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Opinions differ.. I would fancy someone who is modest and a lil shy.

I think I would need to be around someone humorous to bring me out.

Well Danny, I recall been shy like you for a long time, but it's because I was worried about what people think of me. I don't really care about issues like that now because I am older. I think you will eventually come out of your shell when you feel more comfortable with the people in your surroundings, and perhaps also when you feel you are more independent.

I remember I was shy because I just could not bring myself to talk to people. It cost me things. However, the Marine Corps has a way of making one ditch shyness real quickly. When you have to lead men into war and make life or death decisions, you can't be shy. I still have shyness though until I learn you than it is all bets off. I guess I still think you have to learn people in order to get rid of your shyness.
I was kind of shy about these forums, but I am beginning to see that opening up is a blessing. So, just open up and most of all , have an open mind and you will be fine.

Who says the opposite of being 'shy' is being 'naughty'?

You say the strangest things, sometimes.



Anyway, good luck with that.

I am extremely shy,( probably from lack of confidence in myself) but no-one i know would believe it, because , over the years i have learned to get around it, and 'forced' myself to do/ say things i thought i never could( think working in a biker bar knocked it out of me a bit!!)

you could try expsing yourself to situations and talking yourself through it before hand about how you think yu could handle it better, or watch what yu think are confident people( thugh they are posibly shy too!), and see what it is they do that makes you feel they have confidence- then not copy, but emulate them. good luck

Don't think of it as "dating." Just tell yourself that you are going out with a friend. If you are meeting this person after chatting they must like who you are, so relax and enjoy. If you have to, pretend you are the person you want to be. Take an acting class. Go to a pub and just start talking to people. The more comfortable you are in your own skin, the easier talking to people becomes.
Good luck!

I can talk til the cows come home in the forums and emails after that I am shy, I get very quiet. Some insecurities in my ability to say what I would like to. So I write it.

I say.
Your wish for good luck is irrelevant to the subject here.

Not sure who says the stangest things in the forums, me or you,dear.

Shyness can be cute, although of course it is also a handicap. Shyness is basically self-consciousness and possibly a lack of feeling your opinions are worth anything. Shy people should understand they are just as worthy as anyone else, and people are interested in getting to know shy people. Just take it slow, deep breaths and say what you want to. It may feel awkward at first but it gets better as the days pass by and, as they say, success breeds success.