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nooooo sweetheart, on the contrary...

the fact that i am a man does not keep me from shedding a tear every once and a while, be it a really touching movie or something that has happened and managed to mave me beyond words----> that's when tears come in.

But those are usually more of **personal tears**, private ones, maybe even some of untold happiness...
...tears that you might never see because they are being shed in a dark movie theater or behind a phone or even behind your back while i am hagging you.
But that is just a tear and you either see it or you don't.
See, judging from personal experience, we might shed a tear or two, but we will not begin to cry on these occasions... at least that's me. And although i never minded being seen with a couple of tears in my eyes, i would always wipe them off when they came, because, that's what you do with tears: You enjoy them for a second and then they get wiped off. You don't parade around in them to show off your sensitive nature.

Using my memory of tears past, i know the difference between shedding a tear and crying. The first happens often for me, the latter is a rare thing. And when it comes, it will usually be in that brief (but longishly felt) silent void engulfed between right after the heart's realisation that you must let go of what you love/are in love with/are used to and before the brain takes over to actually say everything you need to.

For me, that is probably the only time i will actually cry, in silence, for a few minutes... And that person will probably not see me again after that, because we have come full circle...

All joking aside, if you're human, you do cry at times.
If you don't I'd be checking for a reptilian tail or something really quickly.

define crying.

in the american culture crying, for men at least, is looked down upon, you're right though it is dumb not to cry, we're all humans

Good thing I rarely listen to what others think is right.

I'll make up my own mind, not let society dictate.

Probably goes back to caveman times. They just don't think it is the macho thing to do. I have seen from my experience that women connect with a man who shows his tears and wears his heart on his sleeve. Something about an emtional attachment and chemistry. Women are looking for that sincere emtional connection from a man which will say they could trust him because he shows emotion.

Yes...

I admit i havn't read the rest of the responses, just thought i'd post. Tears are just fears with nowhere to go, and we are what we are, same as you, no more no less.

<--- still says cuz they don't want us to know how bigga babies they really are

I'm thinking of simply the literal definition: To utter lamentations; to lament audibly; to express pain, grief, or distress, by weeping and sobbing.

I, myself, cry seldom. I have had to be 'in control' because, though female, I've had to take care of myself and my life completely...life is tough and crying anytime you are struggling doesn't get you anywhere. But I do cry occasionally...usually such episodes are months and months apart and almost always when I am alone because I don't want any witnesses...so in this sense, I may be more like a man. However, as Kid has said above, crying is a human thing...any human being who doesn't ever cry is not expressing a natural human emotion....whatever the cause.

I really admire this kind of thinking.

Awww, you're just buttering me up to see if I'll cry.

Well there is happy crying too....I don't quite understand it...guess it is just being overcome with emotion...

But, I'm not buttering you up....you know that is the kind of thinking I admire...Walt Whitman---rugged individualism...gonna give you guys up north a break and say this kind of thinking--American rugged individualism--doesn't just apply to those below the border...ha ha!! Well, except for escaping the clutches of British Imperialsm...we did it a lot sooner....

I don't cry that much either. I have to be really broken hearted or extremely pissed off to cry, and then it's usually not in front of people I don't know. The last time I cried in front of a bunch of people was at a funeral. If I cry in front of someone it means I really feel close and safe with them. Kinda prefer men to be the same way, I want to know if they share their tears with me it means something, not just something they do with everyone. That's just me though.

nah, its not just you

Even though u met so many wrong types of persons in ur life...don't let the memories abt them make u wear a mask beyond which to suffer continuously in silence. No one asks you to cry in front of those who would feel pity for you ( i myself would better die than do such a thing ), but be sensitive with the ones you truely care abt and if a single tear is ready to flow down ur cheek, don't hide it but be proud of it coz it shows you' ve got there a heart that can beat...and smb might fall in love with the eyes that could bring to life such a beautiful and pure tear

I am glad to know there still are men who talk abt their tears thank you all for posting ( the final conclusion: it's no shame in crying, just like jimbhoy said )

Amen

I know one who cried a little too often, because he loved me. I don't think he even knew my surname, at the time.
My friend's husband cries all the time, as well.

i don't think he didn't know your surname he must have known all the details When being with a beautiful woman, a real man wouldn't act in a different way

as for ur friend's husband....maybe he wants sweets and no one helps him with it

True!



That one is just mad. He runs away from home, and calls from his mum's saying he wants to come back home.
My friend says they don't do it , so, she asked him why he married her. He said " for companionship and doing things together, like shopping."