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Ha! knew it would at the least draw your attention but this has come up before and was wondering, just wondering what your take on this is, oh and please try to be nice with your post



I have been a member for less than a year, i came on as a single and am now semi involved, what i mean is i met somebody, no not on this site but that would not matter in this sit. I have heard it asked, why do people come on here if they are not single? well i am one of those ones that needs to answer. Since this is online there are no guarantees with online relationships and when somebody meets somebody and they want to start a relationship where does that leave one? well inbetween committed and not committed, to certain points. In the meantime i am not giving up my friends and i see others doing the same, comming here after being either semi involved or even married, would miss out on good friends, like i said online is not in cement you know? what is your take on this?

In your case you are being upfront and honest about your status. To my knowledge you are not the only one on here that is at least semi attached and there are several others who are in even deeper relationships yet they're still here.

To me, it's the people who lie about their status that cause problems. You are clearly not one of those and I personally see no reason why you would have to stop having your friends here. Besides, you make some pretty damn good posts.

I thank you for that, it seems to be a problem when you are upfront at times though but lies only lead to false ends, we both know this. To me people have been asked "why are you on here if you are not single?" IMO only, as long as you don't join some of the threads that say things like "where would you kiss the person above you" or "what would you do to the person above you" etc. then i don't think there should be a problem, but i have been wrong on many occasions, after all the one i am semi involved in started out as a friendship. You are sweet and funny and i thank you for being here, have a nice sunday

Hey Girl, I think it's great that you met some one. I guess I would have to agree with you as internet relationships are not carved in stone. Does not mean it's not real, just that there are more issues to deal with.
But no relationship is carved in stone really. If they were none of us would be here. I do not see any reason why you would have to give up your friends here, or to stop comming to the forums.
Everyone here has at least a small hope of meeting someone, but we all make friends as we wait. You can not be expected to give them up when you meet someone. If you meet someone at work or the store or bar or just anywhere in person, you are not expected to quit talking with your friends. You keep them, let them know you met someone. After all they are your suport with all the ups and downs that come with relationships. And that is another reason to stay with the friends on CS, they are your internet friends with internet suport while your having an internet relationship. Tell me does your friends not on the internet understand how you feel on the internet, most likely not totally, but do your friends on the internet understand? Sure they do! A special relationship, takes special suport and special friends.

I can honestly say the greatest people I have ever met, I've never met! I've only chatted with them, here, on CS! During my involvement with Sharon(however brief) I still checked in to keep in touch with the only people I have become attached to.

CS people are really a great group of people. Even the ones who won't admit that I am always right!!

This is just one of the reasons i missed you so much when you went aka, but i found you! now never go away again

[quote=irishlass45]This is just one of the reasons i missed you so much when you went aka, but i found you! now never go away again[/quote

I aint goin no where!

Always right ship? I do agree with you, why would we keep comming here, even the ones that are semi committed, friends are friends and we are all real no matter weather we talk to each other or not we are all real, like walking into a room and seeing people you know, you just start talking and too welcome the others that have not come into the room yet, more diversity, that is why i love this site so much, that and the mods are tolerant of us for allowing us to be us, cheers to them and cheers to the really good people on here, ship<--->

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that is cool to hear girlfriend

Morning
I have lost count of how many threads I have posted in on this topic.
Sure you must have read some
Anyway...not going to repeat it all just to hear myself talk.

I guess the only opinions that matter would be how you and he feel about it.

staying miffed at you will cure nothing and besides i like your post, that is why i named you dr.ras, now why wouldn't you repeat yourself, i thought you like to hear yourself talk? and yes it is up to us, won't make the mistake of putting up another help needed thread, trust that! and i know too how you feel about distance, to you it is pretty much everything from the start, i did say from the start

Hey honey I am taken and soon to be Married..but i wont give up my friends on here..and to bad if no one likes it

you and he are engaged and we are all happy for you two but you should not have to give up your friends, now if this comes through and we did have a future then i would take what friends i have gotten off of here and email them, that is my stance because i do think he would find it uncomfortable he has made this clear but i won't give up my site, well our site until i have concrete evidence that WE are a THANG. And too i will not participate in the flirt spots, but that is just me,,,,,,,good to see you as always lady jo

Yes he does know i am here and dont mind at all..he does trust me..

but i will not do anything that i couldnt accept from him

I know for me personally, if I end up in a relationship that's going somewhere, then I'll be leaving the site.....but until I'm positive about that I'll still pop in & read up in the forums & occasionally comment. It's not like I'm getting much action here anyway.... At least, not the kind of action I want

But date #3 has come & gone and things are still looking promising, although he begged off coming over for dinner last night because he felt he wouldn't be good company after helping a friend work on his truck all day We may do something today after I get back from making the Father's Day appearance at my parents church (kinda hoping there's no lunch involved so I can get back sooner...lol)

That is why i will be taking my friends with me, i would not want him on a single site after we are committed and he dosen't me, so it is an agreement. You two were made for each other

Hey congrats on that, i am hoping it works for you, and i agree i will be off here to spend this time with him and building a future for us but not until it is concrete.Have fun today

Love ya girl..all the best hun

Great thread!!! I am starting to think maybe I would like to have someone in my life. Shake me PLEASE!

Thanks!!

Hoping to have fun, have no idea what we'll do.

Well, think I should start making my way out the door.