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Years ago I met the girl of my dreams, was the closest to a perfect relationship I was ever in,, since things didn't work because she was so home sick (800 miles away), I am thinking that I should never fall in love again, Just wait till she comes back

Those few days are what you are going to base so much on or judge so much upon the future man?

Any guy can be perfect for a short time. you most likely really didn't know who he really was.. since you didn't spend long term with him.

not wise to marry unless sure but just as unwise to hold a guy in judgment of a fantasy that you have dreamed up.

Will make for a very lonely future.

Hi Spicey not sure if you have already said.. I haven't read all the posts..
But why did it end with Mr number 1?

I agree

Ok HERE GOES THE UNPOPULAR me kind of answer...

OK THE FIRST GUY???? no way!? to get in contact with u??? no email?no cell phone???..If not than uhh sure...if u know how to contact him? do it...NO U DO NOT TELL THE NEW GUY!..what is to tell? ur not even talking to the other one yet..much less seeing him...if u do make contact and are unsure still after making that contact with guy #1..THE YES..2 be fair u let new guy know..NOw that said, newer guy deserves a chance if u have let him come this far..obviously he has 'something'...are u a bit commitment phobic?..or do u honestly fear u will be unhappy for a reason that guy no#2 could never fulfill?..OR? od u express what the problem is (if tehre is one) and give 'newer guy' a chance to at least try to fulfill 'it'..UNLESS OF COURSE..it's something he can't change..hehh hmmmmmmmmmm..ok
nuff' said..
Good luck,
Mz.

You and only you would know the answer to this. ask yourself do I love him..Do I want to spend the rest of my life with him.. Do I truley know him..Yes only you will know the answer to this..........Your heart will tell you how you feel. just listen to it......

Hell, I know absolutely nothing about love, nor do I care to. However, I know something about honesty.....you know the answer to your own question

You do know about love that is why you felt so hurt when a relationship does not work out. But I agree honesty is the most important with communication.

its important not to punish the guy that wants to be serious because you have thoughts of another guy in the past. this has happened to me as well. i spent a truly wonderful night with one woman abt a yr back and i still think of her sometimes.

she is in another state (where i used to live). but as i am reminded from someone else wiser than me, 'fantasies are sometimes better left as fantasies - as soon as you make them a reality, they may turn out to become a very negative reality'.

at the very least, when you are feeling depressed, think of that person and how he made you feel, dont think of it as a what-if... just use the memory of how good you felt to make yourself happy. also, remember that maybe that is the reason he entered into your life for a brief time. everything happens for a reason and there is a 'plan' for us all.

:)