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Is what the parents say as they send their children off to summer school as a form of free childcare.
Not even taking the time to fix a decent breakfast before sending the tots off for the day, because the schools feed the kids Breakfast and lunch..But may I point out that it is crap food they are getting!

Others take their kids to the local Y or community center, again for free or very low monthly membership fees,
I worked in the Sturgis community center for 3 yrs and saw this daily.
Children as young as 6 dropped of and left all day, Which was never the intended use of the facility as there are no child care staff.

I have also seen many single Mothers on food stamps giving their children a bag of chips for lunch and send them out to play, never seeing these kids all day till it is time for another useless snack meal.

Actually seen one mother on food stamps take a friend grocery shopping, buy the friend $100 of food in exchange for $50 or less in cash that was then used to buy drugs or alcohol. Then she told her 12 year old son to go steal food so they could eat.. because he was too young to be prosecuted for the theft.

ARE YOU KIDS REALLY YOUR LIFE?
OR ARE THEY JUST SUSTAINING YOU.

this thread is to point out the bad ways of many so called parents.
try to make them see the light and reality.
( not an attack on the honestly GOOD parents!)

Seems people are afraid of the topic?????

But it is a very huge problem these days.

What other horror stories can you share?

My kids are my life...everything I do in this life, all the sacrifices I make on a daily basis, everything I have is for them...they come first in my life in everything...ask anyone who knows me everything I do for my kids...

I would die without my two kids

OK, bump..
I will give another example that we have all heard in the news.

toddler found dead in a closed, locked up car in the heat of day because parent wanted to spend time in a bar.

Susan Smith.. killed her 3 small children by driving her car into a lake leaving all 3 kids inside to die. (intentionally killing them)
Why........ Because her recently ex boyfriend didn't want kids, so she figured if she killed them, he would come back.

But till then, the kids were her life

Do we not care when we see warning signs in these people?

And thats how it should be, The kids will grow up much faster then we realize... then it is time for yourself.

Why harm the kids or teach them by poor example.

Thats me too.

I make a lot of sacrifices (like you, daily) to keep my children's needs before my own.

Some things I do find difficult.. but I try never to feel resentful. Some things are BIG!.. and sometimes it's hard not to feel some resentment, but I would never let them know that or see that.

Tho as I have mentioned on here before, because of the things that happened in my marriage, the children have all had a lot of counselling, (one of them still does) and family counselling, where in the 'Summing up' .. the counsellors would tell me that the children try to dominate me, and often walk over me.

So sometimes (for me at least) I think you can be a little too good at putting them first. I do get a bit 'trampled on' sometimes.

Exactly, that's what I always think. I try to keep in mind that I am raising three more adults (eventually) to 'release' into the world. I'd like them to be good ones.

Maaarnin Ras

I know it happens everywhere.. But I see people here who are NEVER around for their children. The poor kids get draaggged up, No proper food each night.. hand out to go and buy chips (fries) for dinner each night.. no set time to come in.. left to run wild all over the place while the parents are propping up the bar.

I was away with the forces and I didn't see my kids as much as i wanted to when they were growing up. But every minute i spent with them was precious to me and them.

Some people should have a licence before they have kids.

Morning

Raised my son alone and hell yes it was real hard, but we made it.
but he always knew who ruled the house!

he is now 25 and we have a lot of laughs over a lot of the crap he tried to pull.

I spoke to my son a few hours ago...he just got back from being a camp helper for children with disabilities...I was shocked to hear that when asked...most of these children are left home alone during the summer....one girl said that if she dropped the remote for the TV then that was the channel she had to watch until someone came home....she is in a wheelchair and cannot bend over to pick it up or lean close enough to the TV to change the channel....

HOW SAD



*hi Claayer *

Yeah.. thats the problem I have here.. It's usually not me.

OMG!.. that's shocking!!

I meant to say just now too.. we don't have summer school in the UK.. (as far as I know anyway-I've never heard of it here)

I'm not really sure what it is? .... Is it fun stuff? (or am I thinking of daa mooovies?)... or is is SCHOOL.


