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On Sunday an old school friend asked me too her BBQ Birthday party..

I didn't go..

But my eldest son (almost 16) is friends with her daughters.. and he went.



Anyhoooo... that evening.. my son came home and was sick as a dawwwwwg..

I thought it was something he had eaten at the BBQ..


BUT!!!...

My old school friend has just posted pictures up of her Sunday afternoon BDay BBQ...

and on them... there are hoards of 'kids' ... (my son included)... all drinking glasses of wine.. WITH all the adults.

Fgs!!!... No wonder my kids think I'm a bloody square.

Well...at 16 I think it's perfectly ok to have a glass of wine at the table....

but actually, it doesn't really set a good trend does it??....I mean, is alcohol a great habit to develop at 16??...prolly not...you should really wait until you're 50 to become a lush.....

there are parents
and there are PARENTS

I agree.. my sister and I had wine at the table when we were kids.. But I don't frickin agree with an older woman trying to be 'cool' with the local kids by letting them get hammered at her house. (it happens often)

I know of other 'mums' around here that let the local kids hang out and smoke dope WITH them..

I just don't get it.. everyone complains about how the kids are behaving nowadays (here and everywhere)... but what kind of example does that set?

Letting them come around to you house to get stoned at lunchtime.. then go back to school...

HELLO?! to learn what?? ...



It does my bloody head in.

Yeah there.. I agree

One of the things that occurred to me recently.. is that (here).. all the 'parents' that allow their kids to stay out half the night.. drink.. smoke at home.. smoke dope.. etc..

are ALL single parents..

I think they do it.. because it's the EASY option... easier not to argue.. to discipline.. to be BOTHERED.

I'm not knocking single parents.. I flippin well AM one.. but it is a pattern I see here.

I know what you mean...

Thank God my soon to be 18 does not do that..

But yes i know he will drink here and there but i know he is responsible...

Some parents just think its cool to drink and smoke dope with the younger generation...

Not Cool

Since your son went by himself the mother should have told you there was to be wine at the party and if it was alright for him to have some first before giving it. Is that even allowed to give wine to other peoples kids?

It just pisses me off.. I try so hard to keep my kids on the straight and narrow.. We live in a tiny town.. and I feel like I am fighting a lost cause sometimes. I stand out.. because I DON'T agree with letting my kids behave like that.

My kids just think I a boring ole rule maker.. and challenge me on it constantly... 'Well EVERYONE else's mum lets them!!' etc


I don't give a monkey's what EVERYONE else's mum 'Let's them do' ..

I agree.. there is no way I would do ANYTHING with anyone's kids without asking if it was okay first.

I so agree with you...

I have young teen-agers stop me and ask me to go to the liquor store for them

I said HELLOOOOOO do i have fool written on my forehead...

Can also be that the parents want to be 'cool' and 'mates' with the kids.
Bloody silly and iresponsible really, as parents we should be role models for kids not their mates. I allow my 16 yr old to have a half glass of wine when she is with me but wouldnt dream of offering one to any of her friends without their parents consent.

Thats' exactly what I mean.. that's what happens here with sooooooo many of them.

Yeah.. thats it.

and I look like a bloody Hitler.

I took some kids to see there friend in hospital recently.. In the car.. one of them asked me if she could smoke. She is 14!

I said.. 'nope, sorry you can't'...

she said.. 'Oh.. my mum let's me'

I said 'Ahh well that's up to her, but you are 14.. too young to even LEGALLY buy smokes.. and you are not smoking in my car'

I don't mind my 16 year old daughter having the odd drink here and there...as long as she is responsible about it and doesn't get drunk out of her gourde....BUT I would never let any of her friends even have a drink at my house witout their parents permission....and certainly never get any of her friends drunk.....That's just wrong and waaaaaaaayyyyyyyy over-stepping their own parents authority!!!!!!!

Yeah it is..

I just get pissed off that I have to argue the point with my kids over and over.. that this stuff is NOT okay.. they think I'm a bloody dragon when it comes to all this.

anyway... now I'm suitably pissed off.. I'm going out now..

Kids need PARENTS, not buddies! Let them find buddies at school!

Have you talked to this mom today and tell her that she had no right to give your son wine without your permission?

Never give up your principles!!

You are doing the right thing.

Geeeezzzz these people seem totally outrageously cool and tight to me Claire what is your friggin' problem.....? Lighten up!!