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Reading a couple of threads, has got me thinking about online relationships. There diferent then any other kind of relationship. And fairly new. So what I would like to know is, How does a person know that they have a serious relationship? How do you know when it is exclusive, and time to take your self off the market so to speak?
Generally I would say, either when you both agree, or after you have met. But there are people who would like to meet, but for one reason or another have to wait to meet. If you met a guy/girl face to face, dated and did all the things you would normally do, you pretty much have a good idea as to when it is ok to say sorry I am seeing some one. But being online you are not really seeing them, but feelings can run just as deep. But you know you have not met, and that could change a lot. There are a lot of online relationships I do not understand as it is all pretty new to me.

Hi there
online relationship hmm not sure about that... as we all know u can talk and talk here for months but its not till the person is sitting in front of you that u know its for real and start dating properly... now to continue a realtionship online after you have met and u know there is a connection thats totally different... if you have to wait to meet then i for one would not say i was in a relationship... but thats just me... K x

have to disagree (surprise, surprise).


**But being online you are not really seeing them, but feelings can run just as deep


Personally, I don't think the feelings can run as deep, until you actually meet. I believe that on linme, you become infatuatedwith an image. But until you meet, I don't believe it's love!!

JMO, of course

u put it better than i did ship thanks... K x but agree totally... we all want the perfect relationship and sometimes we read things into words that may not be there... only to be disappointed...

Good one Alex, bluebelle. so you don't think that after an online relationship for months then a meet would warrant a committment? or a semi committment?

The guy i am semi involved with we have been talking since november of last year, we met in april and are supposed to meet again in august and then again in november which will make it one year of conversing, so i will see where this goes before throwing in the towel, also yes words are a very strong way of communicating, they are also cheap, but when you put actions to it it makes you think there just might be something.After all, being in love in the past i consider to be delusional feelings, otherwise i would still be with that somebody, probably didn't make much sense but hey! i try on occasion.I fell for his words before ever seeing him, then when i actually saw him, well i will say the WOW factor was there, and still is but to this day it is still an online relationship,R

Hi R..

no thats not what i said... if your having a online relationship so to speak and u meet and you click and u agree that u click then by all means its a commitment of sorts... sometimes there is a distance problem for a lot of people who want to be together and email is the only way to communicate.. .. but surely by that stage you know if ur committed to each other or not....

thats the problem here, I don't think. Truth is I just dont know what to think. Feelings can run deep, but I think it is also scarry as well, because even with all the feelings a person can have for someone they have only talked to. Then you meet seems there are a lot of what if's?
Personally, I feel attraction plays a big roll in a relationship, but on the flip side I also believe that attraction comes from the inside, not what they look like. But not everyone agrees to that.
I guess I just find online relationships very confusing.

Thank you for clearing that up, i am committed to him as far as not talking to another man seriously on a level of committment other than friendship, that is what we started out as, and still are, and have met only once and it was GOOD, but until the full committment is there? it is still an online semi involvment to me, but that is only my opinion, i also changed my profile to chat/email/penpal just so he knows i am not looking, per say.

R u know by now even only after a short while knowing me that i wasnt being critical in any way am not like that.. i am only drawing on my own experiences.. but i will say its great that the wow factor is there and i hope he feels the same way... it has gone on for quite a while now good for you and i hope it truley works out for you ... am not sure if i could do it... K x

you are not alone in this confusing by any means, trust that! but words get us to where we are in a sit and they should be able to be said to an extent of "just where are we" in a relationship or not, so to ask is always free, words are, but not all of us want the answer so we plod on

The main thing I can tell you is listen to your heart all the time, listen to what it tells you! Ask him questions, if he can't or won't answer them, then It isn't an honest relationship or one that may not end up as close as you would like.

Well i dont think your alone there.. we all find it confusing at some point... i wonder sometimes is it that we want to meet someome and we fall for the words but as said previously actions speak louder... far louder... one small gesture can mean a lot more than words typed...
K

I just wish you both the best, Lass!!

If someone told me that you were being critical? i would call them a liar, maybe not in those words but to the extent that they would get my point, i have known you for a few months now and i can't see you attacking or judging anyone, so you stay your self just the way you are, and you can always ask HIM to cam, i don't know why women don't do this or men for that matter because attraction must be there you would think this is a very important part of the relationship, IMO, huggs to you

I thank you shippy, really i do and i hope it works too, but one thing i know for sure, if it dosen't for whatever reason i know i will not die from it, meltdown? yes but not die from it, won't have another meltdown on here though, will keep it all to myself, thanks guy

thank you

Has always been a pleasure talking to you, so welcome

I recieved an email, about this subject, and it gave me some light.
and if I were to listen to my own advice, and listen to my own heart, I guess I would say If the heart connects, thats what counts. The heart is the stongest organ in the body, and it is the brain for the soul. I have said before, that I believe attraction comes from the inside, One heart attracted to the other when that happens the rest follows.
Jeez the question is how do you know when it is time to say you are commited? Still unsure of this though. But I keep wondering and keep comming up with more questions. Pretty soon I am going to be commited and by my heart!

I believe you have it , real love is two hearts connected!! Everything else is simple if you are both people who respect each other and willing to work out any and all things thrown at you guys.
I think you can have your heart committed to him a bit at a time, when you meet and you know it is right, then it is time to committ your whole heart to him. I think it is safest tho to wait until you know his heart is committed to you also before giving all of yours. It depends how much you two know about each other and how much you really do connect.