Hellooo Lynne

Even though they are all grown now (my youngest is 20), my kids and grandkids are still my life...always have been and always will be.
I live in a small town. I taught primary school here for 9 years and then worked for the Juvenile Justice System here for another 9 years, so I could write you a book of the horror stories I have seen children grow up through.
The worse case that comes to mind...I'll call him 'Timmy'. I first met Timmy when he was in a 2nd grade special ed class (not mine). Timmy not only had severe learning disabilities, but he also was diagnosed early in life with what is called 'conduct disorder'. In our building we had a 'mentoring' program whereas if a student was having or creating major difficulties (mainly behavioral) in his classroom, he or she could be sent to another classroom for a period of time with a teacher whom the student seemed to behave better for. For some reason, Timmy 'bonded' with me. So, over the course of the next 4 years I got to know him quite well. And I got to know his 'history' quite well too.
He was born prematurely to 2 drug and alcohol addicted parents, which started him off in life with at least 3 strikes against him. He was farmed back and forth between mom and her live-in boyfriends (which changed frequently), dad and his live-in girlfriends (also changing frequently), grandma (who was also an alcoholic) and her common law husband (who was later convicted of sexually molesting Timmy, his older brother and the neighborhood kids),and God knows who else along with the many foster homes he was in and out of over the years.
So, yeah...Timmy was one of those kids who came to school and ate the free breakfast and free lunch. If he hadn't, I don't think he would have ever gotten a hot meal. And he was also on every other free state and federal program available to him for health care, food stamps, etc. And I don't doubt for a minute that his 'family' didn't use and abuse the system. But hopefully Timmy got some benefit from it.
I lost touch with Timmy for a short time when I left the school district to go to work for the Juvenile Justice System. But not for long. The first time we had him incarcerated, he was in 8th grade. He stole a car and then led police on a long high speed chase before he was finally stopped. He was so wacked out on meth, he spent 12 hours in the hospital before he could be medically cleared to be booked. Timmy spent the next 3 years in and out of our facility on a number of charges including assault on a corrections officer...namely me. He was finally sentenced to 1 year at the Arizona Department of Juvenile Corrections. He didn't fair well there at all. After numerous disciplinary actions and 2 suicide attempts, he was sent to the Arizona State Mental Hospital. Within 2 months, he was sent back to us to finish out the last 5 months of his sentence. The state hospital had petitioned the court to release him stating he was 'not restorable'. Can you imagine? A barely 17 year old kid who has never had a chance in life being labeled 'not restorable'? It tore me up.
And yes...I watched him scream and cuss and rage. I saw him stripped to nothing but a pair of boxers in a holding cell on suicide watch more than once...banging his head against a concrete wall until he was bloody and had to be restrained to keep from hurting himself anymore. I sat with him while he was in 4-point soft restraints and all the while he was cussing at me, making threats, and trying to spit blood at me.
But I also sat with him and held him while he sobbed, telling me he didn't know why he does the things he does, begging for help and forgiveness, and pleading with me to let him come live at my house.
Timmy is 22 years old now and serving a minimum of 20 years in Arizona State Prison for attempted murder.
YES!!!! PARENTS BETTER WAKE THE HELL UP!!!! AND NOW!!!!!

NO FUN AT SUMMER SCHOOL!!!! it is mostly for the kids who need to make up classes so they are not held back a grade...some take it so they can graduate early....

I have heard so many use the BS excuse "you can't even spank your kids in public"

WRONG!!!
you can spank then, in a well controlled manor.........
You just don't BEAT them!

There is a huge difference.

I never wanted to be out of control when I got upset with my kids....
No screaming or yelling and 3 swats..Never more.. no matter why.
CONTROLLED.......

But many parents loose control and go completely insane... well hell yes the cops should be called then and the parent punished!

arrghh.. thats heart breaking..

Read the story about a man in California who kicked, punched and stumped a toddler to death.

Or the in Orlando Fl who used a pressure hose in a car wash on her daughter cause the mother claimed her daughter was throwing a temper tantrum and wanted to cool her down.

Or the man who shook his infant son until he died.

Or the baby who was placed inside a microwave oven.

Or the teenage mother who threw her baby in a trash can like garbage.

Or the mother in my home town of Lanisng, Michigan who threw her baby in the river and claimed her child was stolen out of her grocery store.



I think I'll go hug my two sons and tell them I love them.

Ohhhhh...

I could never send my children away.

My son (12) that has lots of problems. It has been suggested to me a few times (by the SS) that I should send him to a behaviourial boarding school about 200 miles away.

But that's the LAST thing he needs as far as I'm concerned. It would happen over my dead body!