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the truth is that, about me, i've experienced that the best way to overcome a pain steming from a loss of a partenar is to develop another relationship. but the most important is to find someone caring, affectionated, someone full of energy , someone ready to love , more patience and devoted to love before demanding much in return.

Thanks Lagoona, Yeah, its kinda ironic, I never had a sense of humor until I became a Mortician. I guess you need to have it in that kinda work to survive. Thanks for your kind words.

--Max

Thank you djerba! Thanks to everyone who posted. I never would have thought I would get such a big response. Thanks for all of the good advice. You all are truly good and caring friends, even if I dont know any of you personally. Yes, i hope to make some good friends on here. Thanks for Connecting Singles!!

U rock dude...you'll be ok...as you know intimately, death is part of life....we all get there in the end....

Only you can answer that question, you will know in your heart when the time is right. In the meantime, , you have come to a great place to meet & make new friends.

Lost your wife: REALLY? Then why does your profile say that you were never married? If you are lying about being a widower, then I hope all the ladies here on CS pay very close attention!

And to think I was getting ready to send a sympathy card!! For shame!!!

You're right Jackson!!! I just looked at hie profile & according to what he put down he was NEVER MARRIED!!!!

Better come clean with us Max, liars are not appreciated around here

Hey man, listen. I know how you feel. I once dated a girl for 2 years and her father killed her. The funny thing was i really respected this guy too. Anyway long story short man, they make websites like this for guys like me and you. Sometimes i like to think that god is testing us, (my personal beliefs are complicated, but) don't let that get you down, man. I still get attatched to girls but not quite so much, im always thinking oh shit is this girl gonna die on me too? But hey, life happens. Just know that you're not the only cat out there who's lost someone precious, it happens every day to lots of people. Im sure if your wife loved you she would want you to be happy, so if taking a break from dating makes you happier then yes do that, but there's no reason you can't make just friends with girls or even date them if you please, it's a real booster for the confidence. And, don't get me wrong, im a cynical ass-bastard, but its alot better then if she just left you or whatever you know?? she still loves you and wants you to keep living. If anything her spirit will be there to guide you and keep you safe.

Worse case scenario, i'd say speak to a therapist. I didn't do that, so i had to cope with my loss on my own, i had no friends to turn to that really cared that much and so i let myself go sour. Don't make the same mistake I did man, just get out there, hang out with friends. Do something achieving, you'll feel alot better if you start fixing your life up. Me and you, we're like brothers in pain- so if you ever wanna message me just to say whats up go right ahead man talk to me. I know what you're going through, and remember- it's not over till the fat lady sings!!!

Nice Post

You're serious?

He left as soon as this notification was posted. Attention seeker I guess.

I believe it is Jeff. My friend's Husband tried the same thing with me the very NIGHT she died. I was staying on the sofa to answer the phone and the door etc., because he said he could not handle it and then WHAM--he asked me to sleep with him. The fool. I can't believe the words that came out of my mouth.

OMG. I'm sorry to interrupt but that's just horrible!

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Arlene!

Oh, I can believe that would happen. And not to defend it, but I can see why someone suffering from a terrible loss might seek out the palliative of sex. What I cannot see is someone bragging about it, or using a casual term like "hooking up" for such an occasion.

Yes it is, but I knew he was a creep for a long time. I just tolerated him because of her and tod him so.

good for you girl

You are absolutely right Jeff, kind of scary. By the way My friend's husband was at his girlfrind's place when she died and we had a heck of a time finding him. I am not fond of the barfing emotion, but it made me sick.

So, Jackson, thanks for spotting the 'where's Waldo' in Max's story! Looks like he's history now.