get it,
un less he knows its you and dont want to talk to you.

Chalk it up as a lesson learned and move on. If he really wants you back, he knows where to find you.

We ALL take our lumps in lessons learned, they are a bitter pill to swallow. Somehow we get over it

and become just a bit better.

I'd have given up after 2 weeks, never mind 2 months

Usually when people argue and split up they get back together quite quickly. The longer the split goes on then the less chance there is of getting back together.

The truth. He is ignoring you and hoping you go away. Whatever you did it probably wasn't that bad but just the excuse he needed. Stop contacting him. Let it alone. If he has a change of heart he knows where to find you.
I know it hurts but sometimes we have to step away to see the whole picture.
You were comfortable with him but obviously there were ploblems. Remember that silence speaks volumes and his silence is yelling at you. Stop beating yourself up. Good luck.

V.

Enough is enough, when you have to ask yourself 'when is enough, enough'.

I would assume and I hate to say this but he does not have the same feelings as you anymore, it happens and all we can do is move on.


good luck.

The truth. He is ignoring you and hoping you go away. Whatever you did it probably wasn't that bad but just the excuse he needed. Stop contacting him. Let it alone. If he has a change of heart he knows where to find you.
I know it hurts but sometimes we have to step away to see the whole picture.
You were comfortable with him but obviously there were problems. Remember that silence speaks volumes and his silence is yelling at you. Stop beating yourself up. Good luck.

V.

He's heard what you've had to say...now he is taking apparently all the time he needs to decide to respond...or his lack of response is your answer

I believe being with him for two+ years already gives you a good idea of how he would respond in this situation. My hubby and I have also been together in a relationship for 2+ years and we know each other enough to know what the other person is usually thinking.

My daughter shared with me a painful truth when my ex left back in 2004. His leaving was a mutual decision of ours. One day I was agonizing over our breakup after almost 30 years...yes, 30 years together....26+ yrs married, and several years as friends and a 1+ dating...anyway one day I was agonizing and my daughter in all her wisdom of 22 yrs said...Mom, Dad was through with the relationship you both had the day he walked out....ouch , and you know what it took me a long...long...long time to believe what she said cause I kept saying to myself how do you walk away from that much time together and all the tough times our love had survived...but you know what she Loved me enough to be honest with me when I was hurting too much to be honest with myself. I'm not saying your man is gone for good, but if he is....cry like Hell for what seems like forever and then girlfriend, put your "big girl panties on" and go forward in your life...YOU CAN AND WILL SURVIVE...if but just one day...at a time....Heal Yourself and Be the Beautiful Person You Are...Life's not over, just a new Chapter may be opening for you

Peaches JMO of course

Thank you to everyone... I know I know.... you are all right and I consider myself a pathetic piece of...... because I have been hanging on for 2 long bloody months.... torturing myself to call him and listen to his voicemail greeting just to hear his voice.... hoping wishing he would pick up.... I should have realized... no. I know I already realized he didn't want me anymore but... I don't know why I've been a bloody stupid pathetic fool to hold on hoping. It really isn't like me....

I just love him. Yeah I don't think I'll ever use the past tense on that word with him/about him.....

Thank you everyone...... This is so hard....

I'm gonna try to suck it up and move on coz relaly that's all I can do at this junction I think.....

Not Pathetic just Human. Realising it's over is hard. Time to get over it is Hard.

Finally deciding to move on is when it becomes easier.

Yep

To love, is to "risk" not being loved in return..

Go live YOUR life regardless of what other do.

You have kept your side of the street clean, this is not on you..

sorry but i still think buttoning your shirt would be a good plan

That really has nothing to do with the subject at hand.

Yeah, that ole heart could just right out and somebody could step on it all over again

not just..."Jump"

Your not pathetic. You feel and that's a good thing. Don't lose that.

V.

The buttoning your shirt comment was uncalled for. Be you. Always.

Hi there Amanda.
.....I think you need to stop beating yourself up,whats done is done,and perhaps is only time that is needed,
am sure that you and Gil will come up with a solution that works best for the both of you.

My love and lite are with you both at this trying time.
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Cute Italians and black clouds....