Have you ever felt alone in a relationship?

StressFree
small city, Kalmar Sweden

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 11:43 AM CST

Aries01 wrote:

Yes I was with a workaholic... being lonely in a relationship is far worse than being alone I reckon....

It's a lot more frustrating..that is for sure....

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jampet
wexford, Wexford Ireland

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 11:44 AM CST

yeah- my marriage was like that- no communication on his part. he didn't believe in 'chat'- more like a lodger than a husband

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Manolito
a strfilled galaxy far faraway, England UK

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 11:44 AM CST

Alan_50501 wrote:

Have you ever been in a relationship where you didnt get much attention from your gf or bf?

i think all of us have gone through that at some point... it is one of the last stages you go through in a relationship, you come to that because of many reasons but once you are there you no longer have excuses: You either fix it (if there is one particular thing you can do about it) or you move on, break up, seek something else. the latter should be the most common i think, because once you get to the point where you feel lonely in your relation, it goes without saying that a few things are wrong in the roots of the whole thing.

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2catchastar
Corning, New York USA

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 11:47 AM CST

Portiea wrote:

You can be with someone day and night, almost, live with them and yet feel alone. Or, there can be someone you hardly ever get to spend time with, maybe because you live far away from each other or you are both very busy, but just knowing that person loves you, you don't feel alone. It is knowing you are loved that makes the difference.

I have to agree 100% it's the knowing they love you makes life easier all the way around.

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KHD100
Edmonton, Alberta Canada

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 11:49 AM CST

Alan_50501 wrote:

Have you ever been in a relationship where you didnt get much attention from your gf or bf?

Married 23 yrs, moved to an isolated area.... very much so.

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StressFree
small city, Kalmar Sweden

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 11:50 AM CST

Portiea wrote:

You can be with someone day and night, almost, live with them and yet feel alone. Or, there can be someone you hardly ever get to spend time with, maybe because you live far away from each other or you are both very busy, but just knowing that person loves you, you don't feel alone. It is knowing you are loved that makes the difference.

I agree...is that okay?

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Portiea
Konstanz, Baden-Wuerttemberg Germany

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 11:52 AM CST

StressFree wrote:

I agree...is that okay?

Only occasionally, don't make a habit of it...

j/k

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StressFree
small city, Kalmar Sweden

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 11:55 AM CST

Portiea wrote:

Only occasionally, don't make a habit of it...

j/k

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cristina
Lisbon, Groningen Netherlands

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 12:01 PM CST

Portiea wrote:

You can be with someone day and night, almost, live with them and yet feel alone. Or, there can be someone you hardly ever get to spend time with, maybe because you live far away from each other or you are both very busy, but just knowing that person loves you, you don't feel alone. It is knowing you are loved that makes the difference.

"you are not alone,
i'm here with you,
though you're far away...
you'll always in my heart"

Michael Jackon

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froggy1
Sandy, Utah USA

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 12:14 PM CST

Alan_50501 wrote:

Have you ever been in a relationship where you didnt get much attention from your gf or bf?

Just got out of a relationship like that. Problem is, I still love him but am trying to move on because I know it is not healthy for me to be with him. I need more out of a relationship than what he is willing to give.

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darlynda
new tazewell, Tennessee USA

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 12:16 PM CST

was married 22 years........the last 12 of it i was alone

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froggy1
Sandy, Utah USA

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 12:17 PM CST

jampet wrote:

yeah- my marriage was like that- no communication on his part. he didn't believe in 'chat'- more like a lodger than a husband

Communications is so critical. If I can't communicate with someone, and it is an ongoing problem, I know it is time to move on.

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SirenLydia
Bury St Edmunds, England UK

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 5:36 PM CST

Alan_50501 wrote:

Have you ever been in a relationship where you didnt get much attention from your gf or bf?

Oh yes, been there, got the divorce papers.

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mbcasey
North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 5:43 PM CST

Dreamer82 wrote:

I've always been alone because I've never had a relationship. I'm 26, and I've yet to have a relationship. Sad, but true.

Dreamer...remember what I told you about my friend who is paraplegic. It took a while for him to find women who will accept him. He was injured when he was 19. He would tell me for a few years that noone wanted him.

He always had a great personality, but withdrew a little after the accident. He decided to become his old self and just go for it. Before you know it, women were very interested. He is now married.

Just go out and say to yourself, I am worthy and someone is out there who will love me. And while you are out there, have fun!!! Send e-mail to women on here you may be interested in. Send flowers...participate more in forums...Hawaii has its own forum also. You have everything to gain, and some lucky woman is out there just waiting for a very thoughtful man like you!!!

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stefonline
Dublin, Dublin Ireland

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 5:52 PM CST

Very

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Ambrose2007
Badger, South Dakota USA

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 6:23 PM CST

Alan_50501 wrote:

Have you ever been in a relationship where you didnt get much attention from your gf or bf?

I occasionally got that feeling when, upon looking in the mirror, my bf wouldn't return my winks...and in bed, it was so stressful - even painful - to attempt to lay my head on my own shoulder, and fail. Talk about feeling rejected!

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mbcasey
North Myrtle Beach, South Carolina USA

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 6:26 PM CST

Ambrose2007 wrote:

I occasionally got that feeling when, upon looking in the mirror, my bf wouldn't return my winks...and in bed, it was so stressful - even painful - to attempt to lay my head on my own shoulder, and fail. Talk about feeling rejected!

I bet your wig will give you some lovin' Jeff....

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soulmateTWS
somewhere, Alabama USA

Posted: Jun 22, 2008, 6:33 PM CST

Alan_50501 wrote:

Have you ever been in a relationship where you didnt get much attention from your gf or bf?

Yep, only it wasn't a boyfriend, it was my (at the time) husband...I tried for 10 years, but it wasn't getting any better. I'd rather be by myself than be stuck in another relationship like that...